Izintandokazi othanda omunye - yini okumele ngiyenze? Kuthiwani uma ethandekayo othanda omunye?

Thanda ... Yini sonnets ngakho, ezibhaliwe bangaki izingoma abhalelwa, wadala njengoba amabhayisikobho, izincwadi, kanye nezinye zobuciko. Futhi empilweni yangempela, ngamunye wethu okungenani kanye ezimpilweni zabo, kodwa nabo bake bazizwa ngale umuzwa kabuhlungu amnandi. Nakuba, ngokusho odokotela bengqondo abaningi, uma uthando lwenza umuntu ahlupheke futhi benze izenzo amawala, it is not love nhlobo, kodwa uhlobo esikhundleni - uthando noma nogqozi. Uthando lweqiniso sivezwe kula yokuthi ngisho noma ethandekayo othanda omunye, awusebenzi ubuhlungu. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kukhona isifiso ukuba sijabule kanye bobabili ngobuqotho ... babakhulula ngokuthula.

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Ngokuvamile, yebo, indoda uthando akulula ukuhlukanisa uthando nothando abayizimpumputhe. Lapho ababili ndawonye, uyajabula uma zigcwele amathemba aphakeme, lapho ngomqondo truest izwi akakwazi ukuphefumula ku nomunye, akukho nakancane wabo cabanga umehluko.

Futhi ngokuqinisekile. Uthando ingafaniswa iphupho, imilingo futhi kujabulise. Ngifisa ukuthi abupheli, kodwa ngeshwa, lokhu akwenzeki.

Awakening

"Isikebhe uthando ikhubazekile ngokuphila" - bayabubula Mayakovsky. Yebo, kuyenzeka. Kuyinto kuphela uthando nge izincwadi ahlale sengqondo enenhlonipho komunye nomunye kukho konke ukuphila kwabo, eqinisweni, isimo Kuthi ezahlukene. Ngisho nemizwa enamandla kakhulu, kwenzeka, epholile, futhi kuza uhlobo ukukhanyiselwa noma uphaphame. Odokotela bengqondo waveza okwengeziwe sebekubeke, ukushaya okwamanje isikhathi nangezikhathi zenhlekelele noma "ethi awafike". Maye, ngalesi sikhathi, owesifazane angase azithole uzizwe futhi baqonde ukuthi ethandekayo othanda omunye.

Kwenzekeni?

Lo mbuzo ngokuphindiwe azibuze engxenyeni enhle lwesintu, ukweba nhla esibukweni.

Kubonakala sengathi e-oda amasentimitha ngokweqile okhalweni ayitholakali, kwekhanda neqondayo ukwakheka abakhona, ikhabethe, kuhlanganise obuseduze, olusha njalo. Ngakho kungani manje bese wezwa alamu izinsimbi engqondweni? Kungani manje bese umcabango scary kwathi nhlo ozithandayo othanda omunye? Futhi ake abangane nikeza "isando" begodu 'kungekhe kube umusi "- ubani, uma hhayi kithi, ukwazi futhi sibe nomuzwa wokuthi abathandekayo kuphela waba ohluke ngokuphelele?

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Cha, namanje ubiza ukuba kube manje, namanje uletha izipho, namanje umema ngempelasonto endaweni ethile ngaphandle komuzi. Yilokho nje umuzwa wokuthi phakathi abathandi ezimbili, owayebonakala ethuthuka kahle emasontweni ambalwa edlule bona sizwisisane shazi, kukhuphuke udonga ukuthi uba mkhulu futhi mkhulu.

Izintandokazi othanda omunye - uyaliqaphela owesifazane, enomuzwa wokuthi kancane kakhulu, futhi lokhu odongeni ongabonakali iyoba obukhulu ukuze akumananga izwiwe, ngisho noma overstrain yezwi. Yena kuba ekuhluthukeni, ke uya kudingeka ubumfihlo, futhi ekugcineni ethuthela kwenye ukuze Kungcono ukuchitha impelasonto wedwa, kunokuba kule nkampani umuntu oziphatha sengathi ukhonza umsebenzi waso.

"Nginecala ..."

"Uyawathanda amalungu aleli kwenye," - eshaya kakhulu ezingqondweni ngephuzu ezingemnandi, bese, njengoba ngokuvamile kwenzeka ngesikhathi neurosis, kulapho sishushiswa yakhe kude kuye, kulapho-ke unamathela kithi. Ekugcineni, nathi ucasukelane, hypochondriac futhi whiny.

Indoda engibathandayo, njengoba wazi, izinyembezi sowesifazane - nje Rag nenkunzi, futhi ngaphandle kokuzizwa kabi, impendulo ucasukile. Lokho ingxabano. Okuhlala Njalo? Asinakukwenza lokho. Le ndoda - isidalwa okunengqondo, ngisho nokushiswa ubuhlungu nge uthando komunye wesifazane angase iminyaka kutsi bakucedze ngokwabo futhi kokubili uthando naye, ngiyakuninika khona. Kepha uthando lwakhe ngeshwa, yena, esichaza torturer yini acabanga kabuhlungu iqala ukufuna amaphutha ngokwakho. I zihlasela kakhulu wukuthi akwaziwa ngubani imbangi ujabule, awukwazi ukuqonda ukuthi yini yena kunezinzuzo futhi lokho kukodwa kufanele zishintshwe.

Ukuthola izixazululo

Lapho umuntu esimthandayo othanda omunye futhi akusho ukufihla lokho, into ebaluleke kakhulu - ningatatazeli futhi hysterics. Nakuba kunjalo, uma kubhekwa ukuthi abesifazane - ekubeni ngokomzwelo, kungenzeka lokhu into enzima kakhulu. Kufanele kukhunjulwe lokho, uma lisese lapha futhi akazange amshiye, kumelwe sihlale sizolile. Lokhu kuyadingeka kokubili ngoba kuphela isimo quiescent ungathola isixazululo eyanele. Ngokuqondene lover okungalungile, kodwa wena ungezwa ukukhala futhi kabi, ubona izinyembezi ebusweni evuvukele ukuthi wayeke okwabonakala kuye amahle kakhulu emhlabeni, ukuthi bazokwazi ukuletha imizwa kanye nemicabango yabo ukuze nokuqonda ukuthi yini afuna ngempela.

Isinqumo bazokwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi kuyinto okuncintiswana naye hhayi kakhulu. Okokuqala, kuwukuchitha isikhathi, futhi okwesibili, abangenalo amakhono Hercule Poirot noma Sherlock Holmes, kunzima ngempela akufanele ahlatshwe, futhi yangenza ukuba ngingalilahli ithemba yena away ngesikhathi ukubhekwa. Futhi yebo - kuhlukanisa. Uma ozithandayo nenye intombazane ethanda ibe nomona real mayelana umuntu sakhe futhi abaqaphe ngokucophelela ezindabeni zakhe zangasese. Uma ifoni ephathekayo kwesokunxele emaphethelweni etafuleni, kuyinto milimitha elivulela uhlangothi, kungaba, futhi akavumi ukuba imibuzo ezingemnandi isitayela: "? Ingabe wathatha" Kodwa umcabango wokuthi uma engekho esifushane uthando, ngokusobala okuyinto ngento eqagela, kungenzeka wake wafunda angenayo i-SMS ki, noma abhale abangabazi ambalwa egunjini lakhe, eziphiwe wayecabangani. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuzivikela uzobe kwagcizelela, udonga ongabonakali liya livuleka njengoba zikhula, plus nakho konke anakho engqondo emhosheni mba.

Yini okumelwe uyenze?

Kodwa amanye amantombazane, naphezu kwengozi, kodwa abayiphethe ukuthola "isitha" ebusweni. Ngakho, lapho benza kwaziwe ukuthi othandekayo wakho uthanda omunye, yini okufanele uyenze - akucaci.

Zonke isu, olwakhiwa ngaphambi okwamanje weqiniso ehlala, enikela phansi, futhi ngifuna into eyodwa - ukubulala noma kokubili, noma ukuphula ne amambuka phakade. Ngababuka, ujabule, behleka wayengafuni ukuya lilindelwe "Izingubo" entsha, okuyinto ngokuqinisekile Wawujabulela. Awufuni ukushintsha izinwele zakhe, ungafuni ukuba sihlakulele ekuphekeni: kungani, nini, naye akuyona ukuthi abasebasha noma oluhle, kodwa nje kwenye ...

Phela, iphutha elivamile abesifazane abaningi - kucatshangwa ukuthi, uma umuntu omthandayo othanda omunye, ingabe, lena enye, ngokuqinisekile okungcono. Yebo, ngezinye izikhathi ngempela kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu ubalekela uthando lwakhe ukuze lokho okungeyona elalimbelesele kuye, ayifuni hang kuso, akudingi ukunakwa. Kodwa kunalokho kukhona izimo lapho kuqala ithenda futhi othembekile waya kowesifazane ngenxa nje yokuthi wayengahambisani owayeyintombi yakhe lover. Ngeshwa, sesivele Akunakwenzeka ukuthi bamsize. Futhi kunengqondo ukubuyela emuva nomqondo uthando futhi falling in love. Uma ayethanda ngempela, akunakwenzeka ukuba wadonsa kuse ecaleni beyofuna emizweni ezintsha. Uma wayemthanda ngempela zakhe, wayelala alinakho isifiso ukulandela abathandekayo ahlukumeze naye umhawu wakhe. Nakuba Yiqiniso, ngokwezinga elithile, uthando kobugovu.

"Njalo komkhaya okungajabulisi uthukutheliswe ngendlela yalo"

Lapho sesihlukana Umbhangqwana ongashadile, igebe lunganqotshwa ngaphandle nanoma yiziphi izinkinga. Yebo, kubuhlungu, kodwa ekugcineni, it is hhayi ukuqeda zezwe, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubalulekile ukubambelela indoda owakhaphela sanyathela imizwa ukukhanya? Futhi asikho isiqinisekiso sokuthi razluchnitsa uyojabula nalo. Njengoba kuyinto, boomerang ibuyisela njalo, eyaziwa 'wakhaphela esisodwa - akhaphele futhi. " Enye into, lapho umyeni wami uthanda omunye.

Lapha, ikakhulukazi uma umndeni unezingane inhlekelele ethile kwenzeka. Nokho, unikezwa iqiniso lokuthi ukuphila inzondo (yebo, sikubiza ngehalavu ngehalavu) nomkakhe, ngisho izingane kungekho injabulo noma wakhe, noma iziphingi, noma, yebo, nginomuzwa wokuthi indlu into hhayi njengezingane zalowo neze ke ukuthi kuzohlomula ngokubamba yokugcina. Prakthiza ebonisa ukuthi izingane ezikhula esimweni sezinzwa, ningofakazi izingxabano emndenini, ngisho umndeni okuphelele kungaba ukhule ube izakhiwo kanye zokwesaba. Ngakho, musa ukufunda kube ngcono ukuba asimukise inkosikazi ethandekayo ukuntanta ngokukhululekile, noma unikele kuye isikhathi ihlale ngokwahlukana? Man, Nokho kakhulu angase uthando nomunye, okuningi enamathiselwe umndeni. It ifakwe zofuzo, futhi kukhona akunakugwenywa. Wahamba ohlangothini, mhlawumbe ngisho inyanga, uyokwazi ukuba baqonde futhi ikhaya yokwamukela nomkakhe, okwakwenza kube lula ukuthola ukuthi angakwazi ukuqonda thethelela ikulungele ukwamukela umyeni yolahleko emuva njalo.