Kutfutfukiswa emakhonweni

Le ndoda - isidalwa nomphakathi, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ingxenye enkulu yokuphila kwakhe enikelwe zokuxhumana.

Ukubhekana, siba nomthelela nomunye, okungaba lula (sicela) futhi lukhuni (amasu ahlukene zokukhwabanisa).

On kahle kanjani sinazo ubuciko zokuxhumana, kuxhomeke kakhulu impumelelo amabhizinisi ahlukahlukene.

Ukuze ufunde indlela kalula ukuxhumana nabantu, wena nje kuphela ukwakhiwa kwemisho nokubhala futhi bushelelezi, nakuba lokhu nakho kubalulekile. Ubuciko zokuxhumana kudinga ikhono lokuzwa enye inhlangano, ukuqonda futhi ukwakha inkulumo yabo nokuziphatha ngokwendlela isimo.

Ake sicabangele umqondo yokuxhumana. Psychology Modern uyazicabangela izici ezintathu yale nqubo:

• zokuxhumana Luchumano - exchange kolwazi phakathi interlocutors.
• uhlangothi yekucondza - the interlocutors bezibona nomunye, ukudala isimo ukuqonda.
• isici Interactive ihlanganisa ukwenziwa nemibandela ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu.

Ukuthuthukiswa yokuxhumana amakhono ihilela ukufunda indlela yokuveza okucabangayo lakhe interlocutor yakhe, ziyacaca. Kubalulekile ikhono izinto ezinembile. amaphutha kungenzeka zivame kakhulu ezihlobene nobunzima kwengqondo njengokuba ngabodwa, amahloni, ukukhathazeka.
Lezi izithiyo ukuveza imicabango yabo kuvame ukubizwa zokuxhumana izithiyo.

Kodwa kufanele kuphawulwe ukuthi ikhono elihle lokukhulumisana nabanye akuzona isegazini. Vula nabo ngokwakho noma yimuphi umuntu, uma wenza kulo mzamo.

Okwamanje, kunezinhlobo eziningi trainings ezingokwengqondo amakilasi ekhethekile engasisiza ukuba ufunde indlela kalula futhi ngokukhululeka ukuxhumana.

Trainings ezihlose ukwakha emakhonweni okukhulumisana, ngokuvamile kuhilela izinyathelo ezimbalwa. Leli khono ukuze akholise interlocutor, ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono lwempendulo ubonisa kanjani ukuthi uyangeneka, kanye nekhono ukugubha ukukhululwa kwanoma iyiphi isimo ingxabano. Ngezinye izikhathi ungeze nezinye izinyathelo.

Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuya emakilasini ezinjalo, kuyoba usizo kuwe ezinye iziqondiso ezilula ukuze kunqotshwe izithiyo zokuxhumana kanye impumelelo kunoma isiphi isimo.

Sonke kusuka ebuntwaneni ifa eziyisisekelo emakhonweni okukhulumisana, okuhlanganiswayo ukuqaphela kwethu ngesimo amaphethini athile. Lokhu ukubingelela, yokuvalelisa, uzwela, ukuxolisa, ukuphika, isicelo, ngokufunwa, kanye nabanye.

Ngokuvamile, uma thina basebenzisane nabantu ongabazi ku ezingeni olukha phezulu kakhulu (isib isitolo), masampuli (izifanekiso) anele. Ezimweni akonakele lutho, qeda ukuba automatism, thina cishe akazange nobunzima zokuxhumana.

Baqala lapho kukhona isimo esisha noma kujabulise. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho befaka isicelo somsebenzi, noma uma udinga ukwenza isicelo somshado. Yingaleso sikhathi, futhi silinde ezihlukahlukene zokuxhumana izithiyo ke ukuthi ukuchaza ngamazwi athi "ugodlela ulimi", "Angazi ukuthi kumele ngithini", "Angive isimungulu," nabanye. Kamuva, siyaqonda indaba ngokwayo belunjani into engabiza ukusho, futhi bakhala ezimathonsi isimo sakhe olungenakuzisiza. Ukuze unqobe bunzima kanye nesidingo sokwakha emakhonweni.

Kungani lokhu nendlela yokubhekana nalesi simo?

Ngokuvamile, isizathu ukuthi asikwazi kalula futhi buthule ukukhuluma nanoma ubani kunoma iyiphi isihloko, iyona amahloni okuthiwa. Umuntu ahlangabezane ngokwesaba nangokubheka indlela ngaphakathi "ukufihla", ubambe imizwa yawo eqotho.

abantu Shy sitshwenyeke ebheka indlela, ukuthi bacabangani ngaye emhlabeni. Wayengumuntu njalo ungaqiniseki onjani okuvelayo. Baphetha ngokuthini engcono usesimweni esinjalo kungaba siziqale. Kanjani? Ngokwesibonelo, ungakwazi alobe ukuthi ikhamera indlela ukukhuluma, ukuhamba, ukuhleka. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi, ukubheka imiphumela, ushintshe lokho ungathandi ngokwakho. Isaziso Esibalulekile: Uma angikaze ngimbone ngokwabo ukuqopha, ungathola ukushaqeka. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abaningi, ngoba umbono wethu sangaphakathi ngokwabo ngempela bengavumelani ngendlela esikhulisa ngayo ezibonwa abanye. Ngakho musa sifinyelele eziphethweni emva wokubuka kuqala. Hlola irekhodi izikhathi eziningana, futhi kuphela ke ahlaziye, ubuhle nobubi bayo.

Iseluleko ezilandelayo: funda ngokukhululekile imizwa yabo ngokukhululekile. Uma ungeke ukwenze ngamazwi, qala nge ukunyakaza. Dance kufanelekile lokhu kakhulu. Ngisele ngedwa, vula umculo soft futhi ukudansa ngendlela ofuna. Ake ukunyakaza kwakho kuyoba lingalingani noma zasendle, unganqikazi, ngoba ngeke uyibone ngaphambili kokuthi. Nge umdanso nokuguqulwa uqonde kangcono wena, abaningi angaphakathi 'Ukugunda "hamba.

Kuyasiza ukudweba imizwa. Le ndlela isetshenziswa kwengqondo futhi kusiza ukususa izithiyo.

Uma kunzima ukukhuluma, zama ukubhala kuqala. Ukubonakaliswa Komusa imicabango ephepheni bayobanikeza esengqondweni iyacaca futhi ukuphelela ukuthi kancane kancane ukuzibonakalisa enkulumweni.

Kutfutfukiswa emakhonweni ingase ihlanganise ezinye izindlela. Ungakhetha lowo ngaphezulu uma uthanda.

Ekuphetheni, mina ngizonezela ukuthi noma isiphi isikhubekiso yangaphakathi surmountable, uyakwazi ukushintsha, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi indlela eya empumelelweni yinde futhi olunameva. Into esemqoka - ungadikibali!