Indlela ukutshela abazali mayelana nokukhulelwa: kungani kunzima kangaka?

Izingane - lokhu kuyisimangaliso omkhulu, esiwuphiwe kwaphezulu. Ukuzalwa kwengane - kuyinto isakramente ukuthi kunikezwa ukwazi, ngeshwa, hhayi wonke umuntu. Ngakho-ke, uma kwakusadingeka inhlanhla yakhe yokuba umama, thatha ngalezi zindaba injabulo!

Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ku isinqumo endabeni yokuzalwa ingane ithonywe kakhulu izici zangaphandle ezithinta ntombazane elithile noma ngenye indlela: abazali, umphakathi, ubudala, umsebenzi kanye nesifundo. Amantombazane asemancane, ngokuvamile, ngoba isikole esisodwa izimpikiswano ezibalulekile kuba umbuzo kanjani ukutshela abazali bakhe ngokunukubezwa sokukhulelwa?

Zonke yinkimbinkimbi isimo siba wukuthi umphumela ingxoxo oluzayo ngeke ngqo sithonye ubuhlobo okwalandela phakathi indodakazi nabazali, kanye kule kuncike isiphetho ingane. Le ntombazane kulowonyaka ngokwako akukwazi ukunikeza ingane, uma engekho oshadile, ngakho-ke kuncike ngokuphelele labo wazibuza yona futhi okwamanje unesibopho ke.

Ngakho-ke, indlela ukwazisa abazali mayelana nokukhulelwa, kubalulekile ukucabanga kusengaphambili futhi kahle kakhulu. Njengomthetho, ekuqaleni kudingeka bahlole degree obulukhuni isimo. Uma ingane ethanda wena isoka lakho noma umyeni ngokuvumelana azalwa ngabo bamlethela phezulu uthando, ukuba nezinto ezibonakalayo ezithile ke izinkinga nogogo nomkhulu esizayo akufanele kube.

Shiya isimo ezahlukene kungenzeka, lapho intombazane aphonswe Man nengane kuzoletha eyodwa. Indlela ukutshela abazali mayelana nokukhulelwa, lapho isimo ahlale umama ongayedwa ekuqaleni usetha bezibona engakhi? Yiqiniso, uma abazali ngokumelene ukuzalwa komntwana, ungakwazi singaphoqi siqu sakhe, ukuba babe nomntwana, futhi ngokumelene nentando yabo, ukuzama ukufundisa kwakhe. Kodwa-ke kubalulekile ukuthi ukuqonda uma ungakwazi ukufundisa kwakhe, ukuhlinzeka ukunakekelwa okufanele nakho konke kudingekile ukuthi kufanele. Phela, abasha yobudala komama kusikisela ukuntuleka kwemfundo futhi amathemba ube usebenza umsebenzi ovamile, inqobo nje uma kuzoba umuntu ukuba nginakekele ingane ngalesi sikhathi.

Khumbula ukuthi inkinga nabazali ixhomeke onjani ubuhlobo onazo nabo futhi nomunye. Uma umndeni owandile ukuhloniphana nothando, inkinga ngokunezela ngeke abukhali. Uma kukhona eminye yokungezwani yangaphakathi ekhaya, kungase kube nobunzima. Into esemqoka - ungesabi! Believe kubo, bayakuba ukholwa!

Amanye amantombazane kukhona lula kakhulu ukusho mayelana nokukhulelwa kwabanye omunye wabazali, nomuntu onjani nobuhlobo ukwethenjwa. Ukuze uthole ukwaziswa sendlela ukutshela unina mayelana nokukhulelwa, uma eyoba uhlobo lomuntu yena ngokuvamile ngeke bakhathazeke kakhulu. Uma umama - oyedwa umqondo, ngubani ongcono ngeke baqonde futhi basekele? Kodwa umama wazi zonke izici zokuba umama, zonke ezicashile abantwana, lokuzalwa futhi anakekele, futhi kungaholela eziningi agumenti "ngoba" futhi "ngokumelene" ukukhulelwa ekuseni.

Njengomthetho, indlela ukutshela abazali bakhe ngokunukubezwa ukukhulelwa, amantombazane ukubuza odokotela bengqondo, benethemba lokuthola uthole izincomo ephelele futhi kuyenzeka. Nokho, umuntu akakwazi uphola wena ngamaphesenti ayikhulu iseluleko esihle. Uma azi bo zali futhi owaziyo ukuthi ukuze uwathole efanele.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ngeke kudingeke ukuba uzesabe - abayikho nabangane bakho kanye labo bantu bomdabu abathanda futhi baqonde kangcono kunanoma ubani omunye. Uma kungenjalo bona, khona-ke ungubani na ukuqonda nokusekela, ubani ozothola isixazululo elilungile? Ngidinga ukukhuluma kubo, hhayi wafihla Kukhonjiswa noma kufihlwa noma yini. Lokho nokuvuleka kuyozisiza ukuba baqonde isimo njengoba kufanele. Ungesabi ukutshela zonke, ngisho noma kunguwena wedwa namahloni noma ungakhululekile. Abantu ababeka sibelethe futhi ngawakhulisa, bamsole njalo ukuqonda. Bonisa umama nobaba ukuthi uyabahlonipha nokuthi imibono yabo, ukubuza imibuzo, uma ungakwazi ngaso sonke isikhathi atshele. ukuhloniphana kuphela kuzoholela ukuqonda! Ukuze ufunde indlela ukutshela abazali bakhe ngokunukubezwa sokukhulelwa, yini amazwi ukukhetha, kufanele uzicabangele wena, kodwa khumbula ukuba ukhulumele ingcono kakhulu ukuba bathule! Noma kunjalo, kulesi simo.