Imithetho yokukhulumisana nabazali. Isiko yokuxhumana nokuziphatha

Ubudlelwano abadala esizukulwaneni esisha ngezinye izikhathi ungeze ubuhlungu ngempela futhi nzima. Ukujula nemininingwane izinkinga ezichazwe ngaphezulu Ivan Turgenev encwadini edumile inoveli "Obaba and Sons." Ukungaqondi ukucasuka, umbono ohlukile ngezinto kanye nokungakwazi ukuyekethisa - nokuthile ababengambeka ezibhekene nemindeni kakhulu ekukhuliseni izingane. Naphezu yinkimbinkimbi isimo, ukusungula oxhumana abantu bomdabu njalo kukhona. Into esemqoka - ukuba abe nesifiso esikhulu ukuzama futhi babiza imbangela esibaluleke kangaka inani lemali wamandla.

Basic "umndeni" ezinkathini

Imithetho yokuxhumana nabazali izingane ukuthuthukisa ehlukile. Okuningi kuxhomeke ekutheni yobudala ingane, izici ubuntu bakhe futhi isitayela imfundo, aphethwe abadala. Odokotela bengqondo ukuhlukanisa esiteji ezine ezibalulekile kumiswa ubuhlobo obunjalo:

• Ukuthembela (kusuka ekuzalweni kuya eminyakeni 11). Ngalesi ubudala, kukhona ngokuvamile akukho izinkinga ezinkulu. Uma abadala abathanda ingane, uphila ukuchitha isikhathi umama nobaba, uyabathanda ukuze ubatshele izindaba zabo.
• Ukuxabana (iminyaka 12-20). Ukuzizwa yindlalifa omdala e yonke imizamo kungqubuzana uyise nonina, efuna inkululeko yabo.
• Independence (iminyaka 21-40). Kubonakala ku inqubo yokukhula, lafinyelela inani eliphakeme labamemezeli e yobudala emaphakathi.
• Nokuncika komunye nomunye. Umuntu omdala futhi ukuthuthela eduze abazali babo, uyazi ukubaluleka kwalesi sibopho.

Kuyinto esigabeni yokugcina izinkinga ezingokwengqondo yokuxhumana phakathi izizukulwane zinyamalale. Indodana noma indodakazi, nezingane zawo ezeve eshumini nambili, jeza ngcosana zesimo sazo sengqondo. Ngakho-ke uba abaqotho ngaphezulu abazali babo.

Izindlela zokukhulumisana emkhayeni

Bona ngqo kanjani ingane kanye nobuhlobo akhe kubazali bakhe:

1. Kobushiqela. Luhilela eqinile ukuphathwa kanye ukucindezelwa imizamo umntwana. Yena noma umonyukela yena, noma abavukela lesizukulwane esidala.
2. Liberal-ukuyekelela. Lokhu kuxhumana ku ukuyekelela isimiso. Indodana noma indodakazi ayisekho nibhekane ngokubona abazali.
3. Giperopekayuschy. Ingane engaphansi ikhula zobugovu. Yena njalo ufune seluleko omdala, hang kubo izinkinga zabo.
4. Nahlukanisiwe. Isizukulwane esidala akanandaba ukuphila junior. Izingane babe nandaba nabantu engingabazi. Ukuxhumana njengoba enjalo, akukho.
5. Democratic. ubudlelwano Proper isakhiwo emkhayeni, lapho isici evelele kungenzeka ebucayini.

Izitayela yokukhulumisana nabazali ngezinye izingane Ukurhemisa ngesisekelo mikhuba engenhla. Kunoma yikuphi, ukuthi okuningi kuncike endleleni abantu asebebadala: lokho isitayela nobuhlobo sizomisa ekuqaleni kuka ebuntwaneni imvuthu kanye ukuvuna izithelo ezinhle lezi esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.

onobunye

Wonk 'umuntu ufuna ukuba nayo, kodwa hhayi wonke umuntu osebenza i kunzima ngokwanele. Ngokuvamile, zombili - abazali nezingane - ukugxekana nomunye ka intransigence onkom 'idla yodwa. Phonsa bonke khandlu ukuphikiswa, abaqondi: kanye bayayeka ku ezingadingekile "izingalo uhlanga", inkinga eyoxazululwa uqobo. isikhathi esibalulekile ubanjwe on futhi wenze ngithuthuke: ngisho noma ubuhlobo esetshenziswa kwakungezona engcono, angahlala babe seduze ekahle. Enhliziyweni yakhe, u kokubili izizukulwane uzama ukuthola izinto esivumelana ngazo nabantu: ubekwa ezakhini zofuzo.

umndeni Happy - it is a azithandayo ekugcineni zokuxhumana efudumele, bangempela, ukhululekile, futhi ngempumelelo phakathi izizukulwane. It is, ngasendleleni, isekelwe ezimisweni ezine ezibalulekile:

• Ukuqonda imizwa nezisusa nomunye.
• Inhlonipho.
• ukwamukelwa Mutual - ngaphandle ukugxekwa isifiso ukushintsha okuthile kothandekayo.
• Isibopho izenzo namazwi.

Ngokulandela lokhu imithetho elula, ngokuvumelana abezenhlalakahle, ungenza nomndeni wakho wangempela oyisibonelo.

Ukuxhumana kanye nengane abazali

Ngokuvamile kuba ayesinda. Isizathu itholakala isigaba sokuba umuntu omdala indlalifa: azizwa njengomuntu omdala, ezama ukufakazisa ukuthi ukuzimela. Abazali ngokuvamile abaqapheli ukuthi pipsqueak zabo ezincane ezikhulile bese uqhubeke ukuze zilawule imibono yabo, izikhundla kanye izinqumo ukuphoqelela, ukuqapha izingane zonke izenzo zawo nalokho esizama ukukwenza. Indoda noma Owesifazane kufanele asebenzise ikhono lokungacasuli konke okusemandleni: kudingeka baqonde ukuthi umama nobaba, sizithande ngokwengeziwe ozama ukuvikela izinkinga zokuphila ezinzima namaphutha, ngakho liziphathe ngendlela efanele. Imithetho yokuxhumana nabazali kule nkathi kufanele kusekelwe ekulaleleni, kodwa kungenzeka bakwazi ukuxoxa ngalesi simo, ukwabelana imibono kanye nemizamo ezivamile ukuza isinqumo esifanele.

Umthetho main - uthi konke. Kulesi simo, zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi amagama akho kanye nezenzo. Bethembisa ukubuyela ekhaya ngokushesha ngesikhathi 22.00 - ngopha emakhaleni, kodwa beze. Kungenjalo, nokuphelelwa yithemba abadala. Thembeka lesizukulwane esidala, ungangifihleli futhi ungakhohliswa yileyo: kokuba abanolwazi kakhulu, bakwazi sinikeze iseluleko esihle, okuyiwona ku Ngokuzayo uzobona kuphela uthi ngiyabonga. Izingane kufanele zihloniphe abazali - futhi ikakhulukazi kule nkathi.

Izincomo izingane omdala

Uma izinkinga ushintsho ngokuvamile kuphakama ukungaqondi, engu amadala sezizathu kungase kube ukuntuleka isithakazelo nomunye, ukuntuleka banal isikhathi, umehluko ngomhla ubunjalo izinto kanye nezenzo zabantu. Ngakho-ke, abantwana abadala kudingeka niyakwazi ukuxoxa nabazali bazo, ukufeza ukuvumelana oyifunayo ubuhlobo:

1. Cabanga ubaba nomama njengoba benjalo - ngaphandle ukuzikhohlisa. Ziyakwazi abavamile abazihluphekelayo nemibi.
2. Funda ukulalela. Ngisho noma uyayizonda chungechunge, ngesibindi ekujabuleleni kuphindza acoce kulesi siqeshana esilandelayo. umama wakho crazy ngaye, ngakho sibonise ukubekezelelana: akekho owaziyo ukuthi yini uyobheka nawe usugugile.
3. Ithi "ulimi olulodwa". Okungukuthi, zama ulungele yabo esimweni esithile.
4. Ngiyazi ukuthi abazali kudingeka ukuxhumana nawe.

Uma ubona ukuthi ukungqubuzana ngenakugwemeka udliwe. Usuvele bahlakaniphe ngokwanele ukuya lesi senzo esincane: Ngiyavuma nemibono lesizukulwane esidala, zona ngokwazo zikwenza ngendlela yabo. Qhubeka ukuhlonipha uyihlo nonyoko: bona epha you pilo wakhulela - iwukuba ukuthi kudingeka athande nokwamukela zonke sivumelane nazo athule.

ukuhloniphana

Mayelana nakhu okuye kwashiwo okuningi. Manje ake baqonde ngokuningiliziwe lokho empeleni yayo. Odokotela bengqondo isimo: nenhlonipho - lena insika main, ukusekelwa, yini isisekelo okwakhelwa kuso ukwakha ubuhlobo bakho nabazali bakho. Izici yokuxhumana phakathi abantu bobudala obungefani bahluke: intsha uthande ukuxoxa izitayela fashion, amagajethi ethandwa, ebusuku amaqembu, abantu abadala - ezombangazwe nenkolo, amanani imikhiqizo isifo nokuphathelene. Ngokuvamile asifuni ukuzwa mayelana nesimo esinzima sezomnotho ezweni, nsuku zonke sibhekene nalo, ngakho ngesikhathi sakhe sokuphumula, ukuzama ukukhulula ikhanda lakhe kusukela imicabango cheerless. Kodwa uma uyise ufisa ukuxoxa kwamandla emali, ukunakekela ingxoxo. Khumbula ukuthi njengoba ingane wafundisa wena ukugibela ibhayisikili noma ukudoba - manje Ithuba lakho ukujabulisa upapa.

Imithetho yokuxhumana nabazali nazo ukuchayeka yakho lapho abantu asebebadala ufundisa, ukubekezela - esimweni ukugxekwa, equanimity - uma imicabango yabantu kuthiwa iphambene. Yiba nenhlonipho nomusa, ukuhlunga izinkulumo, musa ukwahlulela ngokucophelela futhi ziziphathe yokuzenzisa - izinga zokuxhumana nakho kubalulekile kakhulu inkhulumomphendvulwano nabantu bomdabu.

uthando

Ngezinye izikhathi kuba eyisisekelo kunazo phakathi ingxubevange eminye imizwa futhi emizweni. Musa kuncisha abazali ukuzethemba ukuthi uyazithanda. Believe me, kunzima kakhulu ukuba uqaphele ukuthi ingane yabo ukhule futhi ayisekho abadinga usizo. Dala banenkolelo yokuthi ngempela udinga ukwesekwa yabo: indodakazi bakwazi ukufunda nomama mayelana ukunakekelwa abazukulu noma ukupheka isidlo esisha, indodana unelungelo lokukhalaza uyise uma bexabana nomkakhe kanye ngangena enkingeni emsebenzini. Sweet yingxoxo yobungane ekhululekile ekhaya imvelo uyozizwa lesizukulwane esidala ngothando lwakho lomzwelo olujulile.

Imithetho yokuxhumana nabazali izingane akhiwa kukho konke ukuphila. Kodwa yazi lokhu: akukephuzi kakhulu ukuthatha isinyathelo kuqala. Ngisho noma uyise wayezimisele umashiqela, zama ukuba umxolele. Mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi eside upapa baphenduka, kodwa akashongo lutho ngenxa yokuqhosha. Khuluma naye, ukwanga, ubatshele ukuthi nithanda. Ngokuqinisekile ukumthethelela umoni kunzima, kodwa kuwufanele ngizame. Igqubu izingane, uyozizwa nje ngisahlose wokuba futhi ngaba nokuthula kwengqondo.

Amathiphu abazali

Ngithanda ukufaka isikhalazo kokubili abantu asebebadala. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nalapho wazibonela futhi ukhaliphile, esenziwa ukungabekezelelani, nokuzidla noma isifiso Bayavuma amaphutha aphansi ukuthi ukushayisa zonke indodana noma indodakazi umzamo ukusungula yokukhulumisana. Ukuze ugweme lokhu mkhuba omubi, odokotela bengqondo ukunikeza iseluleko esilandelayo:

• Ungesabi ukushintsha isimo sengqondo ingane esikhungweni enganeni, ukugxila kube sezingeni ezikhulayo bakhe kuqhubeke. Khumbula ngokwami eseyinsizwa: amathuba wena wacabanga futhi wathatha isinyathelo esifanayo.
• Lamukele iqiniso lokuthi indlalifa uye ube ovuthiwe futhi abazimele. Yakha Ubuhlobo ngemibandela alinganayo.
• Misa ukuqapha nokugxeka. Nikeza ingane yakho inkululeko ingasaphathwa ukwenza izinqumo, ngoba iphuzu lakhe siqu umbono. Ungesabi, ukuze aphanjaniswe - lena ngisho ewusizo ngezikhathi ezithile.
• Yiba nobungane futhi lunomusa. Khumbula emhlanganweni isikole nothisha yokukhulumisana nabazali. Ngakho, ingxoxo yakho ibukeka eyomile nalokuhlelekile, uma engaveli imizwa efudumele.

Siza, uma ucelwa. Kodwa noma kunjalo, musa nokugibela umphefumulo, uma iseluleko akubukwana kuwe. Vele wamsingatha ingane bese uwambambatha ekhanda njengoba ingane: ngokuvamile kwakuwuphawu imizwa kubaluleke ngaphezu noma yimaphi amagama.

Lapho ubuhlobo Kumiswa

Kanjani ukuze sinqume ukuthi imithetho wokuxhumana abazali bengenisa yi efiselekayo? Empeleni silula. Obuqand 'insimbi "kuyoba okulandelayo:

1. Umama noma ubaba ungenalo obulimaza. Nabo futhi, bayajabula ukukubona futhi ungazizwa wokunganethezeki inkhulumomphendvulwano.
2. Kwakheka ukuzethemba ngenkathi ixhumana.
3. Ungakwazi isifuba, ukukhuluma ngemibandela alinganayo, njengomngane.
4. Tikhalo kuthiwa ukhohliwe, esikhundleni ngothando lwakho lifudumeza umphefumulo.
5. Isifiso ukuphikisa nokuphoqelela ukungqubuzana yanyamalala. Uzizwa ukuvumelana nokuqonda mutual.

Isiko yokuxhumana nokuziphatha - lwezinhlamvu elula. Kungenzeka ukufunda: hlala phansi futhi ukubhekana emhlabeni yabo kwangaphakathi, ukuhambisa i-oda yakho lapho uphinde uhlele yonke emashalofini kunesidingo. Ukuqala noma kunjalo, udinga wena, bese unamathisele lesizukulwane esidala. Le ndlela ungakwazi kabusha kufundiswe nonina kanye noyise. Bathi abazali ungakhethi. Kodwa kwazi bani ukuthi lokhu ngempela. Okungenani, buza isigqi ilungelo ubuhlobo bakho futhi ngisaqhubeka ngemibala entsha ungakwazi ngokunembile.