Kungani abanye abantu ukuthandana kwezihlobo eziseduze?

Sekungamakhulu eminyaka, izindaba uthando walala isisekelo imisebenzi emikhulu yobuciko nezincwadi. Nokho, lokhu akuyona neze kweqiniso ukuze izindaba mayelana ugqozi uyahlanya kwezihlobo. amanoveli kwezihlobo neze ngenkani ukuba ulandele ngentuthuko bleary amehlo kusukela ukukhala. Kunalokho, bephambana nesifiso sokufuna ukuhlanza nesicanucanu. Kunoma ikuphi, kwaba ukusabela ngaleyo ndlela lafika abaningi, lapho eneminyaka engu-51 ubudala Kim West nendodana yakhe eneminyaka engu-32 ubudala Ben Ford wabelane nezwe indaba yakhe.

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Konke kwaqala khona eminyakeni eyishumi edlule, lapho Kim abasha wabeletha indodana. Nokho, izindinganiso zemikhaya owesifazane ukubukelwa phansi futhi washiywa ingane ngesonto ngemva kokuzalwa kwakhe. Eminyakeni eminingi kamuva, umuntu omdala Ben wenza njengoba izingane eziningi yokutholwa - wanquma baxhumane unina begazi. Khona-ke kukhona okwenzeka oholele wonke ukuba uyanengwa unengekile. Umama nendodana hhayi kuphela lihlanganiswa, ngadala union uthando.

Lapho exoxa ne-West savuma ukuthi ukuba nemicabango yobulili wokuqala mayelana nendodana yakhe uvele wakhe ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuthi Ford wazama ukuthola ubufakazi inthanethi ukuthi akayedwa ukwazi ukuzwa isifiso ngezokwenyama unina ngakhothama ngokulila. Kamuva, bahlangana ehhotela, futhi lapho nohlaka kuyisiphazamiso esimisweni sokuhle nokubi abangu okwalapha kusulwe utshwala, wabelane embhedeni efanayo.

Yaqala kanjalo-ke ubuhlobo ukuthi West usechaze ngokuthi "emangalisa". Ford kungenzeka ukwabelana iphuzu lakhe umbono, ngoba, unganqikazi ukushiya umkakhe kanina. Ngemva kokuvula cindezela, lo mbhangqwana kwaba ngenxa yokwesaba ukuze uthole iminyaka engu-15 ejele futhi kwaba phakathi kwababusi izigebengu zocansi.

ngokwengqondo impande izimbangela

Nokho, Kim uBheni, ulethela ozinikele yezenhlalakahle bafanelekele nenye, okungenani ngezinga kwemvelo. Shiya ngesikhathi izinsika besambathekile nentukuthelo bese uzama ukubheka ujule inkinga. Phela, noma iyiphi ngeziphambeko ubulili impande nezimbangela zabo ngokwengqondo.

Ungakwazi neze bamangale ukuthi amadoda athandana nobulili obuhlukile angenayo kunamathuba amaningi okuthi makudle bomshado, efana konina, kanye abesifazane ukukhetha amadoda, ubakhumbuza wawoyise siqu. Lesi simo esiyingqayizivele sibangelwa kwengqondo okuthiwa imprinting omuhle. Ukuze ngisekele kuhlulekile ososayensi bakhe yesayensi Icelandic. Ngemva kokuchitha 2008 cwaningo, bathola ukuthi nezihlobo ezikude nethuba ukukhiqiza inombolo enkulu izingane enempilo kuka umbhangqwana evamile. Okwamanje, kukhona namanje umqondo wegama elithi "imprinting omubi," noma ngenye uwukwenza Westermark. Kulokhu umuntu ophika iyiphi ngokocansi abantu ayehlala nabo njengoba ingane, kuhlanganise nabazali, abafowethu nodadewethu.

Ngakho, mhlawumbe, nhlanganisela imprinting omuhle futhi ukuntula kwayo version omubi kubangelwa ukuziphatha ubuhlungu Ben Ford?

Imiphumela esidumazayo

Udokotela wengqondo Judith Venben Smith uthi abantu ababengenawo ubudlelwano emndenini enempilo ebuntwaneni, uzama konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze ahlukanise induduzo ezingokomzimba nezingokomzwelo isifiso sobulili. Nokho, bangase ukwenza okuhlukile. Into yothando lwabo, kulesi simo, kuba isihlobo. Leli akulona okuphambene futhi akusona isifo, ngokuvumelana uJudith, lokhu kuyindlela umuntu esabela imizwa kuphakama lapho sihlangane nabantu obathandayo, angcoliswa nguye wahlukaniselwa nokuthi ecabangana.

Nokho, ukuhileleka ebuhlotsheni obunjalo esekelwe ngokomzwelo "misfire" namandla kungaba isibili esibhubhisayo. Umphakathi uthando kwezihlobo ubulokhu kuyoba sihloko umgoqo, kanye nabantu waya ukulala nesihlobo, ubungozi behlukene umphakathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngeke kuze kube phakade ukulahlekelwa ithuba ukudala ubuhlobo obuhle namalungu omkhaya enempilo.