Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo: igama eliqondakala kahle

Amagama amaningi angaphandle esilimini sethu asetshenziselwa ngakwesokunene nangakwesobunxele, nakuba izincazelo zawo zihlala zingacacile kubantu abavamile. Ngakho kwenzeka ngezwi elithi "ukukhungatheka", ezinye izazi zengqondo zenza kahle kakhulu, ngisho ngaphandle kokunikeza izincazelo. Ngakho-ke ukukhungatheka?

Incazelo "ukusabela ngokomzwelo ngokomzwelo ekumeni okungalindelekile kwemvelo". Yiqiniso, lena incazelo ejwayelekile kakhulu. Ngaphansi kokumelana kungaqondwa izimo ezihlukahlukene - ukusabela kwabanye abantu, izenzakalo ezingathandeki. Okungukuthi, uma kukhona ukungafani okwehlukile phakathi kokulindela nokuqiniswa futhi umuntu unikeza ukusabela ngokomzwelo kulokhu, lokhu kuphendula kuyobizwa ngokuthi ukukhungatheka. NgesiRashiya, igama elithi "ukudideka" lisondele kuleli gama.

Yiqiniso, ngencazelo kucacile ukuthi lesi simo asijabulisi kakhulu. Ukukhungatheka kwengqondo kuyigama elisetshenziswa njalo, ngoba lihambisana nathi konke ukuphila kwethu. Ihlukaniswa ukukhungatheka kwangaphakathi nangaphandle ngumthombo wezingxabano. Kungaphakathi kungenxa yokuthi umuntu uzibekelele imigomo, futhi akunakwenzeka ukuwafinyelela. Ngokuvamile ukukhungatheka kwenzeka lapho kunesidingo sezifiso nezidingo eziqinile, kanye nezimo ezinamandla. Umuntu uvame ukulahlekelwa, uma lokho okuvame ukukwenza, ngokuzumayo ukuyeka ukusebenza. Futhi, umthombo wokukhungatheka kungaba khona ukutholakala kwanoma yiziphi izinkimbinkimbi, isibonelo, ukwesaba ukukhuluma obala noma ukwesaba ukuxhumana. Khona-ke ngesimo sokuhluleka kufanele ubhekane kaningi futhi hhayi ezimbili. Futhi, ukukhungatheka kwangaphakathi kwengqondo kubhekwa njengomphumela wokuxabana kwangaphakathi kwemigomo, lapho ukugcwaliseka kwephupho elilodwa kuphazamisa ukugcwaliswa komunye, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi i- dissonance engqondweni.

Ukukhungatheka kwangaphandle ekukhungweni kwengqondo kungukudideka okubangelwa yizinto ezingaphezu komuntu ngamunye. Okusho ukuthi, uma ubanjwe ku-jam traffic - lokhu kungumthombo wokucindezeleka kwangaphandle. Noma, ngokuzumayo, u-boss udinga isabelo ngesibindi, lapho isisebenzi esingaqondi khona nhlobo. Isimo sokuqala sokuthi umuntu onjalo uyozizwa ukukhungatheka. Nakuba kungena ekuhlukumezweni, futhi akuqondisi emthonjeni, okwakubangela ukudideka. Ngakho-ke kukhona izimo zokufunda emphakathini wethu: indoda ihlukumeza umphathi, khona-ke le ndoda ekhaya ihlehla kumkakhe, umfazi ufika ezinganeni, kanti ekugcineni kulesi sigameko sobudlova baba izilwane ezifuywayo. Futhi konke kwaqala ngokukhungatheka komuntu oyedwa.

Lesi simo singabangela ukusabela okuhlukile kubantu abahlukene. Ukukhungatheka kanye nokuzivikela komuntu siqu kuhlobene kanjani? Uma ubukhulu bokuqala bungenani okungenani, lezi zamuva zifakiwe. Indlela yokuqala ayingaziwa kuwo wonke umuntu njengokucindezelwa kwegama. Izimo ezingathandeki zikhohliwe kanjalo, kodwa qhubeka uhlala ungenalwazi futhi uphazamise umuntu. Ukuhlukunyezwa "ukubuyela" komuntu kwisigaba sokuqala sokuthuthukiswa, okubuye kwenzeke ukuthi kuyasabela ekukhungathekeni. Futhi indlela yesithathu evamile yokuvikelwa - ukudluliselwa, yilokho obonile ngaphezulu - lapho umuntu echitha ithemba lakhe kuzihlobo (hhayi nje kuphela).

Yiqiniso, ngokwezinga elithile ukukhungatheka kuyinto evamile futhi kusenza sikwazi ukuthuthuka ngokwethu, kodwa uma ihudula isikhathi eside, umphumela wokucindezeleka njalo ungaphazamisa impilo. Ngokuvamile, izifo ezihambisana nokukhungatheka zenzeka phakathi kwabaphathi bezinga eliphakathi. Umsebenzi wabo unomthwalo wemfanelo ngokwanele, ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele baphendule ezikhulu zezinga eliphezulu. Yiqiniso, kunezici ezihlukene zomphendvulo, futhi isivinini singanqotshwa, kodwa lokhu kudinga isikhathi esengeziwe nemizamo. Uma umuntu efunda ukuxazulula inkinga, esikhathini esizayo kungenzeka kube khona ukudideka. Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kuqondwa ngokunembile njengendlela yokusabela kunzima ukunqoba, ngakho-ke uma umuntu ehlangana nomsebenzi onzima kodwa ongenakuqhathaniswa kusukela ekubukeni kwamakhono, lokhu ngeke kube ukukhungatheka.