Lide kanjani uthando?

uthando Okuphakade - ukuphupha ngothando wonke umuntu. Ngiseyingane, sonke siyakukholwa ngobuqotho ukuthi onjalo uthando lukhona, kanye nezinye lothando, isimiso, akukwazi. Nokho, lapho ekhula futhi zishiswe izikhathi ezimbalwa, buthule badumazeke othandweni okuphakade nothando ngedwa. Othile uyaqhubeka ukuba nethemba lokuthi usengayibona "uthando lokuphila" yakhe, naphezu kwakho konke kwamehlela ukukhungatheka yakhe, kodwa yini umuntu isesikhathini ekupheleni ukuphila kuyisipho abagxeki, futhi ngokoqobo kuyasuka zonke izinhlobo zothando okukhulunywa ngazo kokungqongqoza ukuphila kwakhe. Ngobani wonke amalungelo efanayo? Futhi njengoba uthando ihlala, ngempela?

Okokuqala udinga ukuhlukanisa phakathi welithi "uthando" nelithi "uthando." Lesi sakamuva singabangela zingachazwa ngezinqubo ezithile zamakhemikhali eziningi ososayensi bazama ukwenza namuhla. Uma umphumela "elixir magic" sesiphumile, futhi walahlekelwa sonke isifiso ukuba seduze komuntu esimthandayo ngaphambili. Futhi ambalwa amakhefu ngokuphepha. Ngokuvamile, ngemva kokuhlela nokuthandaza izinyanga 3-6, ungakwazi ngokuqiniseka - uma abantu ababili uthando kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa, noma phakathi kwazo Kwagqashuka abanye imizwa ezijulile.

Nokho, Abanengi bakholelwa ukuthi kudingeka ube nothando olujulile - kuwumphumela umthelela ingqondo hormone, ama-hormone kuphela eqinile futhi eside ukugijima. Bangakholelwa umuzwa sublime, bebuza kangakanani uthando ihlala, futhi njalo alindele ukuthi indaba ziyowa futhi kuyoba khona eyodwa kuphela indlela yokuphila. Futhi uma kukhona uthando singcono esikhashana, eshada kunengqondo ngesisekelo ukubala we emihle, kunokuba singanqotshwa "chemical kuhlasela". Akumangazi ukuthi agumenti enjalo kuhilelani ukuphila komkhaya bangajabuli. Ukuncisha wena eqolo futhi magic, indoda phuca yena yezindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu - elula, kodwa injabulo kunesidingo esinjalo.

Ososayensi, ngokusekelwe ucwaningo okungabazisayo, kuphela uphalafini emlilweni. Ngokwesibonelo, umbono ovamile ngokuthi uthande ihlala iminyaka emithathu, kuwumphumela ukuhlola kahle elula, ikhumbula ububanzi elilinganiselwe izici futhi esibonakala ngokuqina i isampula elincane kakhulu. By the way, ukuhlola okufanayo, olwenziwa elinye iqembu lososayensi, umbuzo olukhulu kangakanani ihlala, ngikutholile impendulo ohluke ngokuphelele. Kwavela ukuthi eziningi abantu basamthanda enye ingxenye yabo, ngisho nangemva kweminyaka eminingi-20 beshadile.

Mhlawumbe, ngisho abagxeki uyavuma ukuthi ujabule uthando izindaba Nokho akuvamile, kodwa kwenzeke, ngakho-ke, uthando eliyingqayizivele lapho futhi asikwazi bachaza kuphela zamakhemikhali. Ngakho uma ungabiza ke inhlanhla? Futhi kungani umuntu angavimba ukuba uthando kukho konke ukuphila, kuyilapho nawe ungalushayi abanye bakwazi ukuzisindisa lokhu umuzwa , futhi izinyanga eziyisithupha?

Impendulo isobala kule mibuzo ingucha. Kodwa uma ucabangela ukuthi uthando - lokhu ingenye imiphumela emihle kakhulu kuleli zwe, kunengqondo ukuthi akufanele ezicela komunye futhi kungabanga yize. Mhlawumbe uthando kuyadingeka ukuze sifinyelele, evutha, ukukhubeka nokuqhubeka bakholelwa ngobuqotho ezimangalisweni! Phela, izindaba ezinhle ngothando uqale ngezikhathi nge iziqephu awuwona yini ongelutho kunayo ezifana: kohambo oluya esitolo futhi emhlanganweni sebhasi.

Thina abonakalisa thina ikhono uthando. Uma umuntu engakholwa ukuthi uthando ingahlala isikhathi eside kunaleso umphumela engqondweni yakhe-hormone noma ubani wayengeke akwazi ukuthanda, nokuthi okubi kakhulu akasoze ukwazi ukuqaphela imizwa ngobuqotho komunye umuntu. Abantu abanjalo ngokuthi "icicles" futhi uthanda ukuthola round.

Manje kuyacaca ukuthi kungani umbuzo olukhulu kangakanani ihlala, akukho impendulo ecacile. Konke kuncike kuwe, ku ubuqotho bakho, ukholo kanye nekhono umthanda ngempela. Ungesabi ukuba sikhubeke, qaphela ukuba aphelelwe ukholo nothando. Kholwa wakhe, futhi liyoshiswa ukukuthola - uthando lweqiniso, okuyiwona ayikho into efana nesikhathi.