Ingabe ukukhohlisa isibusiso noma amanga abhubhisayo?

Noma yiliphi igama legama elithi "ukuzithoba" lijwayele. Wonke umuntu usebenzisa le nqubo nsuku zonke, ngezinye izikhathi sithi amazwi amnandi, nakuba engekho iqiniso ngempela, ukuze angamcasuli muntu, ngaphandle kwalokho sifuna ukujabulisa nokumangalisa, futhi kwenzeka ukuthi lawa magama abe yisikhali esiyinhloko ezandleni zomthuthukisi kanye nesigwegwe.

Ukuhlangana nabangane abadala, kunalokho sizokwenza ukuncoma, kunokuba sizogxila emigqumeni yokubukeka noma ezinye izici ezimbi. Ngeshwa, ukubethezeka kuyinto evamile yokukhulumisana kwanamuhla. Uma, kuleso simo, uqala ukubonisa umbono wakho nokuhlambalaza ngenxa yeziphambeko, bazokucabanga, ukubeka kahle, njengomuntu we-hamovatom. Kuvela ukuthi umphakathi ngokwawo ubeka izindinganiso zokuthi "ukuziphatha" ukukhulumisana kwethu futhi kusenze sibe amanga futhi sikwanelise ukuziqhenya kwabaphikisi.

Esinye icala, uma umuntu ehlambalaza ukuze azithokozise futhi uzilungiselele. Lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa yokwesaba ukunqatshwa noma ukuze kufinyeleleke esimweni somunye umuntu. Ngokuvamile le ndlela ayisebenzi, ngoba ukungabonakali kuyabonakala. Ubuthakathaka bomlingiswa noma imigomo yobugovu kwenza ukubethezeka yisikhali esibaluleke kakhulu kubantu abaningi. Uma ungalwi lo mkhuba, khona-ke umqambimanga ngeke asheshe abe ngumvelo futhi eqinisile. I-Flattery iyinhlanzi edoba echibini. Ngokuvamile umuntu usebenzisa lezi zingcolile Tricks, lapho ekhohlwa ngaphezulu ubudlelwane obuhlanzekile futhi ukholelwa kancane kuye. Ngamunye wethu wahlangana ngendlela yethu nalabo abalalela ngokulalela izinkulumo, bese "bekhala" kubo. Abanye bayabahawukela abantu abanjalo, abanye bayabathukuthelisa, kuyilapho abanye bebadonsela bona futhi bazijabulise, babelane ngeze.

Izwe likhumbula lezi heroes ezidumile nabantu njenge Sonya Gold Pen kanye ne-Ostap Bender. Bamangala bonke abantu ngekhono labo lokukhohlisa futhi lokukhohlisa. Akekho umuntu oyedwa owabamba izinkulumo ezimnandi zikaSonya ophanga, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo usengumlando futhi unabalandeli bakhe. Emlonyeni wakhe u-flattery waba ubuhle nobuciko bokukhuluma. Ngoba ukukhwabanisa nokukhohliswa kwakhe kwakuyizincazelo zokuphila kanye nobuciko kuphela. Uma isipho sakhe sisetshenziselwa okuhle! Omunye angacabanga nje ukuthi ziningi kangakanani izenzo ezinhle futhi ezinhle ayezozifeza.

Ixhunywe ngombono onjengokuthi u-flattery, izingcaphuno zidluliselwe amakhulu eminyaka emlonyeni kuya emlonyeni, ngoba abantu bayibheka njengesono, okufanele ukucela intethelelo kaNkulunkulu. Kodwa kusukela kuso awukwazi ukufihla. Imicimbi yezemvelo, imihlangano yebhizinisi yakhiwa ngokuzithokozisa nokuxhumana "okumamatheka".

I-flattery yimbi, noma yini ekhuthaza abantu ukuba basebenzise kuyo, sigcina impendulo nje phambi kwethu. Ibhizinisi lomuntu wonke liba ngumuntu othembekile futhi oqinile noma ohlambalaza. Akudingekile ukuba ukhulume amazwi ahlabayo, ungahlala uthule noma ugcizelele ama-pluses wangempela. Kubonakala sengathi kungcono ukungavuli umlomo wakho nhlobo, kunokuba ungumqambimanga ofuna amagama ukuze abeke umuntu kuye. Wonke umuntu kufanele alwele ngobuhle - yibani oqinile, oqotho, othembekile nomusa. Ukuphila kwethu akufanele kudlulele ekuphishekeleni okuhle, kodwa ekuphishekeleni okuhle komphefumulo. Uma umuntu ekhuluma amanga futhi enza njalo, kufanelekile ukucabanga ngokuthuthukiswa kwakhe okungokomoya. Ukuphila kufushane. Kusuka kulo "siyahamba", futhi imemori yethu kuphela ihlala emhlabeni. Wonke umuntu ukhetha indlela yakhe nsuku zonke kanye nehora lonke, futhi umgwaqo ube mhlophe futhi uhlanzeke, ungakhelwe emangeni. I-flattery iyisimo esiphikisayo okufanele ulwa nayo.