Yini ongayitshela intombazane emhlanganweni? Senza uxhumano

Amadoda amaningi akhononda ukuthi akakwazi ukuthola iphuzu lokuxhumana engxoxweni nobulili obuhlukile. Abafana bayamangala ngempela ukuthi indaba yabo enobudlova yokuthi bathenga kanjani imoto izolo, ngokukhululeka ngokuchazwa ngokugcwele nokuchaza okuningiliziwe kwezici zayo zobuchwepheshe kanye nemigomo yobuchwepheshe yomgibeli we-amateur, akenzi umphumela oyifunayo intombazane. Esikhundleni sokushaya izandla ngokuzithokozisa, le nkosikazi cishe isivele igxuma kakhulu futhi ibheka izinkukhu eceleni. Ingabe ufuna ukufunda ukuthi ungafunda kanjani ukuxhumana namantombazane ngolimi lwabo? Bese ufunda ku. Sithemba ukuthi lolu lwazi luzokusiza ukuba uqale ukuxhumana nocansi obuhlukile.

Ake sithi uhlangane nomngane othakazelisayo futhi ufuna ukumjabulisa ngengxoxo yenhlalo ethandekayo. Yini ongayitshela intombazane esimweni esinjalo ukuthi ishintshe ngokuphelele indoda? Kumelwe masinyane sixwayise ukuthi umbuthano wezidingo zabesifazane bonke awufani, njengoba kungase kubonakale ekuqaleni. Phakathi kwezidalwa ezinamalenze ezindala ezinamaqabunga, kunezikhathi ezithile ngezinye izikhathi, ukuhlanganisa ingqikithi ekhompyutheni imizuzu emihlanu, ukwazi bonke abadlali beqembu lebhola lezinyawo elizithandayo ngenhliziyo noma ukwazi injini yemoto kanye nenkosi yangempela. Uma ungesiyo okokuqala ukuhlangana nalomuntu, khona-ke mhlawumbe usuvele wazi ukuthi yini ongayitshela. Intombazane entsha ingase ingabi nesithakazelo esihlokweni lapho ugibele khona.

Ungasheshi ukuphonsa imibuzo yowesifazane. Abesifazane besilisa lapho behlangana bengasheshi ukudalula i-satellite yonke i-trumps. Futhi yiliphi uhlobo lentombazane elingafuni ukuhlala okungenani ngendwangu ye-chevalier yakhe? Le nentshiseko, ngokuqinisekile ayijabuli. Noma kunjalo, abesifazane bathanda ukulalela.

Yeka okukhethwa kukho okuwina-win and universal. Khumbula indaba ejabulisayo evela empilweni yakho. Esikhathini esidlulele kakhulu, indaba umngane akutshele yona kanye nayo izokwehla. Kodwa ungazitholi nje amahlaya angenangqondo namafutha. Akuwona wonke owesifazane oyobazisa. Lokhu kungcono kakhulu ukugcinwa inkampani eqinile yamadoda. Izindaba ezithakazelisayo zamantombazane ziyizindaba ezigcwala imibala engokomzwelo, kanye nokuxhumana okusebenzayo kwabalingiswa. Ngakho-ke, khipha eceleni, uma kungenzeka, zonke izikebhe eziphathelene nesinyathelo "sensimbi".

Yini ongayitshela intombazane? Yebo noma yini. Uma nje ube nomkhathi wenkulumo enhle phakathi kwabadlali. Faka phakathi ukucabangela nokucabanga. Ngisho noma kungekho okunye okuza engqondweni ngaphandle kokuvakasha kwezolo kulomhlangano wemoto, ungayishaya nalokhu. Tshela umngane wakho othakazelisayo ukuthi ubuhle obuhle futhi buhle kangakanani uchwepheshe, ukuthi ukhulume kabi kanjani ngale nkinga, ukuthi uzame kanjani ukwehlisa intengo yokulungisa. Imizwelo eminingi, izincazelo ezingezansi zesimo kanye nemigomo yobuchwepheshe. Ngaphandle kwalokho, usengozini yokulahlekelwa intombi yakho ngokuphelele.

Musa ukuchitha isikhathi eside futhi ucabange ngenkuthalo ngalokho okumele utshele intombazane phakathi nosuku. Kulesi simo, angase acabange ukuthi uyamkhathaza. Futhi ukuhlukana okuvamile okungaqondakali akubonakali umuntu ohloniphekile. Usuku oluthile lungacabangi ukucasula umngane ngomhlangano wesibili. Ungalindeli isinyathelo esiyingxenye yakhe. Inkosikazi kumele ithathwe kuqala. Kuphela-ke kuzokwazi ukukhululeka ngokuphelele ekukhulumisaneni futhi kuzoba lula ukunikeza izihloko ezintsha zezingxoxo.

Ungesabi ukusho okuthile okunamandla kakhulu futhi okuncane. Ngempela, ngento okudingeka uqale. Yebo, futhi uma uthanda intombazane, uzokuthethelela izinto ezincane zokuxhumana. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzolwazi kangcono, futhi inkinga enjalo izonyamalalala yodwa.