Kanjani hhayi ukuthethisa ingane? iseluleko wezengqondo

Izikhathi lapho izingane bakhuliswe izinduku, e okukhulu nokulalela, kuthiwa kade laphela. Namuhla, njalo umama bayazi uzama ukuba ningangenisi ngelakho Chad ezithakazelisayo ubuntu, ubuntu kanye ilungu enempilo zomphakathi ngaphandle izakhiwo kanye nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo. Bese kuthi-ke kuphakama umbuzo: kanjani hhayi ukuthethisa ingane? Le nkinga sibi nakakhulu umndeni athembeke kakhulu friendly. Ake baqonde ukubhekana naso kungani futhi kanjani.

Kuyini lokhu mkhuba

Kukangaki kusukela omama emangalisayo futhi enothando ungezwakala omela, "Mina ukuthethisa ingane yakhe! Angazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze! Siza! "Ngala mazwi, namehlo akhe egcwele izinyembezi, owesifazane liphindelela ngifuna amathiphu kuwebhu, ukusebenzisa abangane bakhe noma aphendukele kwengqondo. Ngakho-ke yini lesi simo? Kulula. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngesikhathi esithile umama ulahlekelwa amandla okuphatha uma emkhulu, kunikeza ithuba bonke imizwelo engakhi zanqwabelana baphume bese uthumela zonke sesifufula zabo zineminyaka umuntu amancane abangakwazi ukuzilwela, ukuze aluthandayo kakhulu emhlabeni futhi ongeke ukwazi ukuphoqa ubudala nesikhundla sakhe phambi isikhundla ukuphendula kuqubule ulaka. Ngeshwa, abantu ngokuvamile ungayiboni ngokwabo ngezikhathi ezinjalo, ngoba bambalwa kakhulu abantu olumemeza ingane yabo, emi phambi kwesibuko. Futhi kubonakala sengathi lokhu: intukuthelo emehlweni akhe, onezinkinga kanye contorted imisipha yobuso noma umzimba wonke, izinwele singcolile futhi izwi esabekayo. Yebo, yebo! It ubona lokhu umntwana othandekayo lapho ekhala umama.

Abaningi bazothi, kahle, ufanelwe ke. Kodwa ingabe lokhu kwakuyiqiniso? Nazi izizathu esiyinhloko scream kamama.

Isizathu 1: Ukucindezeleka

Okuvame kakhulu namuhla - ukucindezeleka ngenxa yokuntuleka kwezinhlelo ezibanzi iphutha wengane. Ufana kanjani nemvu? Kulula kabi! Owesifazane aqothula ukucindezeleka, kokuhlupheka futhi ukukhathala, nje ahlahlele ku ababengeke simelane. Futhi ngokuvamile lingazi nokwazi ukuthi ke. Ake siphinde sicabange ngalokhu ukuthi ngephutha uphule vase ubudala, kahle ezixoxwa evesini noma esikoleni jacket ibala nakho eziningi kangaka. Mhlawumbe ingane intandokazi wathinta imbiza, lapho bezama ukuthola ngokwami incwadi, ngoba umama wayengekho ekhaya. Mhlawumbe indodana noma indodakazi utshele inkondlo okubi, ngenxa nje yokuthi ngangifuna ubuhlungu esiswini. Mhlawumbe ibhantshi elisha ezigcotshwe nengane efunda nayo esikoleni cocky, okungakwazi ukubhekana futhi othisha nabazali. Kodwa umama sleepy futhi ukhathele abazange basiqonde, kodwa umane Wamemeza embundwini.

Isizathu 2: nokuntula usizo

Namuhla, abesifazane ngokuvamile umsebenzi umatasa, umsebenzi kanye iSilekeleli Sokwazisa. Kwabanye, lokhu kuyindlela eyasinda, abanye - sangaphakathi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi laliyini, umama akazange ahlale ekhaya, futhi ehhovisi, imihlangano ibhizinisi kanye yebhizinisi. Futhi kuvela ukuthi izingane zabo abone futhi ezwe kancane wayemthanda kakhulu eyodwa ukudlula nawozakwabo kanye nabo ebhizinisini. Ukuheha ukunakwa, futhi izingane kanye nezingane zesikole, intsha ngisho ngokungazi ngokukhetha indlela ezingabizi kakhulu - ukuba necala. Phela, uma umama uyehla kusuka qapha noma ithebhulethi ikhompyutha bese ubheka nabo iso, ngisho nokuklabalasa inhlamba. Ungakuvumeli lokhu okwamanje kube scary, kodwa ngeke nje ezakhe nomame, ukuze ukunakwa akwanele.

Isizathu 3: yokungalaleli

I nzima kakhulu futhi impikiswano udaba - ingane spoilt futhi ongawalaleli. Okokuqala, lokhu kuziphatha kungase kube umphumela we izici ezibekwe esandulele izigaba ezimbili. Uma namanje ukunakwa ngokwanele nomama uzama yokuqonda lokho okushiwo yinkulumo isimo, futhi ingane iqhubeka iziphatha hhayi njengoba kufanele, khona-ke udinga ukuqonda okwengeziwe. Lapha-ke kungcono ukwehlukana inkinga ku ezivamile isigaba seminyaka yobudala:

• Izingane, doshkolyata nezingane ubudala wasesikoleni samabanga aphansi. Ngokuvamile, lezi zingane ukwenza okungalungile, ngenxa nje yokuthi abanayo kunomahluko ocacile phakathi kokuhle nokubi. Yabo kokuzitika - kungcono nje umdlalo ogama Inhloso ekugcineni ulwazi jikelele.
• Izingane ubudala isikole. Ukutotosa, njengoba enjalo, isivele, ungasemuva kwethu. Manje umntwana uzama izindima ezahlukene, ihlola Axiom esibalulekile awunikeze abazali, futhi banephutha qha.
• abafundi esikoleni futhi intsha okuphezulu. Kule nkathi yokungalaleli izimbangela avame lokubhikisha, isifiso ivelele, noma search for the kwangaphakathi "Mina".

Uma uqonda ukuthi kungani ingane ababhalise ngandlela-thile, futhi livela ezimweni eziningi, akusadingeki abahlukumeza futhi kunenye - ukukhuluma enhliziyweni. Then'll ukuthola zonke izimfanelo best of umama: ukubekezela, ukuqonda, uzwela, uzwela, futhi-ke, uthando. Inkulumo enjalo ngeke kuphela ukusiza ukuxazulula izinkinga yokuziphatha noma esikoleni, kodwa futhi uyonikeza eziningi izikhathi ezimnandi, wenza abangane abazali nezingane.

Ekuvisiseni kwetfu izizathu zakhe ekhala, omama abaningi umbuzo kanjani hhayi ukuthethisa ingane, ungaceli. Uma namanje akusebenzi ke silandela iseluleko esethwe ngezansi.

Ithiphu 1: Susa ezizihluphayo

Kanjani ukuba yizinkulumo phezu ingane, uma, njengoba kushiwo, ngithi, izinzwa akukho okuhle akukho okuhle. Okokuqala, kudingeka sicabangisise uhlelo impilo yakho futhi ususe kuwo inombolo enkulu okungenzeka ezishukumisa. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuyeka ukuxoxa nomngane ngubani ekhala ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi kunikeza kuphela okungekuhle. Mane umtshele "cha" futhi ukususa isibalo efonini. Ukuthi Unonya? Cha, ngoba izingane zabo ibalulekile kakhulu futhi ngaphezu kwanoma ubani omunye. Noma zama ukushintsha imisebenzi, okuyinto sonke sasifika. Kunzima futhi scary, kodwa kungenzeka, uma sithinta impilo ngokwengqondo kwezingane zabo. Njalo njalo. Khona-ke kudzingeke kakhulu ukwenza isimiso sakho sansuku zonke ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi kwase kuyisikhathi sokuba intandokazi, ukuphupha kanye ukuxhumana nezingane.

Akusebenzi? Ungazama khona uqeqesho ukuphathwa kwesikhathi, lapho ochwepheshe uyofundisa akwazi ukuhlela isikhathi. Futhi zokugcina - ukuthola umsebenzi noma isenzo esiza ekudambiseni ukucindezeleka. Othile ngokwanele ukuba crumple ephepheni, abanye ukuya ejimini ukushaya esikhwameni isibhakela eyesithathu amateki egqoke futhi ugijime enqamula epaki, nokunye. Into esemqoka - ukuba baphonse engemihle yengane yabo.

Icebiso # 2: Cabanga ngemiphumela

Ngokuvamile omama akudingeki ugqozi eyanele ukuthi sithathe izinyathelo futhi ushintshe okuthile. Siyaxolisa lembuzi, sola ngokwabo, kodwa ukwehlisa umoya, bathi, ngubani akwenzeki. Njalo phambi scream, ukucabanga ukuthi hlobo luni umonakalo ubhekane nengane. indoda Little uyesaba engqondweni yakhe abakwazi ukubhekana futhi aphathe lokhu horror, amangqamuzana ezinzwa ayafa, ukuxhumana elahlekile phakathi izinzwa, nokunye. Igcwele iziyaluyalu sezinzwa, iziyaluyalu ezingokwengqondo, okungase kuholele ekulahlekelweni impilo. Ungesabi nakancane? Khona-ke beveza isithombe sakho ngomonakalo kubangela ukukhala umzali. Ngokwesibonelo, ake sithi njalo lapho ingane umzali ora edla ukhunta ezinesihlungu esibhubhisa isimiso sezinzwa futhi singabangela umonakalo sina kakhulu eziphilayo ezincane.

Ithiphu 3: Relax

Kanjani ukuba yizinkulumo phezu ingane ngosizo a iphilisi eliwumlingo? Lokhu kusho akukho, kodwa sokwehlisa umama kuzosiza ezihlukahlukene zezinkambi amakhambi nama infusions. Vele wenze akazibekanga medicate. Kungcono ukubona udokotela usizo futhi sithathe izidakamizwa, okuzokwenza ukuqinisa isimiso sezinzwa, futhi ngeke ukulimaza impilo. Ngokuphazima umcimbi akufanele uzame ekudambiseni ukucindezeleka ngokusebenzisa utshwala noma ukubhema. Lezi zimali ngeke ukuxazulula le nkinga, kodwa kunalokho, ngeke amasha. Enye indlela enhle uphumule - ugeza noma eshaweni. Amanzi, njengoba sazi, has impahla esiyingqayizivele ukugeza emandleni amabi futhi unike amandla.

Ithiphu 4: umkhawulo

Enye indlela enhle ukuthethisa ingane - ukuthola isivikelo. omama abaningi ngeke ukuthethisa ingane khona izivakashi noma nje abangabazi. Ngokuvamile ukuthethisa neziqalekiso siwela phezu kwanoma iyiphi ingane, uma kukhona akekho lapho. Uma kunjalo, kufanele, ngaphambi kokuba uqale nokuklabalasa hysterically, sicabange ukuthi ekamelweni olandelayo noma ekhishini ehlezi izivakashi. Lokhu kungaba isivikelo. Khona-ke sengidonsa umoya bese egumbini, ezifana kuvulandi. Ukuze sime, ukuphefumula umoya ohlanzekile, ukucabanga ngalokho okwenzekile, sihlolisise isimo, iconsi selehlile kancane, ukuze ubuyisele umntwana ukuze zixoxe ngesizotha ngokuthi inkinga noma impikiswano.

Ithiphu 5: uphawu

Kunenye, okuyinto vele sekube ngasuthi zakudala, indlela ukubhekana nokuhlaselwa ubheke ingane yakhe siqu. Kuyadingeka ukuba ixoxe indodana noma indodakazi ka izimpawu ezivamile noma imishwana ukuthi ingane angafaka isicelo, uma ebona ukuthi unina ulahlekelwa amandla okuphatha uma emkhulu. Singasho waphakamisa isandla, ivalwe ubuso bakhe futhi wathi: ". Umama, ukuyimisa, asikhulume" Lokhu kuyoba isibonakaliso umkhawulo okungafanele ingane uyesaba futhi ubuhlungu. Phendula lo mama, esikhundleni salokho, kungaba ngezindlela ezintathu:

• Ukulungiswa: Siyaxolisa ukumemeza, futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi isenzo umntwana zingafanele noma ezimbi, kodwa abamemezayo namanje akufanele abe.
• Hlehlisa: ukubonga ingane isikhumbuzi yesivumelwano futhi uphawu futhi abonisa ukuthi Lo msindo ubangelwa kwakuwukuthi umama ecasukile impela ingane ezimbi.
• Phinda: Siyaxolisa amemeza anikele ngendodana yakhe noma indodakazi ukuze uqale ukukhuluma futhi, kodwa buthule.

Ngakho, umntwana uyozizwa ulondekile, futhi umzali uzothola isivikelo.

Ithiphu 6: Imibhalo ku-Psychology

Baningi ulwazi olubalulekile, amathiphu, izeluleko namasu, abazi ukuthethisa ingane, kungatholakala ezincwadini. Yebo, kulawo izincwadi zazo kaningi sinqatshiwe ngala mazwi: "Awu, yini entsha lapho babhala, nabo bonke kudala wonke umuntu uyazi!" Psychology - isayensi ukuthi, njenganoma iyiphi enye, akuyona emi namanje. Ochwepheshe, ososayensi emhlabeni wonke abasebenza nsuku ukunikeza izwe izimpendulo zemibuzo ehlukahlukene, kuhlanganise mayelana nemfundo yezingane. Ngakho-ke kufanele indiva lesi izincwadi bazifunda ambalwa ngisho abalobi kunazo owaziwa.

Ithiphu 7: akukho ukunganaki

Kunoma ikuphi, ungalokothi futhi ngaphansi kwezimo okufanele ukutshele ingane le nkulumo kanje: ". Khala ukuthethisa zonke ufuna" Umama nengane - kungcono lonke izwe, indawo yonke, futhi namagama afana kusho ukunganaki, nokungabi nandaba ukuhlupheka kwabo. Ngemva ingane liyakhala futhi banikezwe ngobuqotho imizwa ngaphandle reserve, ngokugcwele - ngakho Uyinhloboni engqondweni yengane. By Isifaniso, kubukeka ukuba umuntu omdala kanje: bheka, wonke umhlaba waphenduka, uku ngalutho umuntu, ngisho uma seziphelile, konke kuyoba zonke okufanayo. Lokhu ibinzana ngokungacabangi aphonswe kubangela umonakalo omkhulu empilweni ngokwengqondo futhi uvusa ukungabaza ezingqondweni encane. Futhi uma umama engithanda? Futhi ungadikibali uma yena kasukanga uma ngabe ongasethemba wakhe? Noma yimuphi umama evamile imibuzo enjalo imane nje kwafaka okukhulu.

Ithiphu 8: sokusebenza kwengqondo umndeni

Uma ungenalo asize amathiphu echazwe ngenhla, kufanele adikile ake izinto ukuthatha inkambo yabo. Kunendlela kunoma isiphi isimo, futhi kulokhu unina angase adinge ukuya kudokotela onguchwepheshe. Ungabi namahloni noma besaba ukuthi bazokwenza uvakashele wezengqondo umndeni. Mhlawumbe ambalwa izingxoxo kuyoyixazulula inkinga kahle uyonika abantwana imindeni kanye nabathandekayo eyakhula bajabule ngaphandle bamemeza futhi efunga.

icala ekhethekile

Ngokuvamile, kule ndaba kukhona isimo esibucayi. Abesifazane bathi, "Konke lokhu amathiphu zinhle, kodwa ngingathini nje uma kuwukuthi bakhulise izingane zabanye abantu?"

Uma kuziwa ukumemeza lokudlala kwi izingane nhlobo, khona-ke ikhambi licacile: akunakwenzeka, period. Ngaphandle kwamacala imbangela nemphumela. Ukuthethisa izingane zabanye abantu akukwazi, kanye, isibonelo, ume endleleni isitimela ezihambayo. Elesibili hhayi khonondo?

Uma sikhuluma isimo nge ukwamukelwa noma ukwamukelwa, noma mhlawumbe ayemane bahlale ndawonye isinyathelo-izingane, kungcono ujike kudokotela wengqondo ngiyofuna. Okokuqala, ngoba esimweni ngasinye kubalulekile acabangele isizathu ukuthi umntwana usuke engakabi abaphila ne unina bomdabu. Okwesibili, kudingeka indlela ngamunye onguchwepheshe ukuthola nokuqonda ezingeni ukwethenjwa ukusondelana phakathi kukamama ekungeyona eyakhe, nengane. It is kuphela ngesisekelo salokhu, uchwepheshe uzokwazi ukukhetha indlela futhi yenze izincomo ukuthi baziphathe kanjani nonina, ingane.

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Ukuhlaziya izizathu abamemezayo yakhe futhi uzama ukuqeda lokhu umkhuba, kuyafaneleka ukukhumbula amaqiniso ambalwa ezingeguquleke:

• impilo yengane ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo, ukumamatheka kwakhe nokwanga - kungcono into eyigugu kakhulu ekuphileni sowesifazane, futhi lutho kungaba ebalulekile noma olubaluleke ngaphezu. Thanda ukuba ngumnikazi Daze - kuba njalo, futhi konke okunye emhlabeni - eziguquguqukayo kuphela.
• Umama wethukile - ingane ethukile. Izingane ndlela bazizwa mncane kakhulu futhi basabela isimo sakhe ukuthi, ngakho kusuke kukufanelekele ngokucophelela ukuqapha isimo sabo ezingokwengqondo, futhi singavumeli inhlokomo yabo kanye nezinkinga ezithinta izimpilo indoda eqolo futhi abathandekayo.