Ingabe kuyiqiniso ukuthi Christianity isitshela mayelana nobulili nomshado?

UbuKristu ngokuvamile ziwumthwalo amagugu ethile emshadweni, futhi ikakhulukazi ezindabeni ocansini. Nokho, uye eside umphakathi washintsha, baba avuleke kakhudlwana, ngakho manje lezi zinqubo asihlobene. Hlobo luni amaKristu amanga uqhubeke ukusakaza?

Ukuhlala umsulwa - umcimbi yemvelo

Uma uke waya ocansini, uyayeka ukuba intombi - okungenani, yilokho ucelwa ukuba bakholwe esontweni. Ngempela, i-izinkolo eziningi isonto kukhona nomehluko ocacile phakathi kwezimfundiso lokho kwaba phambi Ukungena, futhi lokhu kwakungemva kokuba, okuyinto ichaza umqondo bobuntombi. Kodwa onjani umbuzo othile ngocansi? Kuthathwa ukuthi kuleli cala ubulili obenziwa ngomlomo? Kuthiwani bendunu? Noma ingabe usebenza kuphela ekuhlanganyeleni ubulili athandana nabesifazane? Eqinisweni umbono virgin njengoba umcimbi begazi has nezihibe, imane senhlalo esebenzela eminye alondoloze ubumsulwa isiko. Ukuhlala umsulwa akukwenzi ube khona njengoba izenzakalo olulodwa begazi. Eqinisweni, ukulahlekelwa kwakhe - yinqubo babesuka okwamanje lapho Awunawo wokuya ocansini kukammangali ngaphezulu ekuphileni, futhi le nqubo has izigaba eziningana. okunengqondo Okuningi ukusho ukuthi ubuntombi ikhona njengenkampani umqondo, esiza ukunquma izinga wokuya ocansini kukammangali kuka ukusho ukuthi umcimbi begazi.

Umshado ngokuzenzakalela kwenza ucansi ezimangalisayo kubo bonke

Sex kungaba emangalisayo emva komshado. Kodwa kungaba futhi kungabi kuhle ezimbi. Yebo, ebusuku lwakho lomshado kungaba okuhlangenwe nakho ngokobulili ngingafaneleki futhi ebukekayo, kodwa akukho okubi ngalokho. ubulili okuphumelelayo kudinga ngokuyinhloko ukusondelana ithemba, obala, ubudlelwane kanye ukwaneliseka sobabili. Lezi zinto bungatholakala ngaphandle komshado, kodwa kungabuye kakhulu zayiqinisa ngomshado. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi amaKristu amaningi athi, ukholo eBhayibhelini ayenzi ukuphila kwakho kobulili ngokuzenzakalela esihle. Ubulili iba ngokuyisimangaliso ngokushesha njengoba ubeka isiginesha yakho ku isitifiketi somshado nesokuba sithole isibusiso sokuphila umpristi.

Ucansi abantu kwabobulili of abesilisa nabesifazane ezahlukene

Wonke umuntu oye wezwa kuBaba futhi izikhathi eziningi: "Uma indoda ilala nomunye umuntu - ke kuyisinengiso." Amasonto amaningi namanje ubambe imfundiso yenkolo elahla budebuduze abantu bobulili obufanayo kanye ajezise abantu abayizinkonkoni abangafuni iyahlangabezana nezindinganiso zokuziphatha kobulili, abakhiphe ebandleni. Ngokufanayo, bathi, nokuthi ucansi kuphela abantu kwabobulili of abesilisa nabesifazane ezahlukene, ukubuqeda ngokuphelele kungenzeka umsebenzi wocansi kuwo wonke amalungu omphakathi we-LGBT. Ngisho nabantu kobakhe musa Unelungelo ocansini, ngokuvumelana isonto. Ngenxa elinye lamasonto zishicilelwe muva ukuthi kobakhe kuyindlela elicwengekile ubungqingili.

Uma agana ebudaleni obuthile kuphela, uma unenkinga

Kwezinye izingxenye zomhlaba yobuKristu ngicindezeleka kakhulu abantu, igxile yokuthi baye bathola umlingani ukuphila, baze engu-25 ubudala. Le ngcindezi mkhulu kangaka ukuthi abanye abantu bakholelwa yithemba, uma ungakwazi ukuthola umngane womshado ngaphambi kwalolu suku kuyesabeka. Mark Regnerus ngo-2009, wabhala: "Ngo-imizamo labo ukuze baphoqelele nobumsulwa nobumsulwa sikhohlwe ukufundisa intsha engamaKristu indlela tie kahle ifindo." Izimpikiswano esivuna umshado ekuseni bagxile wenzalo idealized yencazelo kweBhayibheli umshado kwabobulili nokwethembeka. Nokho, ayikho iminyaka yobudala isethi lapho kufanele ashade. Ungaba engu-26 ubudala, ngeke ukwazi ukuthi ube uzakwethu futhi ukuba balungele ukuthandana, futhi lokhu ngeke kube yinkinga.

Ubulili ngaphambi komshado kukwenza "izimpahla ezilimele"

Akekho "ezilimele izimpahla." Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ziningi kangakanani izikhathi uya ocansini - ke akukwenzi ube "ezilimele izimpahla." Lokhu amanga kuyingozi ikakhulukazi kulabo abaye banukubezwa ngokobulili esikhathini esidlule. Abameleli ubumsulwa ukunyakaza kukhona ukwesaba okujulile ukuthi uma "ukunikeza thina" noma "ake ngendlela umuntu", uzoba ziphangwe. Kodwa ukuphila ayisebenzi kahle. ukuphendula Human okwakwenzeka kuye, noma kungaba izenzakalo ezinhle noma ezimbi, kumenza umuntu anguye. Ukusho ukuthi noma iluphi uhlobo umsebenzi wocansi kukwenza "ezilimele" - kungcono into efanayo ethi zonke nalokho, elise phakathi emilenzeni, futhi lokhu kuyinto i amanga ngokuphelele.

Umuntu wesifazane kufanele kuhlangatshezwane nezidingo amadoda

Eqinisweni, njengoba ibandla lithi ngobuhlobo bobulili, amazinga obala ebonakalayo double. Uhlala ohlangothini amadoda kule ndaba futhi uyifake idinga kuphakame kakhulu kunalokho zabesifazane. ISonto ukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane kufanele bakulungele ukuhlangabezana nezidingo amadoda njalo, nganoma isiphi isikhathi futhi kunoma isiphi isimo. Nokho, leli qiniso ayibhekiseli yokuthi amadoda ukuhlangabezana nezidingo abesifazane ngandlela-thile, kungaba ngokobulili nanoma ibuphi obunye izidingo. Umlobi ongumKristu Mark Driscoll uya kude kangaka kwalezi zahlulelo lithi uma owesifazane owayeshushumbisa kwenqatshiwe kufaneleke ukuba amadoda abe ucansi (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngasiphi isizathu - ke singaba njengesihluthulelo ukwenqena evamile noma izinkathazo, ubuhlungu noma ukuhlukumezeka kokuhlangenwe nakho ngokocansi) banobugovu futhi ezingqubuzana nentando kaNkulunkulu. Sekuyisikhathi ukubeka amarekhodi aqondile «i» bathi bha: abesifazane ungeyena ubulili siqu amathoyizi amadoda.

Abesilisa ukushada ngenxa ubulili, ukuthi abesifazane bashada ngoba uthando

Abanye abalobi olandelanayo umKristu ubuchaza amadoda ngokuthi "zasendle", okuyinto musa athwale noma yimuphi umthwalo ngezenzo zabo. Lokhu ngemibono ubulili ingenye bhá. Abantu ishade futhi ukushada ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Ubulili nothando akuzona izizathu kuphela okuyinto abantu ukubopha ifindo. Nokho, iyodwa into esiqiniseka ngayo: asikho isizathu akukhona okukhethekile kunoma ubulili.

Umshado - kungokwaphakade

Nakuba lokhu akuhlali ngokucacile, kodwa abesifazane belulekwa ukuba njalo ukuthethelela kubayeni babo, ngisho noma njalo ukuzishintsha noma bashaywe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane wathonyelwa ukuba bahlukanise nabayeni babo, ngoba isehlukaniso namanje kubhekwa izinkolo yobuKristu olandelanayo njengoba isenzo oziphethe kabi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, inhlamba ephelelwe yisikhathi mayelana ubuntombi ungakwazi ukwenza abesifazane isehlukaniso kwakunzima futhi kubuhlungu.

Ukushaya indlwabu - kuyisono (futhi, mhlawumbe, uphawu ngobungqingili)

Ukukhuthaza ubumsulwa ubuKristu olandelanayo kuhambisana ukungabethembi indlwabu kwabesifazane nabesilisa. Amanye amaKristu aye ngokuthi ngisho nesenzo indlwabu, kobungqingili. Bathi wokushaya indlwabu kungenza kube uhlobo ubungqingili, njengoba kuba isenzo socansi ukuthi aluhileli umuntu wobulili obuhlukile. Ngokuvamile uwukuthi zonke izizathu eziphikisa indlwabu sehliselwe indaba kweBhayibheli Onani, indoda ezichithekile ngamabomu imbewu emhlabathini - futhi lokhu kuwubufakazi wokona indlwabu. Kodwa kunzima beveza khulu nga. Ukushaya indlwabu - kuba ngokuphelele inqubo evamile, ukuziphatha enempilo kulabo abanayo umlingani wawo, futhi kulabo zisebuhlotsheni noma nje angasebenzi ngokobulili.