Direct - umuntu kusukela ebuntwaneni?

Ingabe wake ungakhululekile ingane yakho, ubani owayengazishaya buza kakhulu ethi: "Kungani le ntokazi amafutha ngakho?" Noma "Kungani umalume kungekho ikhanda lakhe nezinwele zakhe?" Cishe, yebo. Izingane zithanda ukubheka into ziziphathe, sengathi ayikho imithetho ezibonisa nobuntu imithetho.

Ngenxa yalokho, umuntu ngokwakhe - nguye "enquma iqiniso-isibeletho" ebusweni uthi lokho akucabangayo. Kulungile, kungakhathaliseki imisebenzi enjalo ngqo ezweni lanamuhla? Sizobe ukukhuluma kule post.

Uvela kufika iyashesha

"Sonke babe ngqo kanye" - ibinzana umsindo cishe sad, ngenxa yokuthi vele ukuthi kuncane ngokushesha phakathi abadala. Ebuntwaneni - ngenkathi ukuphupha, ukholo izimangaliso, ukhululeka usho okudingayo nokuvuleka. "Okuqondile" - kuba ingevamile izingane isici kanye okuphakade "kungani" nxazonke asebenzayo imidlalo. Nokho, phawula ukuthi kudala njengoba eziyisishiyagalombili kuya eyishumi ingane ilahlekelwa ubuqotho bakhe. Useqala ithi nabangani bakho, ungathuli, ngisho noma unemibuzo, ukugcina okuthile engqondweni futhi musa ukuveza imizwa yabo. Kungani becabanga kanjalo? elula kakhulu. Abazali, othisha, kanye nazo zonke sizungezwe zonke izinyane ugqozi kuye ukuthi umuntu ngokwakhe - lokhu kubi. Yiba ngobuqotho - kusho ukuthini ukuba ukudelela, luhlaza, okungalungile. Ukuze ngempela okunengqondo futhi kuqondile umbuzo umntwana ungakwazi phusha, ngempama, mtshele ukuthi akathule. Abadala elandisa ingane ukuba qotho, samazisa ukuthi basheshe ukufunda imithetho yaleli zwe. Ngakhoke iyashesha iqedwe ngokuphelele futhi esikhundleni ngokuzenzisa.

Iyashesha e abadala

Njengoba kusho Elena Ermolaeva iletha bafunde nangendlela engokwemvelo - lezi zimfanelo sverhelitarny, futhi bekwazi akubona bonke. Kuyiqiniso. Izwe lethu isifanekiso futhi stereotyped akamthandi nokuvuleka nokwethembeka. Singabantu zemvelo kakhulu ukuba aqambe amanga, uqambe amanga, ukuthi kufanele athule kuka ukuba oqondile. Kokunye, lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi esikoleni ebuntwaneni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, manje bese uyayibona yini imiphumela yalesi iyashesha. Abantu ukuvula uzizwe elula kakhulu, ezingemnandi, cishe esaba futhi ungathandi. Cabanga ukuthi sibhekene khona oyothi lokho esicabanga ukuthi abaphathi bakhe, tescham nonina, othisha, omakhelwane ngisho abazali? Ungacabangi ukuthi wonke amagama kuyoba nokuthuka, kungcono nje imizwelo. Cha, abantu besaba khona iqiniso, kodwa ngoba iningi uncamela ukugcina ngokwayo buthule "e amanikiniki." umuntu ngqo kungenzeka, futhi ujabulele ukuntuleka "esisuseni", kodwa bejabule neze nendlela kusolakala ngabanye.

Yini embi ngalo

Abantu abaningi ukudida iletha nge izinga BackLinks. Uma iyashesha - kungcono zemvelo, akusho lutho olubi maqondana umakhelwane, kube lula ngokweqile, asemngceleni luhlaza - kungcono uhlamvu engeyinhle.

Lezi zimfanelo nzima uhlanganise. umuntu Direct uhlala ngobuqotho, Angizange usicela futhi musa kabi umuntu. Yena akatsheli lady ngokugcwele "ngobuqotho": "Uneminyaka amafutha," kodwa awukwazi ukufihla imicabango yakhe lapho bebuzwa ngakho. abantu ngqo laughing, ukukhala, luziphatha njengoba utshela inhliziyo, hhayi izimo zengqondo nomphakathi. Ham, snapper ngokungagwegwesi kubeka engcupheni izakhamuzi, engatheli yimuphi kubantu ezinhle noma elikhanyayo.

Izinzuzo iyashesha

Ngakho, ukuqonda umqondo, kumele kuphetfwe ukuthi iyashesha ezinjalo. Kodwa kukhona izinga ewusizo? Akukona ubuhlungu ukuqondisa ukuziphatha umuntu maqondana umphakathi wakhe? Cishe wayengeke. Qinisekile, komuzwa wangempela ayikwazi kulimaze noma kuphazamise. Kunalokho, umuntu ezilimaza lapho akakwazi ukusho okusengqondweni yakhe noma inhliziyo. Kumuntu yena - nguye eba, zivalelise nokuba uqobo futhi, ekugcineni, injabulo. Yiba yemvelo futhi ngokushesha.