Impendulo ihlanjalazwa, umbono obonakaliswe ikheli lakho

Isikhathi esining impela, kubonakala kuwe ukuthi izwe ngafanele kuze you nga. Emphakathini uzwa ukuthuka, ukuthukana, luhlaza, okuyinto ngezinye izikhathi wayeveza ezungeze wena. Kuba ngempela badabuka kakhulu nokuboniswa ibhalansi ezingokwengqondo, bazizwa ezolile ngakho, kwezinye izimo ongalifinyelela. Kuyini ukuhlazeka ngamazwi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuthi usabela kanjani ukuthuka, uma kumayelana wena siqu? Abaningi bayokuthi ukwazi ngakho.

Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubalulekile ukuba baphendule kulokho kuhlasela? Kungcono ukuba ucabange indlela aphendule ukuthuka, futhi umane indiva khona ngendoda wavuma nifunge ikheli lakho. Ukukhetha amaqhinga yokuziphatha, ngeke nje kuphela ukulondoloza yakho nokuthula kwengqondo, kodwa futhi ukuphoqa ukuba osonile cabanga ukusho izwi ngoba ungaphenduli kulo ukuba luhlaza mutual.

Ngokuvamile emhlabeni, ukukhuluma ngendlela liluhlaza, ngakho ufuna ukuqinisa yedwa futhi akhulume azibone emehlweni umphakathi. Kulokhu, ngaphambi kokuphendula begcina, cabanga ngobudlelwane obakhayo Eqinisweni, nokungakhubekisi inhlamba umuzwa isihawu nozwela. Uma ukuphendula luhlata liluhlaza, umhlukumezi kwakho kuzoqala sokuthokoza, njengoba wakwazi ukukuthinta ruffle. Ngezinye izikhathi ngokushesha kangaka wena ngamazwi edelelwa ukuthi ngokuphelele angazi kanjani ukuphendula ukuthuka, nakuba akukuhle ukuba benze kanjalo. Nokho, inani elikhulu labantu, uma kusho okuthile liluhlaza, ngokushesha uqala ukucabanga ukuthi okuziphindiselela. Lokhu akulungile! Kwenza akukho mqondo, "fritter kude". Miss ukweyisa "by indlebe." Uma namanje uye wathinta amagama akhulunywayo, ukuphendula luhlata nge amahlaya, hhayi ukulahlekelwa isithunzi sabo.

Yiqiniso, le ndlela akusho bushelelezi out isimo, kodwa kuyokusiza ukuba ehloniphekayo ukuphuma. Cabanga ukuthi umbono lomuntu akudingeki nhlobo incazelo, ayisekho zama ukuxhumana naye.

Kukhona enye indlela ngendlela ongaphendula ngayo ngenhlonipho ukuba begcina. Ibizwa ngokuthi "Ukucinga".

Uma umphathi wakho, ukuze afeze "umhlangano yokuhlela" iqala ukuphakamisa izwi wena ukuthukana, ukucabanga uma - inhlanzi ukubhukuda elincane i aquarium futhi uzama ukusho okuthile, ukuvula umlomo wakhe, kodwa wena ungezwa lutho futhi 'umoya shaking "engaqondakali ngokuphelele.

Lokhu kuzokuvumela ngemva komhlangano ukuba azethembe futhi singalahlekelwa nemimoya emihle, ngesikhathi ozakwabo zakho bayothola nomphumela ohlukile.

On intukuthelo futhi luhlaza kufanele umomotheke, kodwa ukuze ufunde ukuthi wenze lokhu, udinga ukulungiselela ezithile ngokwengqondo. Ikakhulukazi, uma uzwa izwi elilukhuni kusukela snapper ukuthi angaphendula begcina? Yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukutshela kuye okulandelayo: "Uyisizwe luhlaza lokho futhi uncultured." Ngezinye izikhathi impendulo inikeza imiphumela esheshayo. Abantu nje musa uthole ukuthi into futhi nethuba uphazamisa ingxoxo. indlela okungalungile futhi ungasizi kulokhu - ngokuzwakalayo zisuse amazwi umhlukumezi wakhe. Abanye sebenzisa indlela efana "sloshing emandleni amabi emanzini" ngenkathi ukumemeza amazwi esichaza ibanga yokuthonywa imizwelo engakhi zanqwabelana. Lokhu kulandelwa ukugeza ngamanzi bese uvula kuphela ngendlela enhle.

Ingabe kunengqondo ukuba aphendule ukweyisa abanye? Ngingaba ukushintsha edelela? Mhlawumbe, kodwa bahlakaniphe kakhudlwana ukubavimba zonke izinhlobo oxhumana.