Ungakhuluma kanjani ngama-? Theory kanye umkhuba

Kuyinto isimo sobuntu bafise ngentshiseko ukuxhumana nabanye. Asikwazi ukwakha ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela efanele ukuzethemba kanye nomuzwa kufanelekile ngempela. Ngakho-ke, abantu abanale nobunzima unikezwa wenhlanganyelo, uzizwa sengathi behlukene enye futhi ngenxa yalokho bangajabuli. Ingabe Singakwazi yini ukushintsha isimo? Kanjani ukukhuluma nabantu, ukuze ubudlelwane zazingcono kakhulu yini?

Iqiniso lokuthi izidingo eziningi abantu zaneliswa wokuxoxa nabo, ngakho udinga ukuba banake konke futhi senze ngokuvumelana nezimo. Imithetho akuzona eziningi kangaka, kanti abaningi bethu bazizwe nabo intuitively, nakuba amaphutha bavame ukwenza.

Ungakhuluma kanjani, kube mnandi? Okokuqala, okuqukethwe imininingwane ebalulekile. Ukuze yini ukunemba kakhudlwana - ukuqaphela. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kufanele kahle ababeyizazi isihloko ingxoxo. Ngo Ukwelulekwa yami umkhuba, kwaba icala lapho owesifazane ukufunda yonke imiphakathi usuku ikholomu ngamabomu ziyokwamukelwa emkhakheni esisebenza. Ngakho zama ukuba uzilungiselele ukukhuluma nosebenza nabo noma abangane babenesithakazelo ukukhuluma nawe.

Kodwa isithakazelo abutholakali yokuthi unike imininingwane ewusizo. Umbuzo uwukuthi ukuthi eyibukisa. Zama ukuveza imicabango yakho ngokomzwelo, kodwa sphere izinkanuko Kumele alawulwe. Gqamisa izwi eyinhloko, ungakwazi ngisho liphindwe izikhathi eziningana ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yokukhuluma kwakhe. Kanjani ukukhuluma kuthinte imizwelo oyifunayo? Le nqubomgomo ukufunda iminyaka ophindaphindiwe, kodwa kungcono uzame ukubeka ngokwengqondo uzibone ukulesi simo of interlocutor. Futhi ukuzama ukuqonda ukuthi yini-ke ongakwenza kule ukukhathazeka isimo. Yini ubuhlungu ngenxa yalokho ufuna ukuxazulula inkinga. Khona-ke, ngesikhathi ngokoqobo lokhu ulwazi, unake isimo sobuso nokushukuma komzimba ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwabo. Uma ufunde indlela efanele ukuqagela isimo esingokomzwelo - uzothola okuningi ukuxhumana ngaphezulu ngempumelelo. Ngenxa yalezi zinjongo, ungasebenzisa ama-movie ubudala, banayo ezimbalwa ezenziwe kanye Psychology ngaphezulu. Bese kuthi-ke abadlali izimfuno babe kakhulu kunalokhu, ngakho imizwa nezimo zengqondo kakhudlwana thembeke adlulisiwe. Yenza lokhu njalo emsebenzini, isibonelo, setha umgomo walo ukubuka ama-movie okungenani kabili ngesonto. Bukela imizwa futhi ukusabela kwabantu, kuyokusiza uthole ukuqonda okudingekayo enqubeni zokuxhumana. Lo mkhuba kubalulekile kubantu abafuna ukwazi ukuthi ukukhuluma nabantu.

Indlela okuchazwe futhi kukusiza ukuba ufunde ukuthi kufanele bazizwe kanjani phakathi nengxoxo. Wena uzoqala ukuzizwa ngokungazi, singakanani isikhathi udinga ukukhuluma, futhi bangaki kudingeka sime ngokuthi ungawuphazamisi elinye ilungu ukuba baveze umqondo wakhe ngokusebenzisa.

Uma ngizibuza indlela ukufunda indlela yokuxoxa nabantu, khumbula - ekuxhumaneni lolungakahleleki ezibalulekile - Angazi ukuthi kanjani ukukhuluma, futhi bakwazi lalela ngesithakazelo. Abantu abaningi abazi kanjani, futhi ngokwabo njalo befuna "izindlebe khulula." Musa ukuphinda amaphutha abanye. Nikeza omunye umuntu ukukhuluma ngokugcwele, ungakwazi kumisiwe ngisho ukunikeza impendulo yakhe ubuqiniso.

Ekhuluma heckling. Le nkinga ingase baqamekela yokuthi une-ke wachaza izici begazi ekusebenzeni kobuchopho esezingeni evamile. Eminye imininingwane ingatholakala izincwadi uDkt Amena, okuyinto ngitusa ubani ofuna ukushintsha izimpilo zibe ngcono.

Abantu bathanda lapho zizizwe ebalulekile, ngakho kungxoxo njalo ugcizelela sokunconywa nasegunyeni lombusi umthombo, khona-ke kuzothathwa kakhulu futhi kaningi. Uzoba ethandwa kakhudlwana, kuyokwenza ukuphila kwakho kujabulise ngokwengeziwe. Phela, unikeza omningi zenjabulo izihlobo nabangane bakho.