Ukunqunywa yokuhlala wengane ngosizo luhlolo ngokwengqondo

Abazali ujike kusevisi ngokwengqondo uma kwenzeka ukuthi inkinga ekunqumeni indawo lapho Ngokuzayo bayophila ezincane, kuyinto impikiswano futhi edidayo. Lapho uyise nonina, sengathi ukufeza inkantolo isinqumo esihle ukuze zihambelane nabo. Iziphathimandla sivikelwe akha umbono wazo Ukubhekisisa amaqiniso athile: ukuba khona izimo zokuphila, yokufunda nabazali bayakwazi qualitatively sifeze inqubo yemfundo. Ngenxa yalokho, ukunikeza umbono kwencazelo indawo yokuhlala wengane. Izinjongo luhlolo ngokwengqondo: ukunquma izici ubuntu ngabanye abazali, isimo sengqondo sengane ngokomzwelo Ngamunye kubo futhi mancane amathemba okuthi ukuthuthukiswa yayo esimweni esithile emndenini.

luhlolo kwenqondo eyenziwa ngochwepheshe eziningana. Lokhu kungaba psychoanalyst ingane, isazi sezifo zengqondo ingane futhi wezengqondo umndeni. ekomidini uchwepheshe Oku-ilungu kubhekwe nesitatimende isimangalo kwencazelo indawo wengane uhlala kulo, okuyinto sivunyiwe ummeli ummangali. Isidingo azokuqhubela luhlolo kwengqondo nakho kungase kuthiwe yinkantolo ngenxa imihlangano edlule. On the ezimisiwe usuku abazali nengane umenywe inqubo luhlolo, okuyinto ethatha amahora okungenani amabili.

Kuye yobudala kwengane, wathembisa amathoyizi, amapensela, umklami. Yena manipulates kubo ngokukhululekile phakathi nengxoxo yokuqala oyedwa bese enye. Izingqapheli ukurekhoda izinga lokukhathazeka ezenzeka ingane, kanye okuqukethwe imidlalo yakhe kanye nemidwebo ezilotshwe kule imizuzu. Ukunqunywa yokuhlala wengane kuwumphumela ukuhlolwa olunzulu. Ukuze ingane esetshenziswa projective amasu: Umdwebo Family, Luscher ukuhlolwa umbala izintandokazi noma ezinye umbono uchwepheshe. Umdwebo ingane nomndeni ngokomfanekiso ibonisa sibalo esikhulu ephezulu kanye ichaza indawo yayo phezu ephepheni. Isimo sabo sengqondo kuya unina noma uyise nengane ukhuluma nge umfanekiso othile wabo side by side, futhi ngosizo imibala, futhi ngosizo yokukhuluma.

Ukuhlola kusiza abazali babone amagugu yabo, isimo sengqondo kanye nobuhlobo ukuze indlela abantu abakhuliswe ngayo wengane. Ubungazizwa kanjani abafuni umzali ukuba kahle uphendula imibuzo, isihluthulelo ukuhlola ingxoxo phambili wezifo ezosisiza ubuhlobo bomuntu kanye ingane kweqiniso, futhi kuya obeshade. Uma kuwukuthi indawo esinqunyiwe yokuhlala izingane (ezimbili, ezintathu noma ngaphezulu), i-zokuxhumana Kwenziwa nawo wonke umuntu. Uma izingane base bamukelwe kakade lapho efinyelela iminyaka eyishumi, futhi ingxoxo iqhutshwa ukucacisa indawo oyifunayo. It is kunakwe futhi yokuthi izingane Ungakhetha umzali ofuna ngaphansi ayenzi yokufunda akulawuli izenzo zabo. Ngakho-ke, incazelo indawo wengane uhlala kuyoba esivuna umzali abangakwazi ukudala izimo ezikahle kakhulu ukukhula nokuthuthuka kwengane.

Umntwana unolwazi ngalokho, yena uhlala, unina noma uyise, abahlala ngokuhlukile, zihlale azoyithola abazali bakhe lokuzalwa, futhi unelungelo ukuhlangana nabo, ukubona ngesikhathi, okuyinto kuquntwe yikhotho. Lokhu kungase kube ngempelasonto noma kusihlwa amahora. Ukunqunywa yokuhlala wengane kungase kungabi sokugcina. Noma yimuphi umzali engafaka waphinda abe ummangali ukuze usingathe lolu daba enkantolo.

Ochwepheshe batusa ukuthi abazali ngokwabo nolimi bangase babe okwengeziwe ukulungiswa ezingokwengqondo, ozokusiza ukuba asuse isimo esicindezelayo, sihlaziye izizathu isehlukaniso, ekugcineni nihlukane ne womshado noma ukuwavuselela kuleveli entsha.