Inkinga yokukhula ezingabantu

Abesifazane abangoFakazi abayeni babo abadala kunazo amathathu, ngokwezinga elithile ujwayelene nomqondo inkinga yokukhula. Ephila, njengoba uma siye akavumanga ukuthi - emzweni odlulayo futhi umcabango zalabo abazama ukuthethelela ukubhidlika umndeni. Madoda, ukuza inkathi obumbi, kukhona nje abanye abantu. Bangenza isenzo ongaziwa engasafuni ukuchaza ukuziphatha kwabo. Ziyakwazi pay ingasaphathwa ukunakekela kwabafazi babo, abanye bangase bangaqondi ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo, musa uthole incazelo sina izinguquko. Guqula kungaba ezishaqisayo ukuze umkami ngokuqiniseka bangathi: ". Umyeni wami ngeke iphinde ifane futhi - ke kwabonakala zishintshile" Noma ufake ukupela, okungenazinkinga. Ngokujwayelekile, ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi kuphela izizathu kumnandi enjalo kungaba ukukuchazela ukuthi kwenzekani. Uthele amafutha emlilweni nabajwayelene - Bathi, ubudlelwane akusoze ezifana babephambi. Ngeshwa, asikwazi ukusho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi abangane nomakhelwane azilungile. Akekho kungaqinisekisa ukuthi umyeni wami kufanele ibe mnene futhi othanda ngemva kosuku olunqunyiwe. Nokho, akunakwenzeka ukuthi abukho ubudlelwano emndenini futhi kumele kumiswe. Naphezu yinkimbinkimbi isimo, ungacabangi nje ngayo ngesehlukaniso, ukukhathazeka kakhulu. inkinga yokukhula sendoda akumelwe uchithe eminyakeni embalwa yokuphila kwenkosikazi yakhe. Zama ukuphila ngokugcwele ngangokunokwenzeka isithakazelo ukuphila komyeni wakhe, hhayi ukuba ahlupheke futhi ngilihawukele ngokwakho. Ngezinye inombolo ngokwanele enkulu la madoda azwakalisa kakhulu esibucayi, kodwa ukuyinqoba, futhi ngokuyinhloko sibonga omkawo.

Mid-ukuphila crisis - uhlobo mlando, lapho kubalulekile ukuthatha isitokwe kwesikhathi wahlala futhi wenze ukukhetha. Udinga ukukhetha indlela entsha, futhi lokho kufanele kube, indoda namanje akazi ukuthi kungani ukuziphatha kwakhe cishe akunangqondo. inkinga yokukhula ngokuvamile fumana indoda iminyaka engu-35-40, kodwa kwezinye izimo zingase zephuze ngisho isikhathi eside - ukuze ubonise engu-mahlanu. Ngakho, iziphi imiphumela ngokuvamile ezibonakala ngeso lenyama? Iminyaka engamashumi amabili e Lo mfana omncane wabe wanquma ukuba induna iminyaka engu-25. Manje cishe amane, umsebenzi futhi uma kwakukhona, kuncane kakhulu. Umndeni kanye ukuthandana baye eside nobungane. Trouble - wukuthi ingxenye umgomo ungasho ukuthi lezi kwemizwelo futhi bacindezeleke - Ayive imnandi i Epiphany. Nokho, imiphumela yayo akuzona ngempela okufanayo, noma ngisho neze, ezifana ubungenza owesifazane. Unkosikazi ngiphuphe ukuthi ngelinye ilanga indoda uyabona ukuthi akuyona lucky kakhulu ekuphileni - hhayi ukuthi umakhelwane uPetru. Ngemva enjalo umyeni ukuqonda, ngokuvumelana imibono ngumkayo, kumele ngokushesha hit umsebenzi lidlule umakhelwane. Kodwa eqinisweni, umyeni wami ayenzi lutho, kodwa namanje njalo uthukuthele.

Le ndoda ngaphakathi panicking - iphila ngokwengxenye wahlala, kodwa lutho abalulekile akatholakalanga. Isici kokuntengantenga Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi impumelelo yangaphambilini ye indoda uqala kubhekwe iwubala uma kuziwa inkinga yokukhula, kubonakala sengathi yonke into yayifuna phambi - ezingenalutho engenamsebenzi, wayephila yini njengoba asizisoli uqale impilo entsha kamuva. Abesilisa ngaphansi amane ungase uqale ucabange ukuthi siye sanikela isikhathi esiningi nabanye, akhohlwe ngokwabo, ngakho avame ziphonswe maelstrom of nakho ezintsha kanye nemigqondo. Nokho, bavame ngezikhathi ukushintsha cishe yonke into ngaphakathi lo pilo - umsebenzi imvelo, ngezinye izikhathi bezama ukuthola kude nomkhaya. Ngezinye izikhathi futhi kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ihlanganisa ukucindezeleka. Akazange uzibuze uyaphila kuphela izinkumbulo zesikhathi esidlule kanye ecabanga ngabe kuphuma kanjani ndawonye, uma wagcwalisa iphupho ubungqabavu bobusha bakhe.

Kukhona amadoda owacishe kungabonakali kanye nabuhlungu unqobe inhlekelele phakathi ubudala. Psychology iphatha ekutadisheni Lesi sikhathi sokuphila, futhi singasho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi laba bantu impela kancane. Okokuqala, kungenxa ngalabo abaphumelelayo, umatasa ngezinto ozithandayo, ngokuletha imali enhle. Labo kahle ibone amakhono ayo emsebenzini, othile emkhayeni ukuthandana futhi unothando. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo esibucayi ungase uthole kule uhlobo amadoda abangekho enalokho kuthambekela ukuhlaziya ukuphila kwakhe, okuyinto kuphela ukuphila esikhathini samanje. Ngamanye amazwi, obumbi akubonakali labo abenza futhi abangenandaba isikhathi awele ekucabangeni - akukho isikhathi. Laba bantu nobuhlobo obufudumele emkhayeni, kukhona ithemba nokuhloniphana. Yiqiniso, ngeke sikwazi ukusho ukuthi abanye abanayo lezi zimfanelo. Vele izinsalela zabo ezincane yezingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu uthando size sife phansi isisindo ukuphila nenzondo mutual.

Wink yokukhula nkinga ngezindlela eziningi, kodwa kukhona esivamile zonke lezi izimfanelo - indoda ekushintsheni ukuphila wokufika ngenkathi ugcina kude umkakhe.

I okunganambitheki kakhulu sici - ukubukeka lover. Lokhu kwenziwa ukwenza ukukhanya isimiso, okwakhe. Umyeni eside kunokujwayelekile imi esibukweni, uzama ukubheka omncane. Kungaba sina uqale impilo yabo engakwazi ibhekwe lokususa. Le ndoda asiyeki cabanga ngalokho kwakuyoba ukuphila kwakhe, thatha kanye isixazululo ezahlukene. Lokhu kusebenza kukhethwa umsebenzi, indawo yokuhlala, umkakhe. Umyeni wakho kungenzeka avaliwe uma crisis kwaba kulethe isiphi isimo esinzima. Man liyaphenduka eside kuhlelwe izinhlelo umndeni.

Kwakucatshangwa ukuthi zikhona amaphuzu amaningana udinga ukulandela owesifazane e Ngale nkathi enzima yokuba umyeni wakhe.

Okokuqala - ukubekezela, kodwa Tune yokuthi le ndoda isimo ingahlala ngonyaka noma iminyaka emihlanu. Zama uyigcine ngesikhathi esifanayo abacindezela intukuthelo. Okungaphansi ukusongela isehlukaniso uyakhononda afunge. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuzama ukwenza kanjalo ukuthi isikhathi elalihlala phakathi kweminyaka yobudala esibucayi, umyeni wakhe, ayizange ayeka zokuphila kwakho. Ungagxili ezintweni inkinga, indoda bangaze babheke lokho ke isihawu ngisho uqale uku kulo.

... futhi kuzodlula. Kunoma ikuphi, isineke ukuzethemba, abesifazane abathandekayo!