"Lona wesifazane," noma waphinda ngezingozi engaguquki

Kukangaki ekuphileni kufanele ukubhekana eyeqisayo? Yebo, cishe nsuku zonke, njalo ngehora. Ziyakwazi imicabango yethu, phakathi kolwazi lwethu, ngendlela yokuziphatha kanye nesimo sengcondvo lesibi - njengoba abanye, futhi singazijabulisi thina. Yini esingayifunda kusukela ebuntwaneni? Kahle adlale indima yawo. Siyatshelwa: "indoda yangempela akusho ukukhala," "owesifazane oqotho kufanele ukuzinakekela, we endlini yomyeni wakhe, izingane" ... futhi sizithola esemncane, kuheleza izethulo angaphandle.

Khumbula kaningi kangakanani nje ekhathele ngemva kosuku lonke ukusebenza, okwenza imisebenzi edingekayo, futhi namanje basenza izinto eduze. It engafuni uvuke ekuseni, kanti namanje elele, futhi ulungise ukudla kuwo wonke umndeni, ngoba "owesifazane wangempela" kanjalo ... Sizimisele ukuthatha ku ngangokunokwenzeka, sifuna bathethelele Nekrasov "ayeke ihhashi agijima", futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo sidinga ukuba usengozini futhi abangakwazi ukuzilwela. Phela, kukangaki ngizwile - elivela kumama wakwakhe, umyeni wakhe: owesifazane wangempela - isidalwa mnene futhi enothando, Homemakers, le njengabesifazane okuphakade, nokunye nokunye ... Futhi siqala ucishe e izethulo angaphandle. Ngempela, khona izidingo aphikisanayo - "qina" futhi "buthakathaka", "funda yima ngezinyawo siqu" futhi 'agqoke umyeni wakhe "- ukwazi okuhlukene. Lena kakhulu sina okusongelayo kithi neurosis. Esikhathini okubi kakhulu - ke kuletha ukuqhekeza imikhaya up zokusetshenziswa kabi kotshwala zesifazane, ukuze ubuhlobo sokugembula. Ake sibheke isimo abesifazane emphakathini wanamuhla ngeso elibanzi. Okungenani sizama.

Uma ngisho 100-150 edlule, into eyayibalulekile emfundweni yezingane kanye nokugcinwa indlu, kodwa manje imithwalo umphakathi ziwumthwalo abesifazane, hhayi kwehle. Cha, kwenzeka okuphambene. Okwamanje kulindeleke kwalo, kodwa yini "owesifazane wangempela" kufanele kube uzilungise, efundile efanele abaqeqeshiwe, ezimele. Futhi kuthiwani umkhaya? kuye kwaba Kukangaki izilungiselelo ingqubuzana? Ngokuqhubekayo ... Ngokwesibonelo, esimweni lapho umkhaya abazali zenani ngezemfundo namathuba emikhakha yemfundo. "Lona wesifazane," Kufanele ukhethe ubizo, ukuze uthole i-diploma, baya kumsukela isayensi. Futhi umkhaya komyeni wakhe, kunalokho, unina emthethweni esetshenziswa ngendlela ehlukile yokuphila. Ukuze "owesifazane wangempela" wakhe - nguye ingubani indodana, inikeza zonke izidingo zakhe, khashana khohlwa ngawe. Kwenzekani psyche, noma umuntu esibone ibe isimo esinjalo dissonance engqondweni yethu? It ehluleka. Owesifazane angeke bazwisise ukuthi empeleni kulindeleke sezihlobo zakhe. Futhi indlela ezingezinhle futhi wahlulela abanye kungaba - emsebenzini, egcekeni, enkulisa, lapho sishayela izingane ... Uma sesaba izakhiwo zabo nezinkinga, indlela elula - ukuthola nabo abanye, asilahle. "Hlobo luni umama", "ubona kanjani ivunule," 'wayekhala nje ahlale ekhaya, "noma" it is kuphela umsebenzi futhi ukucabanga "- njengoba sivame ukuzwa inhlebo ezifana ...

Thina ukuncela eyeqisayo zabanye abantu ngokungazi, unganakile. Kodwa uma sifuna kuphela akwazi ukubheka ngokwakho, uyazi umphefumulo wakho - siyaqaphela ukuthi exhunywe ukucabanga kwethu njengoba thina asisibo sesihle blinders phezu kwamehlo. Futhi uma thina basenalo uthando eliqinile lokuphila, ukuphishekela iSilekeleli Sokwazisa, siyokwazi ukuzisusa. Futhi ukuqonda ukuthi empeleni owesifazane wangempela - nguye owazi indlela engajabula ngayo futhi mahhala. Futhi akufanele kube lutho kunoma ubani. Weza ezweni ukuphila yakho - esiyingqayizivele - ekuphileni. Futhi ungabi a "pair ephelele", "umama engcono", "nendodakazi elalelayo" .... beqaphela lokhu nje, singafunda ukwamukela wena - futhi ngaleyo ndlela omunye - njengathi noma lapho bekhona.