Esengene endlini ngosuku lokuqala zone?

Akubalulekile ukuba balahle ejele, noma ubani angaba khona amahora ambalwa, izinsuku noma izinyanga, uzivumele, futhi ukwephulwa ezincane. Ukuthola etilongweni - njalo ezicindezelayo ngomuntu ongenakho okuhlangenwe nakho, ngoba indlela yokuphila namasiko iziboshwa zihlukile endleleni evamile yokubalwa. Kodwa ukucindezeleka lokuqala nelesibili elandelayo: ngokufaka eqhugwaneni zone, ukuze bonakalise umbono ngokwakho ngosuku lokuqala? Zone - yindawo lapho ningathetheleli amaphutha kuwo, nihlale khona zingase zibe zimbi izwi ngokungalungile kukhulunywa noma isenzo esingafanele. Ngakho-ke, saqala ngeke ukuvikele selimazi sendlela faka eqhugwaneni zone. Ngosuku lokuqala ejele, ukubhaliswa ejele - ukuthi isixhumanisi sokuqala yonke imicimbi okwalandela. Okungamelwe ukwenze noma ukusho ukuthi ubuhlobo axoxe neziboshwa lapho efikile kuhambe kahle?

kwakhiwa isiboshwa ukuziphatha iyaqala esikhathini lapho ngummeli wakhe, kuyacaca, lokho ngesikhathi esihlelelwe ekamelweni owandulela ukuqulwa kwecala. Abantu abambalwa ngubani uzohlangana noTutu - "intsha", "nezigebengu" - kuba lula. Izinto zokuvala umoya kusho ukuba yedwa ngokuphelele, yini ngezinye izikhathi kungenzeka ukuxoxisana abaphenyi.

Ukungena kanye ukubingelela

Ngaphambi ukungena endlini ezonini, kubalulekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuthi ngawe kakade cishe konke, noma ngokushesha hlola kanye ugabise bokukhuluma, kanye ukwengeza ukuba bangaliboni iqiniso leZwi yini okungalungile. Quality essentials latawudzingeka okudingekayo - kuyinto emakhonweni okukhulumisana, ngezilokotho, ukuzethemba. Okokuqala uyidinga imfundo aphansi: emnyango ukubingelela abanye. Kodwa uma uzobe "ivinjelwe" phakathi iziboshwa ukuze uthole eduze nabo amazwi abantu uzojoyina inombolo yabo. Lokho "sawubona izwe" ngeke zisebenze. Sincoma okukhethwa best for ukubingelela: "ngibingelela abantu", "abangane abahle kakhulu". Bheka iziboshwa, "amadoda" - hhayi izwi engcono ukugcizelela umngcele phakathi lombhalo dlelesela isihloko zokuhlonipha, sikhuthazeke hlola isimo "indoda" langena. Hand ne pervohodom hhayi uthi sawubona, baye akakaqinisekisi yayo "nobumsulwa."

Article, yokufunda, isidlaliso

Aphonswe ezinyaweni sekuthi angiphonse ithawula, uzizwa idetector ukuzethemba - akuyona ukuphela uthando, bese efanele zonke umbuzo ofanayo: kangakanani ukungena endlini ezonini, ngaphandle amehlo okungenamsoco? "Engikuthanda balahlwe?" "Yini ekade?" - mibuzo iwukuba ukuphendula efika inombolo sihloko, ngoba ngaphandle bewafihla eziyimbangela kweqiniso, naphezu ubumsulwa. Umbuzo: "Ungubani wena na?" Kusolwa izimpendulo - "umalalepayipini" - igunya ukuba ejele okokuqala, lo "muntu" - umuntu akanawo "oversights" endle, noma - ". yajikijela indoda" Akufanele iqondiswe sobala bunks khulula. Ukuze pervohodtsev ngokuvamile ahlale imibhede, ise-emakhoneni. Inzuzo zingase zicelwe ukuba etafuleni (izimali ezivamile), isiphuzo itiye, futhi waphinde wacela ukutshela kabanzi, lokho futhi ubani olwamukelekayo. Uma ungazange ungene okuhlangenwe nakho, kungcono ukusho ngakho - wazibonela Kunoma yikuphi, ukubala essence ngempela. Njengobe abengakwati konkhe loko imithetho zokuphila esitokisini, kufanele wathi ngakho, njengoba injalo, futhi njengoba ekuhambisaneni yabo ngenkululeko express. Kungcono athule sezimali noma adale umbono ka yomuntu ompofu ngokulinganisela.

Isidlaliso - isidingo okuyinto ungakhetha uma bebona kunesidingo, noma inikeza yayo umphakathi ngokuvumelana izici nokuziphatha kwesiboshwa. A imfundamakhwela kungaba yokwamukela noma yokwenqaba uhlobo izidlaliso ayinhlamba ekuphenduleni "aniwondli" noma okuphambene nalokho, "isiteshi".

Ngokuvamile looking lizwakalise imithetho esingashiwongo, ukuhlukumeza zazo sihlawuliswa ikakhulukazi kanzima. "Hit," futhi empeleni izwi, kulapho saqala, silula. Uma siyobhekana nasekubeni ungamukelwa collective, ukuphuma gaffes equlekile, uma izindlela ezivamile behluleka, iziboshwa ziphoqelelwa ukuba ukuqhuba "indlela yokudala" ukuze siphile, futhi ukuze kulungiswe isimo.

"Non-wendabuko" indlela

1. Ukuze ukumemezela isiteleka indlala ne ukubandakanywa ummeli futhi lapho kusayinwa umthetho-isimemezelo lokho abaphathi, kusukela umshushisi elengamele noma ngaphezulu.

2. Isimangalo izifo kusolakala kabi Kutholwe ezifana nesifo senhliziyo nemithambo yayo, noma okunye okunjalo, okuyokwenza ukuya ngaphansi kokuqondisa udokotela, futhi kwezinye izimo ukunikeza ithuba lokukhululwa. Kodwa nakho ancintisane abantu abanolwazi, benze sengathi izifo ezingajwayelekile, akudingekile: exposure kungenzeka ezibizayo.

3. Kukhona indlela lapho isiboshwa unofficially yazisa umphenyi mayelana izinsolo zakhe ukuthi cellmate wangenzela ngenhloso bephazamisa phezu udumo lwakhe, nokuthi ngomzamo wokuvikela kungabangela nokulimaza oskrobitelyu. Ngokuvamile isinqumo ukubeka lisha evalelwe yedwa. 4. Kungcono ukukhonza isikhathi ekamelweni elincane, lapho mthetho kuyoba omakhelwane, ogama izihloko musa ezihlobene ithuna ikakhulukazi - Abaphangi, avariyschiki. Bese nasenkathazweni kangakanani ukungena endlini, lokuhlala endaweni, nokunye okunjalo, aba maningi amathuba okuba bahlale ongaceli. Kodwa ukuze izinqumo iseli ayinabantu abaningi, okungenani, kubalulekile ukulondoloza inhlonipho ngenxa opera, futhi umhloli ogunyaziwe.

5. Kwezinye izimo, wakwazi ukukhokha off for eningi ukuhlala esitokisini esivamile.

6. "ukubhalisa" ungagwema asebekhulile, egula athi emnyango, okuyinto ukuth ukhokhe "ku seminikelo" futhi zifezeke kangakanani-ke kufanele kube.

Siyini "lokuhlala"?

Uma akuzange kugwemeke ikhamera nezigelekeqe, ukuba "ukubhalisa" futhi uhlale ku izimo ezivamile.

Ekuqaleni, akekho ilungiselelwe lokulimaza saqala, kodwa akekho ngabandayo ukuze onjani umuntu ukukhonza isigwebo sakhe, ukuxhumana futhi uhlanganyele isikhathi eside. Ngakho-ke, ngokomthetho yokuhlala - ukuhlolwa ngesimo imibuzo eyinkimbinkimbi njengendlela esheshayo ukuba afunde cellmate, ukuqonda ukuthi yini ubuhlobo ufanelwe ngokwabo ukuthi.

"Residence imvume" baba uhlobo isiko lapho sicasulwa ukuthatha ezihlukile. Ngakho-ke, saqala kungekho nakho kuzosiza ulwazi kanjani ukungena eqhugwaneni zone. Ngosuku lokuqala ku endaweni lembula okushiwo indoda futhi irrevocably ubeka kuye inhlamba, nakuba ngenhloso yokubhalisa - ukuhlola, hhayi okubi okubangela. Impendulo akudingeki kweqiniso kuphela, kungekho manga uma kutholwa kayikuthethelelwa.

Ngokuvamile, udinga ukuba benze isinqumo ongakhetha ezimbili unwinnable, kodwa impendulo ukuthi ugwema amagugu ethile kungase kube banelisekile nje impela. Izincomo sendlela ufake kahle endlini ezonini, sehliselwe ubulukhuni prinitsipakh futhi emagama izimpendulo Nokho, okuyiwona, uthi indlela zefilosofi.

imibuzo inkanuko lisha

1. Cela ukhetha okukodwa inkambu domino: phezulu ezinhlanu noma eziyisithupha. Ensimini ka iziboshwa EZINHLANU uhambisane umuntu kwehlisa futhi Six - ungumnyundeli. Kodwa uma impendulo ukuthi wakhetha "ikhonco" phakathi emasimini, izimpendulo eziqondile akasoze oniwa. Esingokomfanekiso nalezi imiqondo izinto ngezinye izikhathi ebulalayo, njengoba "okungahleliwe" ithemba izindawo olunezinombolo phezulu eziyisithupha kuphela, noma ukusebenzisa into ukuthi saqala kungaba buya lwa ezingaba isicefe.

2. imibuzo enochuku ne osetshenziselwa ezidinga izimpendulo ngokushesha ngaphandle kokungabaza, lingase libukeke kanje: "Uma ulwandle ngakwesokunene nemihlanu ngakwesobunxele - ehlathini ukuthi ayoyikhetha, ukwehla ngezindiza ezincane?". Ngoba noma yisiphi kukhethwa elinde kushonelwa uyise, kodwa isivuno - kule nguqulo siyachitshiyelwa: "Kuwo wonke ihlathi kukhona evulekile, naselwandle - esiqhingini", nokunye okunjalo.

3. Imibuzo lisikisela impendulo categorical: "Ngabe uzokwenzani uma isimo sokungabi nathemba kuyodingeka abe umama adayise noma bazichaya?". Impendulo: "Umama awuthengiswa, futhi yayo (uma okukhulunywa) wengxenye umzimba akuyona ukufaka endaweni."

Uma "ukubhalisa" ayizange lidlule

Ukuze igcwale yokuhlala ithuba ukuphinda futhi, ngokungafani kuya "kwehlisa", lokuhambisana inhloso yesiko kanye amazwi, ngokuvamile ngokuthulula ibhakede lamanzi. Uma kokubhaliswa nanini aliyeke, lisha amandla sipho ukuze ujoyine 'emihlanu "noma" eziyisithupha ". Lesi simo kungagwenywa, ukuxolisa, ukunikela esikhundleni sokukhokha noma ukuvalelwa ejele.

Abanye bangase bangathandi izigebengu ejele

Ngaphambi kokungena endlini endaweni sokulungiselela yokuthi ejele akafani abadlwenguli, ingane molesters, amadoda alala namadoda.

Uma benza kwaziwe ukuthi isiboshwa ekhashelwa abangane, futhi yingakho babesejele, ukuthi akazange azikhohlwe ukucacisa isilinganiso esifanele.

Sovran ungabheka, futhi uma pop zamanga up, kuvela ukuthi lesi siboshwa wathula mayelana okuqondene kwakhe ukuba "kwehlisa", ehlezi iziboshwa neziphathimandla etafuleni elifanayo, awusebenzi ukuthethelela.

Yini okufanele sigweme

1. Ngaphandle ulwazi imithetho akudingekile zifa bese ngokoqobo ukuqonda noma iziphi iziphakamiso, isibonelo, ukudlala amakhadi "ngoba nje": ungase ukuthole ukubaluleka kweqiniso wendawo okuvela kuyo le nkulumo, bese - esikweletini oluseBhayibhelini ayesanda kuluthola.
2. Kukhona amabinzana athile, futhi kufanele wazi ngaphambi kokungena eqhugwaneni zone, isibonelo, esikhundleni "kungenzeka ukubuza" kufanele ngithi "ngingacela", 'buza' - eziboshweni kuyinto umthunzi okufunekayo umthwalo.
3. Kunconywa ukuba ugweme inhlamba, ishisisa emkhathini kakade nasengqondweni esindayo, bakwazi futhi ibhekwe ambiguously, futhi zonke uzodinga ukuphendula. Promise "ukuze ..." kubhekwa ukweyisa sina lokhu kunezela nokuxhashazwa ngokomzimba. ukuthukwa Siqu ziyavalwa nokuxhashazwa ngokomzimba ejele kungamenza alahlekelwe ukuphila.
4. It is hhayi Kunconywa ukukhangisa kwemisipha amakhono ukulwa - konke lokhu abangelutho ngokumelene umphakathi zeziboshwa.
5. Akunakwenzeka ukukhombisa wokungayifuni izimo zokuphila jikelele - ukumkhafulela phansi futhi kugwenywe ukudideka, konakalisa emoyeni, ngakho, lokho kungenziwa washaywa.
6. Ningathinti izinto zabanye abantu, ngoba kungenzeka ebuzwa.
7. Ngaphambi kokungena eqhugwaneni zone, futhi ngemva kwalokhu, ngeke akwenze ngaphandle nemiqondo eyisisekelo nokuhlanzeka. Awukwazi sidebeselele inhlanzeko yomuntu siqu, lapho kuncike izinga izimpilo nezinye iziboshwa. Waba nezintwala ekhanda - lohlupho izinhlangano ezinjalo, futhi labo abaye ayevelele ngokwabo kule ndaba, izinhlangothi bese ngokoqobo ngokuthi "chortom".
8. Ukukhulumisana kwaqobe nesimiso sokuqondisa kungase kunikeze umuzwa walokho okubizwa ngokuthi "umbiko ulwazi," akufanele uphathwe kabi.
9. Ethi mayelana imiqondo, kude le yokuqonda kwangempela, ingabagulisa izinkinga nalokho kudingeka uqaphe ngokwengeziwe.
10. Umthetho ofanayo kulabo abafisa ukuba ubalekele, luhlala iboshwe.

Indlela ukuchitha isikhathi izinzuzo

Ngaphambi kokungena eqhugwaneni zone, kufanele ucabange yokuchitha isizungu yakho lapho, futhi cishe ukuyisebenzisa kuzobazuzisa - self-ukuthuthukiswa noma yini enye. Emajele amaningi, ukubhema, ukudla futhi hhayi nqampuna umhlabeleli, kodwa uhlala kungenzeka izizinda nsuku zonke noma imisebenzi, kanye nokuqeqeshwa ezimele ngokomzimba. Kunconywa ukuthatha ukuhlanganyela ngenkuthalo izenzakalo, ukuhamba, okugeza, unakekele ngangokunokwenzeka emzimbeni, ungasali kungenzeka eyengeziwe ibanga yokufunda ukuthi kuyakhuthazwa emajele. Uma ejele has a umtapo futhi ifakwe izindawo zabasebenzi - ke kuye kwaba nomphumela omuhle ku psyche futhi ngesivinini ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.