Ubudlelwano Ubulili e Wanamuhla

Uma sithatha njengesisekelo incazelo umqondo wegama elithi "ubulili" kusichazamazwi, okuhunyushwa ngokuthi "ubulili nomphakathi", lona elithi "ubudlelwane ubulili" kungabonakala njengoba nobudlelwane bokuhlalisana emphakathini, okuqondene ezahlukene abesilisa nabesifazane begazi. Ikakhulu ekuxhumaneni komphakathi okuyingxenye kukhona izici zobuntu engqondo, izici zokuziphatha komuntu.

Okungukuthi, e alula womuntu, singasho ukuthi ubudlelwane bobulili - ubuhlobo non-zobulili phakathi eyensikazi ngomqondo ebanzi izwi.

Esikhathini amahlaya amasha, futhi izingcezu ezihlekisayo monologues ahlukahlukene kuyindida uThandeka kulo lonke esiteji futhi komabonakude, umbuzo okuxoxwa "logic besifazane" futhi "logic komuntu." Lezi imiqondo emibili kuyaphikisana, njengoba elwa nomunye. Nakuba welithi "logic" lapha ayiveli indawo. Ngakho usulu ubulili nokuziphatha amaphethini.

ubudlelwane Ubulili kungukuthi zilawulwe ubulili begazi futhi isimo senhlalo yomuntu, imfundo yakhe, isimo sakhe sezimali, indawo yakhe yokuhlala. Ngokwesibonelo, akekho kusimangaze yokuthi lo somabhizinisi asebekhulile kubonakala nonkosikazi noma senkosikazi, lokho kungasebenzi, akusho ukufunda, ayenzi lutho endlini, kodwa njalo uthola obubizayo nangezinto zokudlela ngokuvakashela. Lokhu ukusatshalaliswa izindima kulesi sigaba emphakathini wethu cishe kuyinsakavukela. Nokho, kuwubuwula ukucabanga ukuthi indlela emndenini abavamile yasemakhaya yowesifazane kuyoba on a zaphakathi nesonto ukuhamba izingubo Posh ezibizayo, ubuthongo kwaze kwaba semini baqasha indlu wasendlini. Lapha lwemibono ngempela ezahlukene izindima ubulili empilweni.

Endulo ukusatshalaliswa izindima ubulili emphakathini zidlala indima ebalulekile, ngoba wasiza abantu ukuba basinde. Kumuntu efanele indima nkosi, futhi owesifazane akufanele babe kucabangela ngentando yayo kulo izifiso zakhe. Yena - kwaba umsekeli, umsekeli kanye nomvikeli, She - abangakwazi ukuzilwela, engaphansi isigqila esilalelayo. Ngokuphambene nombono wokuthi "ubulili", igama elithi "ubulili" zanamuhla ngokugcwele lilinganisa owesifazane amadoda kuyo yonke imikhakha yokuphila, okukuvumela ukuba acabangele ubulili ukufunda yayo izici ezingokwengqondo, kodwa ungakuvumeli ukubathobisa izinsolo "ubuthakathaka" bobulili nabesifazane.

Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi abesifazane kudala wakunqoba main ngenxa phansi izindima zangaphakathi nezangaphandle zokuziphatha naqala ngokukhululekile ngaphezulu umphakathi, uhlanganyela hhayi kuphela imisebenzi yasendlini, kodwa futhi eqaphela ngokwabo ochwepheshe njengoba kuphumelele esobala iwukuthi aphikelele sobala kwenkolelo engaguqukiyo we eqinile (uhlakaniphile futhi kuphumelele) imvelo wesilisa futhi ebuthaka (kunemaphutsa) isifazane, njengoba kubonakala kula ulimi. Nakani, ngoba igama elithi "professional" noma, isibonelo, "Wezincwadi" - wesilisa, kodwa ngomzamo ukubiza owesifazane "professional" ( "yezincwadi") kuzwakala ngendlela kwalo "masculinize", ayinike izici wesilisa. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uma ukuguqula izwi ineluhlelo futhi ungeze Isijobelelo impande futhi njengabesifazane isiphetho "professionalka", noma "yezincwadi" - izwi uzwakale udelela. Lesi simo esiyingqayizivele sibangelwa ukuthi sekuyisikhathi eside ukulwa West, okwenza ushintsho oludingekayo uhlelo lolimi. Ngokwesibonelo, ngolimi isiJalimane wonke amazwi ezihlobene igama mkhakha futhi isimo wesilisa futhi njengabesifazane nakanjani.

Umuntu uvunyelwe yephutha lwetakhi telulwimi waqothula ngokumelene ifomu lensikazi igama ekupheleni ubulili besilisa, izingozi bewela ngaphansi izinsolo njengoba nangokobulili, misogynist. Innocent (emehlweni isakhamuzi isilinganiso Russia) lushelele ukuziphatha baseYurophu kungenzeka nemiphumela emibi kakhulu. isiphakamiso avulekile ukufuna usizo psychoanalyst iyona ekhethekile nethambile etholakalayo ku arsenal of ukulwa ukuziphatha okufana engamukelekile. Lokhu kuwumphumela umzabalazo kwezobulili eYurophu futhi indlela for the nokuvinjelwa udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo kusobala kunoma ukungazi European iningi lezakhamuzi zethu ezindabeni kwengqondo namalungelo okulingana ngobulili. Ukuziba umthetho nokulingana phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane, "inhloko yawo umndeni" eRussia Ibhekwa ukuziphatha evamile ekuthukweni, babukise bawo 'bezinye uhhafu. " Ngokuvamile imikhaya enjalo kukhona ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba ngisho ukugcaba. Kubi akuyona ngisho iqiniso lokuthi lokhu suschestvet mkhuba, kodwa umphakathi amphathe nabanye ukunganakwa.

Nokho, it is ezimisiwe eyeqisayo ubulili ukwenza izakhamuzi zethu ukuziba yokuthi udlame lomndeni ngokuvamile babhekana amadoda abafazi bawo. Kusukela azalwa, abafana bafundiswa ukuthi amantombazane akufanele ubuhlungu - ngoba ababuthakathaka. Ubuhlobo obunjalo ubulili emkhayeni kuholela yokuthi esakhula nokuthola "ngaphansi isithende" umngane wokuphila, zabanye abantu ngezinye izikhathi esidlangalaleni ishaya nokudelela, hhayi ukukwazi (ngaphezu kwakho konke - ngokwengqondo) ukuze bazivikele.

EMelika, kukhona inkinga ngempela okuphambene ebuhlotsheni bobulili. Emhlabeni eyaziwa izimfuno ezilwela amalungelo abesifazane ngokulingana okugcwele. Futhi isizathu of isicelo enkantolo kungenzeka ukuthi indoda sihamba intokazi phambili kwezokuthutha noma kuvuleke umnyango wakhe.

Ngakho, umqondo wegama elithi "ubudlelwane ubulili" libhekisela ezingeni nomphakathi, nokuxhumana ubulili yemvelo, kodwa izinkinga zakhe ezivela izifundo kwengqondo ubulili.