Indlela ukuxhumana nengane yakho? Gippenreiter Yu, uprofesa eMoscow State University of Psychology, ukhuluma ngalokhu encwadini yakhe,

Indlela ukuxhumana ingane, Gippenreiter yb He phendla amakhasi encwadi yakhe, okuyinto unqobile udumo nabazali emhlabeni wonke.

Ikakhulu ekubhekaneni ingane ukwemukelwa okungenamincele futhi ngaphandle kwemibandela, uthando non-wahlulela abanye. Kuyinto olungenamkhawulo, okungukuthi, "Ukuze", kuba ngakho, yini ongayifunda kuphela yokuthi kukhona. Ukufunda ukuxhumana kusukela umbono womzali onothando nokwamukela, hhayi wathukuthela baveze izimangalo ukusiza ukuthola isixazululo, ngaphandle ngokucindezela phezu ingane, funda athwale umphumela wokuhlupheka ngemiphumela izipesheli enjalo Gippenreiter Yu.

Ngokusho umbhali, ezwakalisa ukunganeliseki noma yiziphi izenzo wengane, ungakwazi ukuxoxa futhi ukugxeka kuphela izenzo nangezenzo, kanye nemiphumela yabo, kodwa noma kunjalo, hhayi ingane. Futhi siqiniseke ukuba sifake agxile eqinisweni leso senzo yayo akudumaza, kodwa ubuhlobo bakho ukuba umntwana, kodwa kungakanani kuphela ecasukile. okungukuthi ngisho Ukusola izenzo ingane, simnika ukuqonda ukuthi kubalulekile futhi ezibalulekile kithi, uthi Julia Gippenreiter. Khuluma nengane njalo kufanele nixoxe konke eyithandayo ukukhuluma nganoma isiphi isihloko, obala futhi imfihlo. Nokho, ngaso sonke isikhathi sikulungele hhayi kuphela ingane kodwa umzali.

Lalela ukuzwa

Ngakho indlela ukuxhumana nengane yakho? Gippenreiter yb weluleka kahle inqubo "ukulalelisisa", okuvumela ukuba ngixhumane umuntu nokubonisa ukuthi izinkinga zalo abasondelene nawe, ukuthi uyaqonda futhi bayazwelana. Umniningwane kuchazwa incwadi Yu Gippenreiter "Ukubhekana umntwana. Kanjani "Ngokusho umbhali, ilungelo ukwakha inkhulumomphendvulwano bese usetha wosana ingxoxo -? Izinyathelo kuqala yokuxazulula le nkinga iyabheda.

Enye inqubo, okuvumela ukuba unqume ukuthi ukubhekana ingane, Gippenreiter yb Ubiza indlela "Mina - imiyalezo". Ngiyisebenzisa lokuveza isimo sabo sengqondo, ukuthi imizwa yabo mayelana ukungqubuzana isimo samanje, hhayi sivumele nokuhlola izenzo interlocutor. Isibonelo "Mina - imiyalezo" kuyinto inkulumo ethi "Ngingu badumala ngoba ukuxabana lanamuhla" esikhundleni. "Wena - imiyalezo" "Wena baziphathe kunene, futhi ngacasuka" "Mina - imiyalezo", ngokusho umbhali, ungababaleli, kodwa baveze sengqondo yakho senzakalo samane, kubalulekile ukuxhumana nanoma ubani, ingasaphathwa nengane, osemusha. Ngenxa le ndlela yokuxhumana akusho uhlushwa ukuzethemba kwengane, belingazithintanga ukuzihlonipha futhi azikho ukuphendula zokuzivikela ezimbi.

Theory kanye umkhuba

Futhi indlela ukushukumisa ingane ukwenza lutho, ukuze unqobe ekumelaneni ngaphandle kokuphula okwaso squashing igunya lobuzali, indlela yokuthola ulimi olulodwa kanye "kunzima" ingane, ilungiselelo lokunqoba kuhlukaniswa nesizungu? Le ncwadi iqukethe inqwaba awusizo futhi zindaba zokuphila ezibonisa ikhambi ezimweni eziningi ejwayelekile. Ngemva kwesigaba ngasinye wasekhaya ukuze reception esiphelele ukuxhumana. Ukwenza kwabo ozokhula ngemikhuba nangezinkolelo wathole kusukela Memory Lane ngesikhathi esifanele.

On umbuzo: "Indlela ukuxhumana nengane yakho 'Gippenreiter yb akagcini lengiyo. Usikisela ukucabanga, ukuze sihlakulele, ukuzwelana, ukufunda ukucabanga ujule, thatha umntwana futhi yebo kuqala kunazo zonke khumbula ukuthi yena wasithanda, abantu bomdabu kanye ngokungenamkhawulo omthandayo.