Indlela yokwandisa ukuhlakanipha: izindlela ezilula futhi eziyinkimbinkimbi kodwa zisebenza njalo

Ukuqonda kuqhubeka njengoba sikhula. Ngakho-ke, kunezindlela zokugqugquzela ukwanda kwezinga layo. Kungani ungawasebenzisi?

Ngaphambi kokuphendula umbuzo oyinhloko walesi sihloko, indlela yokwandisa ukuhlakanipha, ake sibheke emaqinisweni afundwayo.

Izazi zengqondo zenze umehluko ekuthuthukiseni ubuhlakani kwabesifazane nabesilisa. Uma okokuqala kuqhubekela phambili ngokuqondile, khona-ke lokhu okulandelayo - kancane kancane nakho konke ukuphila. Akulungile kodwa kuyiqiniso! Ngakho-ke, uma ingqondo ithathwa ukuthuthukisa owesifazane, kufanele azi ukuthi: emva kwesikhathi sokuba ngumuntu omdala, ithuba lokunyusa i-IQ layo liwa kakhulu. Izakhamuzi eziningi zengqondo ziveza lo mbono ngokucacile: emva kweminyaka engu-23-25, owesifazane angakwandisa inani lemininingwane futhi kuphela, akusakwazi ukuthuthukisa amakhono engqondo.

Kukhona nemibono ephikisanayo (ngokuyinhloko ukuthukuthela kwabesifazane besazi sengqondo, okufana nokuphika iqiniso). Kunoma yikuphi, ukuhlakanipha kwakho, okuyinto impumelelo exhomeke kuyo, ukukhetha kwakho impilo kanye nesiphetho ngokujwayelekile, kufanelekile ukwenza yonke imizamo ...

Ngakho-ke, ake sibuyele enkingeni yokukhulisa ukuhlakanipha. Yiziphi izindlela ezaziwa futhi zitholakala kuwo wonke umuntu?

Okokuqala, khumbula umthetho oyinhloko futhi ube yisiqubulo sakho, kungenjalo ngeke kuvele lutho: ukuhlakanipha kuyaqhubeka ngenkathi isetshenziswa! Uma ungakhuli, uhlaziya. Ukuzithuthukisa kufanele kube umgomo wakho, lapho ungenakuveza khona.

Nciphisa ukuhlakanipha kwakho kwimiphumela emibi: imibukiso ye-TV engacabangi, izingxoxo ezingenalutho. Kungcono ukumenze asebenze: kumsebenzi ojulile, iphazili elithakazelisayo, iphazili (ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, iphazili elandelwayo). Yenza okunye okudinga ukusetshenziswa kwengqondo. Isibonelo, ungabhala incwadi yesayense noma yefilosofi. Yini esiseduze kuwe?

Zama ukucabanga emhlabeni wonke, futhi wenze ngokuqondene nesimo sangempela nesifanele. Uma ungakwazi ukuqonda ulwazi, uma ubheka inkinga ngokwengeziwe, ngokuphumelelayo uzoba ibhizinisi.

Yimiphi imigomo ebalulekile okufanele ifinyelelwe, indlela yokwandisa ukuhlakanipha. Ngendlela, bangaba nezibonelo zokucabanga komhlaba (ngekusasa, kwiprojekthi yesikhathi eside).

Yini engenziwa ngasese? Ungakwandisa kanjani ukuhlakanipha kwakho okwamanje?

Ubuchopho kumele buhlale bugcwele umoya-mpilo. Ungamthandi ngalokhu: ukuhamba okuvamile emoyeni omusha, ukushayela izakhiwo kanye nesilinganiso esidingekayo somsebenzi womzimba - izikhathi ezingu-2 imizuzu engu-30 ngesonto ngalinye !!! Ngisho noma ungesiye umsekeli wemfundo engokwenyama, ukuvivinya umzimba, ukuqina, ukhethe umzimba olula kakhulu futhi uwenze. Noma qala ukusebenza. Ungakhetha umdlalo osebenzayo. Yini efana nayo?

Uma ufuna ukukhiqiza ngangokunokwenzeka, funda ukusebenza kwakho kwengqondo: isikhathi sini umsebenzi omkhulu (abantu abaningi - ngo-11 ntambama ntambama, abanye ngehora lesishiyagalolunye ekuseni).

Qinisekisa ukuthuthukisa imemori nokuthuthukisa inkulumo yakho. Yilezi zinqubo ezimbili zengqondo ezihlobene kakhulu nokucabanga namakhono okuqonda. Khetha amasu afanelekayo wokuthuthukisa imemori (hhayi amaphilisi, ngaphandle kwalokho umphumela uzoba mfushane), bese uqala ukufunda okuningi. Ukukhetha amabhuku nomagazini abhalwe ngolimi oludinga imizamo eyengeziwe yokuyiqonda. Leli gama lihlala lithembele kunkulu (lokhu yisibonelo sesenzo sendawo kuhlelo lomhlaba jikelele).

Ukwandisa ukuhlakanipha kuzokusiza kanye nokusebenza kwangaphandle, okuyinto (iphunga, umculo, umbala) ongakwazi ukulawula noma iyiphi inqubo yengqondo nokusebenza. Futhi-ke uqeqesha ukusebenza kuzo zonke izimo: udansa omuhle akukho okuphazamisayo!

Manje usuphethe "amasu ayisisekelo, indlela yokwandisa ukuhlakanipha, qala kancane futhi ungaphazanyiswa emgomweni ohlosiwe, khona-ke umphumela uzokujabulisa, futhi ukuphila kuzothola incazelo ehlukile ...