Komzimba: yalezi zindlela kungaba nzima enkosini, kodwa umzamo kuyovuzwa

Njengoba leso sikhathi wathi uyathakatha ulwandle Ursula (umuntu ofanayo kusuka "The Little Mermaid"): "Ungayithathi kalula ukubaluleka komzimba." Wayemunyu ngokuphelele kwesokudla.

Ezinye namaqhinga, isibonelo, ukumamatheka ongasoze walibaleka, ufunde futhi usebenzise zonke izinsuku kulula. Abanye kungabangela ubunzima ukuze ufunde futhi kudinga amanye amakhono. Noma kunjalo, ungaba omkhulu futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho inquma inani.

Nazi ayisishiyagalombili amasu komzimba ukuthi akulula balukhulume, kodwa imizamo yakho iyoba nemiphumela emihle.

"Ukubukisa" interlocutor

"Mirrors" umuntu oxoxa ukukhuluma - ke ukuphinda lokho akwenzayo. Movement, isikhundla umzimba. Kunzima ngempela, ikakhulukazi ngoba uma "Ukubukisa" overdo ke, ucingo bangase bacabange ukuthi akahlekwa noma ukugconwa kuye.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iqhinga kahle ababulawa kwenza kube lula ukuwina.

Gait unethemba

Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi uhamba ngokuzethemba, lokhu akuhlali. Abanye basanda kuhlanganyela Gait evilaphayo kanye slouch, abanye bheka ngingafaneleki futhi ivaliwe.

Futhi emva kunzima ngempela ukulandela: yizwi ukuthi uzwa kule ukurekhoda kuphela futhi isikhathi ngasinye uyazibuza ukuthi kungcono kuwe. Kodwa uma uzama ukulungisa inkinga, abanye uyokwahlulela wena njengomuntu ukuzethemba kanye nokuzimisela.

Eye contact: zonke emehlweni akho

Kunabantu abakuthola kunzima ukulondoloza kuchumana ngemehlo, ngisho kanjalo ngokwengeziwe ngokuqala ukubheka ngqo emehlweni. Kubo, akuyona into engokwemvelo kanye ungakhululekile. Kodwa eqinisweni, kuyasiza ekuxhumaneni kanye has ngaphezu "run" noma umbono amehlo phakade abadanileyo.

Leyl Laundes encwadini "Ungakhuluma kanjani kunoma ubani nganoma yini," kweluleka zicabange amehlo akho ethe njo interlocutor yakhe kancane okunamathelayo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukujwayela futhi ayeke ukuba bagcine nokulawula, futhi amakhono akho okukhulumisana kuyothuthuka.

ukuma evulekile

Ukungazi ukuthi yini okwakufanele benze ngezandla zakho, abantu Tuck nabo emaphaketheni noma ewela esifubeni sakhe, ngakho ngci kusukela interlocutor. Kodwa unganakile kwenza ucabanga ukuthi ngabe ubafihlela okuthile. Vula ukuma kufanele uqobo kakhulu futhi benze isimo ngokuzethemba.

Calm, kodwa wehlisa umoya

Ukuyobayobeka ngokuvamile libhekene abantu singathembeki noma labo bayesaba. Ngiphakathi ungathandi interlocutors yabo.

Nokho, ngomzamo ukuzola bese ubamba lula ncamashi overdo it futhi nhlobo ukunyakaza. Kodwa izikhundla ezifana ayibukeki ekhululekile futhi engcono kakhulu "ukuzingela".

Ukuze uthole ukulinganisela - ukuthi isixazululo esingcono kulesi simo.

ukuma

Abazali babephumelela impela kwesokudla, sokuzigxeka ngoba owayesekhokhoba yakho emuva. Slackness slackness, kodwa "liphuke" esihlalweni, isibonelo, i-interview - uphawu lokwedelela. Ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuma bushelelezi ubonakala uphawu intelligence, nokwethemba. Lokhu futhi isebenza hhayi kuphela emihlanganweni esemthethweni.

Hlala uqonde nalo mkhuba akulula, kodwa kuhle umsebenzi.

ukuxhawula

"Ukuxhawula nevilaphayo" - ukuxhawula okubi kakhulu, le okunyanyekayo kakhulu futhi abuhlungu zonke. Kwenza umuntu ukubona ubuthakathaka kuphela. Nyakazisa izandla kufanele kube ephephile ukuvula amehlo futhi amamatheke ngenkulu injabulo. Khona-ke okusebenza.

Phela, kulokhu futhi kubalulekile ukwazi ngesilinganiso, ngoba ukuxhawula eqinile kakhulu uthathwa njengomgcini ubudlova.

Ukwehla

Lapho umuntu wethukile, eqala ukuba ukuthutha ngokushesha bese ukhuluma okusheshayo. Kodwa izenzo okunembile kancane ukukhiqiza okuvelayo okungcono kakhulu. Man ukukhuluma kushiwo ngejubane elifanayo, uyazi ukuthi ukhuluma ngani - imibono enjalo usukela ezingqondweni zethu.

Uma uzizwa uthola "ingxenye", ukuma, sengidonsa umoya bese ugcine sikhululeke kakhudlwana ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngakho uzoba ibukeke umuntu abanekhono, hhayi umfundi izolo oluhlaza.