Imishado engavunyelwanga eRussia nakwamanye amazwe

Akuyona imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuthi imishado efanayo yobulili obufanayo ingumqondo owenzeka njalo ngonyaka. Kuze kube manje, emazweni athile abantu abanezinkambo ezingezona zendabuko bangashada, futhi ngokomthetho.

Kwaba yinto ehlazo emphakathini ukuthi abantu bathambekele ekuthandeni futhi babonise ukuzwelana nhlobo kobulili obuhlukile. Kodwa manje lo mbono uwilekile, wonke umuntu uye wajwayele ukuthi umuntu uyisidalwa esingavamile futhi, ngandlela-thile, engavamile. Bonke abakhileyo eMhlabeni abafani, omunye amadoda, ukuthanda owesifazane kubonakala kunhle kakhulu. Kodwa abanye abesilisa bathanda uhlobo lwabo. Imishado yobulili bobulili obufanayo buhlobo phakathi kwabantu noma, ngokuphambene, phakathi kwabesifazane, abangena emthethweni. Kuyinyunyana phakathi kwabantu abanobulili obufanayo.

Nakuba imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo yaqala ukuphethwa nje nje nje emazweni ahlukahlukene, kodwa ekuthiwa ubudlelwane bomphakathi abantu basekudala. Ngokwesibonelo, eDenmark, ngo-1989, kwaqala ukuhlala kwamadoda, kanye nabesifazane. Ngo-1993, imishado yomshado yabanjwa eNorway, ngo-1995 - eSweden. Kodwa emva kuka-2009 kuphela, abantu abanezinkambo ezingezona zendabuko bangajoyina inyunyana ngokomthetho.

Ukukhuluma ngezwe lakithi, imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo e-Russia ayihlonishwa ngokomthetho futhi ayihlinzekwe ngumthetho. Noma kunjalo, umphakathi wanamuhla usaphikisana ngalolu daba. Ngo-2003 bekukhona umzamo wokufaka ubuhlobo bomuntu obufanayo phakathi kwabantu bobulili bobulili obufanayo, emva kwalolu daba, ngisho nakakhulu ukuhlukaniswa. Ekuqapheliseni ukuthi inyunyana ingaba phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, noma phakathi kwabantu abesilisa nabangqingili, ngo-2005 ilungu lomhlangano wephalamende nomhleli-oyinhloko yomagazini owaziwa yi-gay wangena emshadweni okhohlisayo . Kodwa ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, inyunyana enjalo ibhekwa njengengavumelekile, futhi phakathi kwamasonto ambalwa inkantolo yesifunda yenqaba ukukhalaza lesi senzo. Ngo-2009, baphindaphinda umzamo wokubhalisa umshado wabo kowesifazane, kodwa umphumela nawo awuphumelelanga.

Amazwe athuthukile kakhulu kule nkinga yiWestern and Northern Europe. Futhi ezindaweni eziningi imibhangqwana efanayo yocansi ingaba nemigomo efanayo njengobungane bendabuko bendabuko. Okwamanje, kunengxabano eningi ngalesi sihloko, kodwa akekho ovikelekile ukuthi ingane yakhe iyoba "indoda evamile" noma "owesifazane obuthakathaka odinga ukwesekwa kwamadoda". Umuntu ungumuntu oyedwa, ongafani nabanye, asinalo ilungelo lokunquma ukuthi umshado wobulili obufanayo ububi. Phela, ngubani owake wafika nomqondo wokuthi owesifazane kufanele amthande ngempela indoda futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, ubulili obuqinile kufanele bashade nowesifazane obuthakathaka. Kungani konke kushintsha - isayensi, ubuchwepheshe kanye nezinye izigaba zomsebenzi womuntu ziyathuthukiswa, kodwa akufanele kube khona intuthuko ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabantu? Ngokungangabazeki, izingxabano eziphathelene nomshado wobulili obufanayo zizoqhutshwa njalo.

Emazweni amaningi, kwenziwa umzamo wokubhalisa imishado phakathi kwabantu abanobulili obufanayo, lokhu kungase kube yisigwebo esincane futhi esibi, ukuboshwa ejele kanye nesigwebo sokufa.

Kodwa akuzona zonke amazwe ezithandayo abathandi bobulili bobulili obufanayo, ezindaweni eziningi ubungqingili bangaba namalungelo aphelele angena emnyangweni wezomthetho. Yiziphi izimo zomshado? Uthando, inhlonipho nesifiso, ngoba lezi ziqondiso ziwumthombo wokuphila okude nokujabulisayo. Ngandlela-thile, ososayensi abaningi baye bafakazela ukuthi imibhangqwana efanayo yilabo abanobudlelwane obuhle kunazo zonke ezingabonakali ukuhlukaniswa. Emindenini enjalo, izingane zizalwa (ezamukelwa, ezamukelwa noma ezondliwa ngumama ozithandayo), ezihlukile ekuhlakanipheni, ekuhlakanipheni nasezintweni zonke ezihamba phambili ezinganeni ezivela emshadweni ovamile. Ngakho-ke, iRussia kufanele ihlole ubuhle nobuqili ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo esiphikisanayo.