Umama wathi ukuthi ngeke nje ongethemba umuntu ... kanjani amandla okubhekana eyeqisayo?

Ngenhlanhla, manje kancane amantombazane wakhulela amasiko yamaFilisti unenhlonipho eyedlulele. Noma kunjalo, kukhona imindeni lapho omama ogogo elwela phikelela ukuthi umuntu akakwazi owethembekile lutho, ukuthi noma ubani ofuna ukuba bajwayelane intokazi ngifuna ukuzijabulisa ukukhanya kuphela. Ngakho kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyingozi nokuthi eyeqisayo ngokuqondene nokuphathana ubulili ezinjalo?

Yiqiniso, isikhathi manje kunzima, zibe yingozi, zeziyaluyalu. Bayanda umuntu efuna lokuzenzela izinqumo, elizobhekana izenzo uzibophezele. Ayikho isikhungo kuqomisana, lapho oshade naye yakhe iyenziwa phambi seshumi, futhi kuphela ke ngomusa bavunyelwe ukucela esandleni UMaria, intombazane evela ekhaya ezinhle. Ngombono Ongathí Sina kwenjongo maqondana ladies yayibonakala inakho wawuzoba inkomba okunokwethenjelwa ngekusasa womshado womshado. Kepha kalokhu asikaziboni behleka eziningi eyeqisayo. Phela, nabo basuke kwezincwadi kuncike ezintweni nakho kwethu okungafanele, noma - nakakhulu - kusuka imizwa enobandlululo eyayikhona ngaleso isizukulwane amadala vdolblennye ikhanda. Abantu wakhulela uhlelo lokulawula Imininingwane nokungathembani, isiqiniseko, ekuqaleni, ukuthi awukwazi uthemba indoda, futhi okwesibili (lokhu kusebenza ezingaba umalokazana), ukuthi wonke amantombazane nje bheka isikhwama noma ephaketheni e umkhwenyana esizayo.

Ukuze baphile ngaphansi kwesimo izinsolo nokwesaba kungenzeka, kodwa hlobo luni lokuphila? Uma intombazane esencane kusukela eseyingane okhandwe ngesando ekhanda lakhe ukuthi le ndoda akanakuthenjwa lutho, khona-ke uyokwazi ukubona indoda endaweni engaba umlingani? Ingabe ukuqonda kanye nokulinganisa izidingo zakhe, imizwa yakhe, izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle? Noma kuzothathwa njengesitha, izinsolo, futhi kuphela elinde isiliphu kancane?

Ngokusho odokotela bengqondo yesimanje kanye nodokotela umndeni awunayo yini awukwazi uthemba indoda. Kunalokho, noma yisiphi izinyathelo ezihlose ekulondolozweni umndeni noma Union, ukubandakanya ngokuyinhloko nokuvuleka nangobuqotho. Hhayi othembela omunye umuntu, abaseduze, thina sizincisha ezibaluleke kakhulu - kwengxoxo inhliziyo naye. Eyeqisayo emshadweni kungaba kuphela babhebhethekisa inkinga. Eqinisweni, cishe akukho lutho awukwazi uthemba indoda. Loving indoda nengane perepelenaet futhi sipheka, nomndeni ukunikeza. Imindeni lapho kudala bekungaba isandla ihlukaniswe, ngizibuza kungaba indlela indoda abasha ukufunda ukukhonza ngokwabo futhi - uma kudingekile - nomkakhe nengane. Phela, akekho kithi ogonyelwe sifo, sokukhubazeka yesikhashana, izinhlekelele ukuphila.

Uma siqala kusuka isimiso ukuthi akekho singamethemba, asisoze bakwazi ukwakha ebuhlotsheni obuhle omunye umuntu. Cabanga ngalokhu: ubungazizwa kanjani uma emhlabeni beqonda kuphela njengoba umthombo wezinkinga noma umuntu oyingozi? Nokho, isimo ungakhululekile? Ukucwaswa mayelana izindima ubulili - ezifana yokuthi awukwazi ongethemba umuntu lokuthi bonke abantu besifazane kukhona eziwubala ufuna amadoda ocebile ukuthi abesifazane kufanele uhlale ekhaya futhi bakhulise izingane zabo, kanye umlingani uzoziphilisa - izinkinga ubuhlobo bethu kuphela. Isinyathelo sokuqala endleleni eya ngokuvumelana somshado kukhona nje obuqotho ukufudumala. Ziyakwazi awunakuba khona ngaphandle kokuthethelela lokhu - egcwele - ithemba.