Inkinga yokulashwa okungacatshangwa kwegama: izimpikiswano ezivela ezincwadini nasekuphileni

"Kucacile" ... Liyizwi nje elisho ukuthi isimo sezulu sihle emgwaqweni noma sithi umuntu uyaqonda ukuthi umkhulumeli wakhe ukhuluma ngani. Ngokuvamile noma ubani ozovela nomqondo wokuthi ungaba umbulali wangempela. Lena yinkinga enkulu yokwelapha okungacatshangwa kwegama. Izimpikiswano ezingase ziqinisekise ukuthi kube khona inselelo enzima, kunzima ukubala.

Qaphela - izwi!

Imisebenzi yezincwadi zakudala, izinkondlo, amazwi kanye nezincwadi zanamuhla zivame ukuphakamisa inkinga yokuphathwa kabi kwegama.

Ukuze kucaciswe, kubalulekile ukunikeza isibonelo esivela kumbhalo ka S. Lvov. Ukhuluma ngowesifazane omele ukulimala, ewela esigcawini edolobheni. Ukuze uthole usizo lokuqala, waya esibhedlela esiseduze. Uthunyelwa ehhovisi likadokotela ohlinzayo kusukela ekamelweni lokungenisa, kodwa udokotela wathi iziguli ngeke zivunyelwe kuze kube sekupheleni kwesigamu sehora, futhi ngokungakhethi kuthiwa: "Shiya ihhovisi." Owesifazane waphuma waya emgodini waqala ukukhala izinyembezi.

Ekuboneni kuqala kubonakala sengathi akukho okwenzekile, kodwa ukungahambisani nokungakhethi kwenza owesifazane wazizwa engenalutho. Udokotela wakhuluma naye njengokungathi wayengumuntu phambi kwakhe, kodwa isisulu esicasulayo, lapho umyalelo owomile kakhulu, kunokuba ubambe iqhaza komuntu, kwakwanele.

Mhlawumbe akazange aqaphele ukuthi wenza kabi, kodwa lokhu kuyinkinga yokuphathwa kabi kwegama. Izingxabano ezivela ezincwadini azizikhukhumezi emsebenzini kaTurgenev Obaba nobaba. U-Eugene Bazarov wayehlale ehlambalaza abantu ayezohlangana nabo. Kubonakala sengathi ukhuluma iqiniso ngale ndoda, kodwa indlela ayeyiveza ngayo yashiya ukuhlambalazwa nokuhlukunyezwa ezinhliziyweni zabathintana naye.

Silence igolide

Akumangalisi ukuthi abantu bathi: "Leli lizwi isiliva, futhi ukuthula kuyigugu." Futhi makube ngcono futhi ungakhulumi kangcono kunokushiya isilonda esiphunga. Inkinga yokwelashwa okungacatshangwa kwegama kwabonakala ngisho nasezindabeni:

• Kusukela egameni insindiso, evela kuye nokubhujiswa.
• Landela isinkwa sekuseni kanye nezwi ngokubuyisela.
• Izwi elingaphezu komcibisholo libuhlungu.
• Akudingeki wesabe ummese, kodwa ngezwi.
• Ukubamba inyoni, bamnika ukudla ukudukisa umuntu, unikwa amagama.
• Lokhu akukwazi ukuguqulwa.
• Okushiwo ngokuphangazela, njengokudubula ngaphandle kwenhloso, kungaphuthelwa, kodwa kungabulala.

Lezi zindaba ziyingxenye encane yalokho abantu abakutholile ngaphezu kwamakhulu eminyaka. Njengoba wazi, izaga nezisho aziveli ndawo. Zibonakaliso zomuntu siqu. Ngakho-ke, kungashiwo ngokuphepha ukuthi ukwelashwa okubhekwa kabi ngendaba kuyisenzakalo esivame ukuhlangana ngaso kwansuku zonke.

Ukuphila kwansuku zonke

Akunakwenzeka ukubikezela kusengaphambili ukuthi nini futhi kuphi lapho kuzodingeka khona ukuthola "ukushaywa komlomo ebusweni". Ekuphileni, inkinga yokwelashwa okungacatshangwa kwezwi kwenzeka kaningi kangangokuba kakade kuthathwa kalula. Ngokuphindwe kaningi futhi hhayi kabili ukuphutha lapho udayela inombolo, umuntu angazwa ukucasuka: "Akunjalo lapha!" Noma "Bheka ukuthi uthayipha!". Bamba, kodwa impango.

Kungabangela ubuhlungu nje kuphela, kepha futhi igama eliphonswe ngengozi. Inkinga yokuphathwa kabi kwegama (izingxabano ezivela empilweni) ayidluli muntu.

Isibonelo, isenzakalo esisodwa esenzeke nomlobi X ebuntwaneni. Wayengumfana owakhiwe ngokuqinile futhi wabhekana kakhulu nokuhlekwa usulu kwabalingane nabo ekilasini. Kodwa okubi kakhulu kwaqala lapho umgxeki wakhe odumile ebhala iphephandaba ephepheni lendawo, lapho ebiza khona ithalente elincane indoda enamafutha.

Lesi sidlaliso asizange sishiye umlobi X yonke iminyaka yesikole. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama ukumqeda kanjani, konke kwakungenalutho, ngoba isitatimende sakhe sasiyiqiniso futhi singakhohlwa, okuyinto eqinisweni, abalingana nabo ekilasini basebenzise.

Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sekudlule isikhathi esingakanani, le ndaba ngeke ikhohlwe kuze kube sekupheleni kweminyaka esikoleni esonakele izohlala phakade ememori yakho.

Ezempilo

Ezinye zezazi zefilosofi zasendulo zasiqinisekisa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuphatha umuntu hhayi kuphela ngamakhambi, kodwa ngezwi. Phela, isiguli sithande ukukholelwa lokho udokotela wakhe akushoyo, futhi indlela athi ngayo ithinta ngqo indlela yokuphulukisa.

Ukwelashwa okungalungile kwegama (izingxabano zemithi) kungabonakala kulesi sibonelo.

Le ndaba yenzeke komunye wemitholampilo yaseMoscow yokuhlinzwa. Udokotela weza egulini, owayenesifo senhliziyo, futhi watshela ngokugula kwakhe. Wadonsela inhliziyo, wafaka amagagasi amane kuwo futhi wachaza: "Ama-valve akho amathathu awasebenzi, kanti ukusebenza kwesine ku-10% kuphela. Uzofa, ngandlela-thile. " Inhliziyo yesiguli yayima ngemuva kwamahora ambalwa.

Umgomo wesidakamizwa kwakuwukugqugquzela isiguli ukuba ahlinzekwe, ngoba uma engakwenzi, wayezofa, kuphela inkinga yokuphathwa kabi kwegama (izimpendulo ezinikezwe ngenhla) zibonise yonke inkazimulo yayo. Isiguli sasiqonda kuphela ukuthi asiyena umqashi, hhayi ukuthi unethuba lokuthola impilo nokuphila okugcwele.

Inkinga

A. Chekhov, M. Gorky, B. Likhachev - ungakwazi ukubhala ngokungapheli abalobi, emisebenzini yabo ephakamisa inkinga yokuphathwa kabi kwegama. Iziphakamiso ezivela ezincwadini noma ezivela ekuphileni ziye zaqinisekisa ukuthi abantu abanandaba ngalokho abakushoyo.

Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi le mpikiswano yenziwe kangakanani, akuvamile ukuthathwa ngokungathí sina. Umuntu kuphela ozwa isilonda somlomo uyohlale ekhumbula lokhu futhi uzoqhubeka nokuqapha ingxoxo yakhe. Kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu ongaba kahle kakhulu. Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi umuntu "olimale" uzama ngamabomu ukuhlukumeza abanye ukuze bazwe ubuhlungu obufanayo.

Indlela yokubhekana nale nkinga?

Kwakungakaze kube khona, futhi mhlawumbe ngeke kube khona, iseluleko esiwusizo ekuphatheni kahle amagama. Kulo magazini konke kuncike kumuntu, ukukhuliswa kwakhe kanye nezinga lokuthuthukiswa, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ukuthi ujabule kangakanani. Abantu abajabule kaningi bazama 'ukuheha abanye'.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngesikhathi sokuthuthukiswa kwezobuchwepheshe, abantu bakhohlwe ukuthi amagama angabonisa kanjani imizwa yabo. Ikakhulukazi isizukulwane esincane. Ngokusetshenziswa kwamakhamera kagesi, amazwi aqala ukukhohlwa. Ukuxhumana kwesizukulwane esincane kuncike ekumomotheka, ekuphepheni, ezithombeni futhi, njengoba bethi, "memasiki". Ngisho enkampanini enkulu, ifoni ekhona kanye nekhasi elivulekile kwinethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu kuyisici esibalulekile sokuxhumana.

Ngakho-ke, ukuze ususe inkinga, udinga ukuqala ngokwakho. Buka isiko lakho lokukhuluma, ufunde ukukhuluma ngalokho okubaluleke kakhulu, futhi ungesabi ukuveza imizwelo yakho.

Kulula kakhulu ukufihla ngemuva kwesikrini somqapha bese ufaka i-smiley ethile, futhi into eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu okumele uyibonise ikhona empilweni. эмоциями, часто воспринимаются неверно. Futhi amagama angaxhaswa imizwelo efanele avame ukuqondwa kahle. Ngisho nezwi elilula elithi "kucacile" lingaguqula umbulali obulalayo, uma ukhuluma ngomlomo futhi uhlale ungena engxoxweni.