Indlela yokushada umsizi

Esikhathini sezinkathi lapho kuhlonishwa khona izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi, izimo ezingokomzwelo, ukuzwa ngokumnandi, ngegama, amantombazane aphakanyisiwe, yisikhathi sabanye besifazane. Njengamanje, umuntu osemusha, ukuze asinde futhi azibonakalise njengomuntu okwanele, kufanele abe nezimfanelo ezihluke ngokuphelele - aqiniseke, aphumelele, aqinile, akwazi ukumelana nobunzima bokuphila, ngaphezu kwalokho, akwazi ukuzithoba futhi aziphathe. Ngokuzimela. Ngalokhu konke, udinga ukubukeka sengathi kufanelekile. Abesifazane abanjalo bavame ukuthatha izikhundla zobuholi, babe nezimoto zokunethezeka nezinkampani ezijabulisayo. Futhi kaningi, ngokungavamile, bahlala bodwa. Kubonakala sengathi abanaso isikhathi esanele sokuhlela izimpilo zabo. Abesifazane abanjalo abacabangi ngalokhu nhlobo, abakhathazekile ngombuzo wokuthi bangashada kanjani umzukulu.

Kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu ozuza izici ezinjalo. Yini okufanele abanye bayenze, uma ikusasa labo lihlelwe ngendlela edidayo njengoba ufuna? Isikhathi sidlule lapho, ikakhulukazi, amantombazane ashada emshadweni. Cha, yebo, futhi manje amacala anjalo ayenzeka, futhi kaningi. Kodwa-ke, abaningi baphupha ukubamba umsila wenhlanhla futhi kwelinye lawa phansi ukuze abe mhlonishwa ohloniphekile futhi ocebile. Futhi, ngokombono wabo, ukubukeka okumangalisayo kokugcwaliseka komgomo onjalo kufanele kube ngokwanele. Yiqiniso, kuyakwenza, kodwa uma unendaba nje ngokuthi ungashada kanjani umama, kodwa ukuthi ungaphila ngokujabula naye, lokhu akubalulekile.

Akukwanele ukubonakala okubonakalayo, usadinga ukukwazi ukuziphatha emphakathini, ukwazi imithetho yokuziphatha nokuningi okuningi. Umsebenzi omkhulu kuwo wonke owesifazane ophupha ukuphumelela empilweni yakhe nokucabanga ngendlela yokushada umama kufanele abe yimfundo enhle kakhulu. Futhi kuyadingeka ukuba kuthuthukiswe ngokugcwele, okufaka ulwazi kolwazi lwangaphandle, nokudansa, nokufunda nokubhala umculo, njll. Kuyintombazane enjalo ezokwazi ukuheha umuntu osomabhizinisi ocebile.

Ungakhohlwa ukuthi indoda kufanele ikhethele , noma, noma udinga ukukhombisa ikhono lokubamba ngempela futhi imenze acabange kanjalo. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi ezinye izinhlobo ezincane azicatshangelwe lapha, isiphetho sokulinda ukuba zizikhethele futhi zishade nabo, kepha lokhu kaningi kunokuba kungabi ngebhizinisi akuzuzi okuningi.

Uma umbuzo othi "Ungashada kanjani umlimi?" Ungavumeli ukuhlala ngokuthula, kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa indlela ethile yokuziphatha, ukukhipha ngokuphelele "ukuzibophezela". Ngoba, ngokubonisa ngokucacile ubuso babo obuhle, imilenze esuka entanyeni nezinye izinto ezijabulisayo, ukuziphatha okunjalo okweqile kungadonsela nje amadoda afanelekayo. Ngokuvamile banakekele labo abangenandaba nabo. Ngokusobala, kulokhu, intshisekelo ethile yezemidlalo isebenza: "Kwenzeka kanjani, konke kuyangidla ngami, kodwa angithandanga nhlobo?" Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi umuntu ungumuntu wesilisa, futhi kufanele athole owesifazane omthandayo Uqobo. Ngakho-ke, ukuzimela, imfundo, ngisho nokuhlanganiswa nokubukeka okuthakazelisayo kunganentshisekelo kunoma yimuphi ummeli wobulili obuhlukile. Ngedatha elinjalo, kungenzeka ukuba ushade nomuntu oyibhiliyoni.

Ukuphupha komshado, ungakhohlwa ukuthi, njengomthetho, abantu abacebile abayingozi kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umyeni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ucebile kangakanani noma ngabe yikuphi okuphethwe nguye, kufanele ahloniphe okhethiweyo wakhe, ambone njengomuntu, alalele umbono wakhe. Ukushada ne-oligarch uphinde uhlale naye ngokuvumelana ukuhlolwa kwangempela kokuphila, okudinga ukubekezela okungajwayelekile, ukuqonda okuvamile, ukuhlakanipha, ukuqonda. Ngakho-ke, ukuthatha isinqumo futhi uhambe ucwaninga kumabhizinisi ocebile, osombusazwe noma umculi odumile, kuwufanelekile ukukala zonke izinzuzo nezingozi.