Izindlela nemfundo yezingane - akusiyo nje pedagogy

Ngokuvamile, lapho esebenzelana abazali bengane zibanjwa ngokwami lokuthi ziye zingazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze. Kuye isimo amafomu imfundo uyobheka ahlukene. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuthi ufuna ingane nokuthi ingane ufuna ukukwenza.

Kulula! Uma ingane yakho ecela okuthile uma siphikelela, kusho ukuthi ngasizathu simbe yena iyalidinga. Ukuze ukhethe uhlobo olinganiselayo ngemfundo kanye nezindlela Pedagogical ithonya phezu ingane, abazali kubalulekile ukucacisa - lokho. Nale ndlela abazali, bakha ugqozi kweqiniso ngezenzo, kamuva ngeke avumele ingane ukuba enze amaphutha okwamanje lapho ashiywe ngaphandle kwesiqondiso nezeluleko. Ngakho-ke ibangelwa futhi kuwumsebenzi omkhulu kakhulu okuhambisa umzali nengane nezindlela bazethembe.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukwakha emtatsheni wakhe othandekayo isisusa olunembile kakhulu (ungabiza ke unembeza, kukhona umbono wokuthi unembeza - lokhu liyisiqondiso sethu), abazali abaningi futhi kudingeka sibe nemigomo ecacile futhi
ngobumnene ukuchazela ingane yabo. Kulesi simo izindlela imfundo yezingane kanye nokuvunyelwa kwazo indlela kubo ngokushesha abazali ukuba izinhliziyo zabo ngothando.

Ake sithi umgomo wakho - ukukhulisa indoda ejabulayo. Uyajabula umuntu owazi indlela ukuthanda. Ngoba ubani owazi indlela ukuthanda umuntu ngokuvamile kakhulu uyakuthanda labo endaweni akuyo. Izimiso ze-oda zomhlaba, ezifana "Ayikho into ethathwa aphume ndawo" futhi ethi "thanda umakhelwane wakho njengoba uzithanda wena" ngokushesha kwabangela ngokuqinile: nalowo onikeza uthando lwakhe, lolu thando ebuyiselwa nakanjani. Futhi lapha, futhi kubangele injabulo.

Ngakho-ke, sifundisa ingane ukuba athande futhi bajabule. Ukubuza ipeni? Sizama ukuba baqonde - kungani. "Sekuyisikhashana nje emzweni odlulayo" - hhayi incazelo. Ngoba nje ezingezwakali, abakwazi ukukhonkotha, isimiso, ukuthi ngaleso sikhathi okuhlangenwe nakho okunje kuyokusiza iqhaza ngqo lomzali. Caprice zisencane alikho, kunesidingo unmet. Ngokwesibonelo, isidingo komzimba contact. sonke ozalwa lesi sidingo. Ngendlela efanayo njengoba nesidingo udle, uphuze, ukulala, hambisa, ukuphefumula umoya ohlanzekile, uphumule ngemva kokusebenza kanzima kanye nezinye abanye. Futhi akekho owayezobhekwa dream sokuphikisana ingane yakho ngaphandle kwesizathu kuleli ukudla noma uhambo. Ngokufanayo, ngaphandle kwesizathu akufanele simphika isidingo wakhe bayasondela omdala, onothando futhi indoda enamandla.

Ngaphandle kwalokho, niyazi, kusukela phezulu, kubukeka ezahlukene kakhulu - ungathandi phansi, ezithakazelisayo nokunye okuningi. Ukuncisha ingane yakho ye-engeli ye umbono wezwe, umzali emvimbela ukwazi emhlabeni bonke ubuhle bayo nokwehluka. Kunoma yikuphi, lokhu kususa kungenzeka isikhathi eside.

Kodwana akhe sithi isicelo ukuthatha ngepeni namanje ephelezelwa ukubhonga kanye lunacy. Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi izinhlobo imfundo, akhethiwe ngaphambili abazali babe ayikalungi - okungukuthi, abazali aphansi akazange azame ukuthola ukuthi yini umntwana azidingayo, wathatha masinyane wamgona ukumduduza. Lokhu kungokwemvelo, ngoba kuyakhungathekisa uma siphukile a pipsqueak. Kodwa ungavumeli ingane yakho ukujwayela yokuxazulula izingxabano ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuthola okushiwo izifiso zakhe.

Ngakho, "hhayi ukuba imemeze" - lena okungalungile umzali isisusa ke akuyona isenzo ezuzisa umgomo wethu ukukhulisa indoda ejabulayo. Mthathe, sicela, kodwa kuqala ukuchaza ukuthi uthando Mommy-daddy ukuthatha izandla zakho (nje ukuthatha izandla zakho, wenze nje thanda) ingane gay. Ithi noma kunini ekhala bese icela isandla. Khuluma kumnandi, kanzima, ngothando. Buza Sula izinyembezi, ingamsiza kulo msebenzi - ake iduku, napkin, ngamanye amazwi, ukuphazamisa ngangokunokwenzeka kusukela equlekile yakhe kuze izixazululo ukubhonga ayokwenza oyifunayo. Laugh, gavknuv myauknuv noma yini oyifunayo, wazi kangcono, kusuka ukuthi ingane yakho bayahleka kuziphi izinhlobo imfundo ziyadingeka kulesi simo. Futhi lapho uyohleka - bese bamamukele izingalo zakhe. Injabulo nothando. Eziningana zalezi umzimba, futhi ube esethola ukuthi iyosula izinyembezi, ngaphambi kokucela izingalo zakhe. Wonke umuntu uyoba kube lula.