Umfazi waseFrigid: indlela yokubhekana nale nkinga?

Phakathi kwazo zonke izizathu zokuthi imibhangqwana eshadile ihlukana ngisho nangemva kweminyaka eminingi yokuhlala ndawonye, ukunganeliseki ngokocansi (kokubili amadoda nabesifazane) kuthatha isikhundla esiphambili. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi umbono, kodwa ngamacala angu-90%, akusona "owesilisa onesihluku" okusola, kepha umfazi okhuni.

Lesi yisifo esisodwa kuphela sezimfazi esingavumeli ukujabulela kokubili "abashade" bokuphila obusondelene bobabili bomshado , okwenza kungabikho izingxabano eziningi kuphela, kodwa nemikhankaso "ehlangothini" evamile.

Kuthi ukuthini "intombazane ekhuni"?

U-Frigidity ungowesifazane, ezikhathini eziningi izingqondo ze-psychosomatic (izici ezingokwengqondo noma ezikhohlisayo zenkinga ziletha ukuphazanyiswa ngokomzimba nangokwenyama emzimbeni womzimba) isifo lapho intombazane ingakwazi ukujabulela ubuhlobo bobulili nomuntu futhi kwezinye izimo asinaso isifiso sokuyidala .

Lokhu kuvame ukubonakaliswa eqinisweni lokuthi owesifazane, ongafundile injabulo efanele emva kwesinye isenzo socansi, okuhlangenwe nakho kwemizwa emibi, okuyiyo imcindezela ukuba ibalekele ukusondelana, ihlele izizathu ezihlukahlukene zalokhu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kodwa kusukela emzuzwana othile, uqala ukukholelwa kuzo kangangokuthi sebevele babonakale bengempela. Lokhu kuba yisithiyo esinamandla ekwelapheni lesi sifo.

Ngifudumele! Kungani?

Izizathu zokwakheka komzimba ikakhulukazi zengqondo: ukungabi nokuthandana ngokobulili, ukubhekwa okungcolile ngokobulili komuntu wesifazane, okwakhiwe ngamacabangela, ukungafuni owesifazane ukuthuthukisa ubulili, futhi ngisho nesipiliyoni sokuqala sokulala ngokobulili. Umlingani ocansi ocansini angabamba iqhaza ekusenzeni ukwanda, kepha ngokuvamile lesi sitatimende sihlala ezingeni lezinganekwane. Cishe zonke izimo, umfazi okhuni ngumphumela wendoda "engalungile," kodwa umshado olula.

Ukwanda kweqiniso kwenzeka kuphela ekubunjweni kwezicubu ezimbi zesistimu yokuzala noma uma kwenzeka izinkinga zomzimba wesifazane. Kuzo zonke ezinye zikhuluma ngobukhuni bamanga.

Uma owesifazane ezitholile ngobunzima, kuyadingeka ukuya emtholampilo oseduzane ukuhlolwa okuphelele komzimba, bese - ukwelashwa okuphoqelekile we-sexist and psychotherapist. Ngendlela, umlingani wakhe uphakanyiswa ukuvakashelwa okuphoqelekile ochwepheshe abangenhla.

Umfazi waseFrigid: uma inkinga ayiyona inkinga

Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili - ukungabikho komzimba kungaba yiqiniso, futhi ukungafuni ukulala nomlingani ngaphansi kwesizathu sokuqina komzimba kuzokusho ukungafuni ukulala nokulala, hhayi nabo bonke abantu. Uma umfazi "obandayo" onendoda enhle kakhulu engabonakali ekhaya futhi ethanda "ukuchitha isikhathi nabangani", khona-ke lokhu kuyiqiniso elivamile lokuphinga. Futhi yonke "uthando", ashade naye, linciphisa laba yimali.

Yini umuntu okufanele ayenze uma enomfazi okhuni?

Isimiso sokugunyazwa sokulondoloza umndeni kulesi simo ukusekelwa okugcwele komshado womunye nomunye. Umyeni ongekho icala akufanele agcwalise ama-hysteric noma asole yonke into emphefumulweni wakho womuntu. Inkinga isuke isingathekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imithi yokwelashwa isikhathi eside nesesabekayo. Kule ndaba kuphela umbhangqwana oshadile ngeke athole injabulo kuphela "yenyama", kodwa futhi nokuvumelana okulindelwe isikhathi eside ebuhlotsheni.