Ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu ...

Uthando ... Umzwa wokuthi wonke umuntu unamandla akhe. Kodwa izimpawu zokuthembela zifana nazo zonke: ukushaya kwenhliziyo ekuboneni into kuyashesha, kungabamba umoya, ukuthuthumela eminwe yakho kanye nomzimba wonke kuqala, ukukhukhuma kuphuma injabulo ngisho nokushisa kuyanda ngokushesha. Zonke izibonakaliso zesifo ziyabonakala. Izindlela zokudlulisela: ukuxhumana kwamehlo, uketshezi, ukushisa. Ukwelashwa akudingekile uma into yokudumisa isulele igciwane elifanayo.

Uxolo ngenxa yamahlaya. Kodwa empeleni umuntu uhlangabezana nokujabula okungaqondakali ngenkathi esethandweni. Yiqiniso, uma lo mzwelo uhlanganyela. Izwe lonke lidlula ngokushesha lapho sibona othandekayo. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi siyaqonda ukuthi asidingi ngaphezulu.

Kodwa kungase kwenzeke nokuthi umhlaba wonke uzophela uma ubuhlobo buyeka kungazelelwe. Ngaphambi kwezolo, ujabule ukungakhohlwa, ngokuzumayo kuba umbuzo ongazibophezeli ngokwengqondo: "Ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu?" Futhi akunandaba ukuthi kuzokwenzani lokho. Ungakhohlwa kanjani othandekayo oxhumana naye okuningi kangaka? Ungasula kanjani izinkumbulo nezithombe? Ungakhohlwa kanjani okokuqala, isimemezelo esinothando sothando? Izinsuku nobusuku bachitha ndawonye, izinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo, amaphupho amahle kangaka ... Konke kuphazamiseka ngokuzumayo futhi kubonakala sengathi akunandaba ukuhlala. Ngaphandle kwakhe. Kungenzeka yini ukukhohlwa othandekayo?

Impendulo idumaza: cha. Kuzohlala nawe. Ubuhlungu buyophela kuphela ngesikhathi. Ungacabangi ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani othandekayo wakho. Ukusesha kwezindlela ngeke kuveze imiphumela. Vele uzame ukuqhubeka. Kukhona ifilimu lapho indodana, ehlushwa uthando futhi ilahlekelwe yithemba, futhi ihlushwa umbuzo wokuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu. Ubuza uyise: "Yini okufanele ngiyenze manje?" Uyazi ukuthi ubaba uphendule ini indodana yakhe? Okuwukuphela kwesokudla: "Vumela!"

Ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu ngaphandle kokuzwa ubuhlungu, ukudideka kwemizwa, ukulangazelela okungenakuqondakala nokuhlupheka ? Lokhu akunakwenzeka.

Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi ukuhlupheka kudlulela ngaphesheya komugqa othize, lapho umuntu eqala ukuhlupheka, usevele ejabulela injabulo ekuhluphekeni kwakhe. Lona uhlobo lwe-masochism. Umuntu uvala ukuhlukunyezwa kwakhe ngothando, ejabule kuzo, engaqapheli noma ubani, enobuthi onobubi bakhe, kodwa nabathandekayo bakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, i-neurosis ephuthumayo iba imbangela yezinye izifo, izifo ezisemzimbeni kakade: izikhanda, ukuphelelwa amandla, izilonda, ukwandisa noma ukunciphisa ukucindezela ... Ukubala okungapheli isikhathi eside. Akumangalisi ukuthi bathi imbangela yazo zonke izifo iyisifo. Isitatimende asikho okungavamile. Izakhamuzi eziningi zengqondo ziyavumelana: uthando lungalinganiswa nezifo ezinzulu ezifana nokulutha izidakamizwa nokuphuza utshwala. Ngisho nabahlengikazi basendulo baphatha uthando ngokukhathazeka. U-Avicenna, owayengumsunguli wemithi yama-Arab, wathi lokhu okulandelayo: "Uthando luyisifo." Izimpawu: ukuqubuka komzimba, amehlo anomsindo, ukuphazamiseka, ukuphazamiseka nokuphefumula okuqhubekayo, izinkondlo ezizwayo ngothando, uyakhala futhi akhonze, akukho myalelo wokuziphatha, ukushaywa umoya okungahambi kahle nokungafani Esikhathini esidabukisayo sokudangala ... "

Angikwazi ukukutshela indlela yokukhohlwa othandekayo, ngoba othandekayo ngempela akakwazi ukukhohlwa. Kodwa ukuze uphethwe ubuhlungu, ubuyele ekuphileni, kusengenzeka. Futhi lapha kufanele ugobe ekujuleni komphefumulo, ngokuthembeka ubeke konke emashalofini. Phela, uthando lungafihliwe ngeminye imizwa. Lona umqondo wobunikazi (ukunganeliseki), nokuzethemba okuzithintekayo, nokwesaba ukuhlala yedwa, ngisho nokuzithoba okukhulu kakhulu. Futhi uma nje ufunda ukuqaphela le mizwa, ubahlukanisa nothando lweqiniso, uzokwenza isinyathelo sokuqala endleleni yokubuyela. "Ezingamakhulu ayisishiyagalolunye uzothola ihlumela elilodwa lamafutha, ngaphandle kokuhlukunyezwa okungamakhulu - kuphela ihlumela lokuhlakanipha." Yeka ukuthi leli qiniso liyiqiniso kangakanani!

Zama ukuthatha iphepha bese ubhala kulo indaba yothando lwakho. Futhi ekugcineni, njengesiphetho, engeza le nkulumo: "bekuyikho." Burn lo mbhalo, manje owu-bhuloho emkhatsini wesikhathi esidlule nesamanje.

Ukuzithandela nokuzihlola ozijabule kakade. Manje sekuyisikhathi 'sokukhokha' amanxeba. Ungahlali isikhathi eside embhedeni. Qala ekuseni isebenze. Masibe sekugijima ekuseni noma ukuhamba nenja. Konke okukhethile nokukwazi kwakho. Qala ukuvakashela ama-gyms, ichibi lokubhukuda. Zihlobise umhlaba ngokwakho, wenze abanye bakubheke ngokumdumisa noma ngisho nangomona. Vakashela umnakekeli wezinwele, wenze i-manicure, uya ezitolo. Isikhathi sokushintsha isithombe. Misa izingxoxo ezinde nabangani nezihlobo ngesihloko sokuhlushwa. Gxila ekhanda lakho ukuze ufunde, sebenze. Hlela impilo yakho ngendlela yokunciphisa izingxabano nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili. Kwakuyinto yangaphambili. Qinisekisa lesi simo. Khumbula amagama adumile: "Izindlela zeNkosi zingenakwenzeka." Ubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe imizwa enamandla kakhulu namuhla yayisisandulela nje kuphela, uhlobo lokuphindaphindiwe, isandulela ngothando olusha, olunamandla nolwedlulele?

Bheka ngokwakho ngakolunye uhlangothi. Kusukela kulowo oyedwa abangabazi khona. Ngikholelwa, lokhu kuyimbangela edabukisayo. Ungavumeli abanye bazizwele ubuhlungu, ngoba ububele buyosheshe futhi buguquke zibe ukunganaki. Umuntu ohluphekile akakwazi ukuqina. Zijwayeze emcabangweni wokuthi inhlekelele yanamuhla iyimithi yokugonywa eyokwenza ukuzivikela ekuhlulekeni nasekudumeni iminyaka eminingi, ngeke ikuvume ukuthi uphinde uhlupheke umbuzo wokuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani umuntu ...

Futhi amagama ambalwa ekugcineni ... Izincwadi, njengoba wazi, zinamandla angavamile. Funda uma unesikhathi samahhala. Gwema "amavolontiza" enkundleni yosuku olulodwa, elibhalwa ngumyalelo wabashicileli. Ukuthandana okunjalo kanye nezindaba kubhaliwe ekubalweni kwezilaleli ezibucayi obhekene nakho noma oye wabhekana nenhlekelele. Lahla lezo zincwadi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ungavumeli ababhali abashibhile ukuthi benze imali emizweni yakho futhi bakhulise isilinganiso sakho kuwe. Nakuba ... Kunomsebenzi owodwa omuhle mayelana nemizwa yodwa, engiyincoma kakhulu ukuthi ngiyifunde: inkondlo ethi "Moscow - Petushki" (Erofeev). Lo msebenzi uqobo uyakusiza ukuba uzibuke uvela kolunye uhlangothi futhi uhlolisise okwenzekayo.