BDSM. Sokuqonda izifinyezo. Izimiso BDSM

Ngokuqinisekile Wonke umuntu yesimanje sibhekene inkolelo yokungafi sadomasochism futhi cishe uyanengwa ngesikhathi kukhulunywa yokuziphatha kobulili ezingahambisani nezivamile. isiko BDSM kubhekwa izikhungo ebaluleke zobudlova, ukungcola kanye nenkanuko, kodwa ingabe kuyiqiniso? Lokho empeleni umphakathi uyazazi subculture?

Kuyini BDSM?

onobuhle Alternative yokuziphatha kobulili Ngokuvamile abantu abaningi abasiqondi, ikakhulukazi ngaphansi kwethonya nemfundiso yenkolo engenakuphikiswa futhi ebekwa othile engaziwa futhi lapho amanani. Ukungaqondi ukungamukeleki umphakathi kwalithinta leli isiko BDSM. Sokuqonda izifinyezo simiswe ngalendlela lelandzelako: Bondage, isiyalo, Sadism Masochism, okuyinto uhumusha njengoba "band, isiyalo, sadism, masochism". Eqinisweni akusiyo inketho ukuqaqwa kuphela - kuncike ukuqonda umqondo subculture, kanye izithakazelo kanye esikuthandayo, BDSM abalandeli ukuhumusha isihloko ngezindlela ezahlukene. Incazelo yaleli zwi "ebugqilini" Kungenzeka umsindo, futhi ngezindlela ezimbili: izinhlamvu D C lingasho futhi umqondo wegama elithi "evelele" nokuba "ozithobayo" isimo sengqondo lapho bakha 'umgogodla "ka BDSM isiko.

Umqondo BDSM ubudlelwano

Ukuzwa BDSM emelela, abantu abaningi e-umcabango udonsa uhlobo lady inhlamba e-latex ne isiswebhu, kodwa hhayi wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi lokhu imodeli kuhilela ubuhlobo akuzona udlame nje lutho ngokumelene umlingani wawo, futhi ekujuleni, ezimweni eziningi, obujabulisayo. Yebo, abalandeli eziningi BDSM ukushada futhi siphile ovamile, futhi kwezinye izimo, ngisho yokwenqaba BDSM imodeli ubuhlobo esivuna a omunye bendabuko.

Eqinisweni, isisusa sadism futhi masochism akuyona umqondo oyinhloko BDSM. Incazelo libonisa S & M njengoba kunguye kuphela ukubonakaliswa namakhono zingena amandla ngokobulili. Okuningi ubuhlobo obujulile kungabonwa ku model of "evelele-sokuzithoba '. Nalapha futhi, lezi ubudlelwano kungukuthi eyakhelwe njalo ukuthotshiswa "saba", inhloso yabo akazibekanga ukugomela ngezithukuthuku iwumbuso ovelele phezu umlingani. Nizithobe ngokuzithandela idlulisela wonke amalungelo ekuphileni kwakhe "ekhaya", ngaleyo ndlela ubonisa ukuthi uyawuhlonipha kakhulu, uthando nokwethembela umlingani wakho.

Sokuqonda nema BDSM asinika ukuqonda okukha phezulu ngalokho Nokho, isisekelo sokuma subculture, uma sibheka model of ubudlelwano phakathi "ikhaya" kanye "subwoofer", usukela Amathrendi ngempela romantic. Umsebenzi akufanele acindezele "saba" ovelele, kodwa ukukusiza ukuba iqaphele empilweni ukuqinisekisa ukuvikeleka esiphezulu kusukela adversity ukwelapha it njengoba umlingani evamile ngothando. Nizithobe Kufanele ngokuphelele nabalalela "engenhla", ngoba siqaphela ukuthi wayezimisele okuhle kuphela. Lezi ezimbili bazi kahle ukuthi yini eyakho ndawonye. Evelele azizwa obangela "phansi", kanti isixuku esikhulu, esikhundleni salokho, uzama ukwenza izimpilo "phezulu" njengoba engcono ngangokunokwenzeka futhi kujabulise. Uma evelele - indoda, awucabangi ukuthi ubuhlobo imodeli ezifana ufuna wonke umuntu wesifazane? Kuyinto ubuhlobo eyakhelwe sithembela ngokuphelele nokukhulumisana okukhululekile, lapho bobabili abashadile zizizwa zinecala nomunye. Le ndoda - umnikazi walo, umlweli kanye umsizi - akuyona ukuthi yilowo nalowo wesifazane ufuna? Intombazane uphefumulela, isekela alalele - akudingeki it kuwo wonke umuntu?

Yiqiniso, zikhona ezinye izingxenye lolungakahleleki ngempela BDSM. Okwakushiwo kuhlanganisa nomqondo sadism futhi masochism, futhi lezi zindlela zivame ukusetshenziswa njengoba jeziso engase iphazamise "saba", noma nje ucansi kumnandi. Nokho, ngisho lapha, ukwazi ngesilinganiso nokusetha imithetho ecacile, ungabona romance, ngoba zonke girl ufuna ukuba nibe ngabakaJesu ngokuphelele umuntu wemvelo e BDSM futhi ngempela ezingavamile ngezindlela zendabuko, lapho kukhona ukungathembani, ubuzenzisi izimo zabo zengqondo ezingalungile abalingiswa ehlupheka.

Izimiso eziyisisekelo BDSM

Abantu abaningi bayawazi, futhi uma kulungiswa nema BDSM, ke awuzwakali kakhulu, njengoba nkampani ikholelwa ukuthi abalandeli lokhu subculture kuyinto Egula ngengqondo futhi abadinga kokungenela yezokwelapha unciphe. Ngeshwa, le umbono osabalele emhlabeni wonke ngenxa izinga eliphansi erudition zabantu kanye isethulo osontekile ulwazi ngabezindaba.

Kukhona izimiso ezintathu eziyisisekelo, okukhulunywe SSC emelela, kulandele zonke "abalandeli" ka BDSM. Sokuqonda kube lula: ukuphepha, ingqondo, yokuzithandela. Njengoba ubona, BDSM session uma asetshenziswa ubuhlobo BDSM, kunengqondo kakhulu futhi ephephile bobabili abangane bomshado. Ake sicabangele isimiso ngamunye kabanzi.

Isimiso zokuphepha

Lena isimiso eziyisisekelo okufanele ziqondise Phezulu (evelele) e BDSM. Sokuqonda kuba: zonke labasetulu kumele ukwazi izinto eziyisisekelo anatomy, imithi, izitho zomzimba, zemvelo noma yokuthakwa kwamakhemikhali ukuba flegallyatsiya namanye amacebo BDSM babe ngokuphelele ephephile "phansi". Njengoba ubona, ukuba "in the line isihloko," kudingeka esitolo omkhulu elwati nemakhono, ukuze singathwesi ubuhlungu umlingani wakho.

Umgomo we ingqondo

Futhi umqondo obaluleke kakhulu BDSM, ukubaluleka okuyinto Nokho, kunalokho kunzima ukunquma. ingqondo isimiso uthi umkhuba kufanele kube kuphela lezo zindlela lapho bobabili abashadile zazi kahle, kungenjalo kungaholela edabukisayo. Kungakhathaliseki imizwa ungagajwa isitembu, lesi simiso kumelwe ngaso sonke isikhathi kuze kuqala.

ukuzikhethela

Lomgomo usebenza ngokuyinhloko ngosizo stop amazwi. "Lower" ngokuzithandela idlulisela ilungelo ukuqothula yena ndawonye, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi "phezulu" Ungenza noma yini ayithandayo. Zonke izindlela zinhle nje ukunikeza injabulo kokubili abalingani, kungenjalo session BDSM ezingenza abe nodlame banal yasekhaya. Misa izwi kuyasiza "ephansi" ukuze akwenze kucace ukuthi "master" yakhe, lowo mkhawulo sekufinyelelwe sekuyisikhathi ukuyeka.

Misa-izwi futhi ngencazelo yalo BDSM

Njengoba sekushiwo, izwi stop kuyisiqinisekiso sokuthi uhlelo "phansi" ngeke babhekana nobudlova okungalindelekile. Kunemibono eminingana mayelana amazwi stop e BDSM: sokuqonda ke kwabanye kusho kuwuphawu lokuthi kufanele ayeke, kodwa le ndlela engalungile mayelana "phansi".

Okuwukuphela incazelo enembile stop amazwi ami ngale ndlela elandelayo: bekuzwa, "engenhla" kufanele ngokushesha ayeke zonke izenzo CM futhi ukukhulula ngokuphelele "ephansi". Uma senza Isifaniso ezimibalabala, leli gama kuyinto analogue of esitobhini iqhude esitimeleni, kunokuba ube isicelo esinenhlonipho ukuyeka, ngoba ngisho noma lowo "engenhla" ukholelwa ukuthi ukuyekisa ekuseni, umlingani wakhe kungenzeka umbono ezahlukene ngokuphelele, futhi kufanele kucatshangelwe.