Kanjani ukushaya ubuvila? Bheka wenkinga

Ubuvila - a okuphambene imfashini. Omunye noma omunye udumo lo onesibindi sokukhuluma out, ukuthi, kahle, bengiyakunitshela ukuthi ngiya izuzwe (la) kakhulu, uma kungekhona ubuvila. Lokho kuyaqondakala ukuthi ikhono indoda kufihlwe omkhulu, kodwa ayifakiwe, ngoba umuntu okwenza imizamo. Ngokuvamile lolu hlobo coquetry. Ithalenta - into impikiswano. Kodwa ake hhayi ukugxila amakhono badlulele umbuzo "Bangaki ukushaya ubuvila?"

Ngokuvamile, kubalulekile ukuba bahlukanise phakathi ubuvila, ukukhathala. Uma usebenza (yokufunda) ngoba angaphezulu kwangu-8 ngosuku, kodwa ayinandaba ukuthi awukwazi ukusebenza amahora 10-12, wena - bezikhali nesineke owelapha kwathiwa unesifo "asebenze" hhayi ivila. Ngakho kudingeka ngokushesha anqunywe isigaba abafundi futhi ubatshele afune usizo owelapha. Akusizi ukuphendula umbuzo "Bangaki ukushaya ubuvila?", Uma engayinaki izidingo umzimba kanye psyche.

Uma ungasebenzi futhi abakwazi ukuletha ngokwami ukwenza into kunesidingo, kungenye into. Futhi imithombo ezimbili okudingeka ukuhlukanisa sitholakele "ezivilaphayo." Kwesinye isenzakalo, wena basolwa ubuvila emhlabeni, futhi, ngomqondo obanzi, kuwumqondo omuhle kanjalo uphile. Thatha iseluleko - izincazelo ezinjalo zabanye kungenziwa ngokuphepha indiva. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ufuna ukusebenza, futhi awazi ukukhipha nabo umphumela kulindeleke. Ngakho kungenzeka ukuba ukubaleka, sokuphumula futhi uqhubeke nokuphila. Kodwa esimweni sesibili kuyinto mnandi ngoba sobuvila ingabe besola wena. Cabangela isimo kabanzi.

Ngokuvamile mayelana nendlela ukushaya ubuvila, abantu bacabanga ngemva kokulimala kabi - luhlolo, okuyinto ayeyivalile, ubuhlobo ukuthi waphela ngenxa passivity of omunye abalingani, ukulahlekelwa inzuzo ebhizinisini. Futhi uma umuntu enquma ukuthi udinga unqobe ubuvila ukwenza okwengeziwe.

Kudingeka ukuthi uqale nilwe ekuhlaziyweni kudingeka imigomo wena kushiwo ngempela noma cha. Inkinga eyinhloko nesisusa ubangelwa yokuthi "lazy" umuntu kusukela ebuntwaneni eziphoqelelwe "Umgomo omuhle", futhi nje uhlala "kancane like." Mhlawumbe udinga ukuba sijabule akuyona umsebenzi ophezulu ehhovisi nocwaningo microparticles? Le ndoda akuyona isicebi, kodwa uthisha elula othanda izincwadi? Hhayi imoto entsha, futhi ingane yesithathu endlini?

amagugu eqiniso ngokuvamile vika kithi. Cabanga, uma awuwinanga ilotho, ungenzani. Okungaphezu kokumane nje uchithe imali boring. Thatha ilungelo ukuzibekela imigomo amahora ambalwa. Kungcono ukuba bahoxe umphakathi, ukuthatha umculo wakho oyintandokazi bese uya cabanga nemvelo. Ungacabangi ukuthi ngeke ukutshela abanye ngezindaba umgomo wakho. imigomo kwabanye abantu ayinawo amandla kubo uzobe awusona isihloko impilo ye ngashaywa, awuhloniphekile.

Uma umgomo wakho futhi unqobe ubuvila kungasebenzi, zama ukuhlaziya ukuthi kokuma wena. ngokuvamile yebhizinisi ngenxa yokungabikhona kolwazi. Awufuni ukwenza nomaphi, futhi akukho ukusetshenziswa kwamandla ukuchitha isihawu - ukuthi lutho wayethunjiwe. Ngakho, kudingeka ufune ulwazi izinga. Uma une incazelo nakho kwabanye abantu, ungenawo ukuchitha isikhathi ku kokusungulwa ibhayisekili ungaqala emsebenzini ezithakazelisayo ngempela futhi akhuthazayo.

Ubuvila kuyindlela okucashile ukuphelelwa yithemba. Kulokhu, umuntu ecabanga ukuthi isikhathi sakhe isidlulile, akasoze uwine umncintiswano, sibuthathe endaweni sitjhidela ngoba akanasabelo amandla. Uma kuba - uma yakho, ngincoma ukuba bazofunda le ncwadi ngo-Jeff Colvin "I ithalente e-lutho." It uphefumulela ukusebenza impahla yakhe oluyiqiniso kufakazela ukuthi ikhono kokuzalwa - ke polumif. Abantu buvelele kanjani ngempela impumelelo ngezithukuthuku ifomu ekhethekile, lapho umbhali ubiza "umkhuba ngamabomu."

Uma uzimisele ukushintsha into ekuphileni kwakhe, ukulungele ukubuza imibuzo futhi ukufuna izimpendulo - kusho icala lakho akunzima, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzoba negunya abanye udaba "Indlela ukushaya ubuvila?".