Lo mbhangqwana - umndeni, okufanele nenqaba yabantwana bakwa futhi zizihloniphe nazo ngokwazo

Umphakathi wanamuhla is kude liphumile umphakathi lasekuqaleni. Njengoba okuningi njengoba sasifuna ukukhombisa esithuthuke kabanzana futhi bazivumelanisa ekuphileni kuleli zwe, sisengabangane abantu bathuthela okufanayo imizwa, ukwesaba nakho, futhi ukucabanga. Umehluko kuphela udonga lwangaphandle futhi onolwazi ngaphezulu zamaqiniso angokwesayensi. Kodwa eqinisweni singamakhosi bantu bakudala, eyayizingela mammoth bafike amaphakethe.

Abaningi benu ngeke bakubheka yami ekuphikiseni lo mbono, ucabangela ngokwabo nokuba obonelelayo okuningi. Kodwa uqalaza, ukushintsha kuphela "isithombe". Siyaqhubeka "kukhishwe ama-mammoth," umsebenzi nsuku zonke zokuvakashela. Ngoba "isikhumba", okuyinto angabekwa, siya ezitolo, zisebenzisa isibhamu esikhundleni umkhonto, ukudla wayesalokhu kulungele ngomlilo. Akukho ukuphunyuka, futhi ukuqala umndeni. Nokho, Yiqiniso, le ndoda bakudala kukhona umqondo kancane kwengqondo womshado, wayekuqonda kakade isidingo ukucinga futhi sigcine umbhangqwana. Naphezu ukufana kwamazwi ngenhla, siye saba ngobuchule okuningi, kodwa ngoba elungiselelweni lomshado kumele avikelwe futhi ngcono. Kungani abantu abaningi kangaka ukukhohlwa ngakho, abhubhise ukuphila komkhaya wakhe futhi abathandekayo?

Ngobani abashadayo?

Lo mbhangqwana - indoda nomfazi, okungukuthi, abantu abashadile. A umehluko omkhulu njengoba ukubiza laba bantu akudingeki, ngaphandle ukuthi "Ungumkami," - igama esisemthethweni ngaphezulu, kodwa "umyeni", "umfazi" - yasekhaya. Ezingeni lombuso, kuba indoda nowesifazane abaye ibhaliswe ngokomthetho nobuhlobo babo ngokubhalisela kubo ehhovisi lokubhalisa kanye. Nokho, ngokuvamile abantu le-indoda, inkosikazi (umyeni, unkosikazi), ngemva kweminyaka eminingi ngomshado, khumbula kuphela mayelana ecaleni lomthetho yobuhlobo bawo somshado. Futhi edabukisayo. Ngemva kokuba lo mbhangqwana - akusiwona nje abantu abanale ephepheni tibopho ohambisana namalungelo inalienable. Lena ngokuyinhloko ubuhlobo okuxekethile, okuyinto singenelwe abantu ababili abanothando.

Kungani imishado iphela kangaka nje? Kunengqondo ukuphetha ngokuthi izizathu abalale kwamanzi, indoda nomkhaya ngamunye, ebabheka azulise isandla sakhe bese sithi uyakwazi kakade lokho. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akusho uxwayiswe kuye futhi akavumi ukuba siphinde sicabangele isimo sabo sengqondo. Siphakamisa ukuthi ukufunda kwabo okwengeziwe ngokucophelela, ukuze ngingasebenzisi ukwenza amaphutha, leyo ephindwa izizukulwane ngezizukulwane zabantu.

ngokungaqondi

Kunengqondo ukuphetha ngokuthi isizathu kunalokho banal nento zivame ukunganakwa. Imibhangqwana asivamile ukubonwa nomunye uneminye nemibi. Ngokuvamile kababoni ukuthi - ngokuphelele abantu ezahlukene banemibono akuhambisani empilweni kanye izinhlelo esizayo. Inkulumo ethi "bahlukene ukuheha" ayisebenzi kuzo zonke izimo. Nokho, lapho abangane bomshado babe izithakazelo ezahlukene, ukwenza izinto zokuchitha isizungu, umsebenzi in the end. Khona-ke kukhona njalo nokuthile ongaxoxa ngakho sabelane ngato sisonkhe oyikhethile. Uma omunye ngokomzwelo kakhulu, futhi omunye - sibuyela kwesijwayelekile, kuyokusiza yokuxazulula izingxabano eziningi. Kodwa uma, isibonelo, izinhlelo zakhe ukuze umama ngokushesha ngemva komshado, kodwa akazange acabange ukuthi kudingekile ukuba izingane baze bafinyelele isinyathelo uphezulu esitebhisini umsebenzi, ayemancane kakhulu amathuba okuba i-pair kuyoba nzima ukuze wehlise umoya. Lokhu kumane nje kuyisibonelo esisodwa elincane lokuthi umshado ongahlabeki, futhi eqinisweni Ezimweni ezinjalo nje ungabali.

ukukhuluma ngezinkinga

Kubalulekile ukuba asondele ngokucophelela ukudalwa umndeni kanye nokukhetha umlingani, ukuba angashadi esemncane, futhi sibheke nomunye. Uma kukhethwa usevele wenza, zama ukuxoxa zonke izingxabano futhi uthole ukusilela, ke kumelwe aphume uma ukwazisa omunye oyikhethile. Ungakhohlwa nje ukukhuluma futhi balandise ngezinto ezenzeka kubo, ngoba ngokungaqondi ngokuvamile yakha zokungazimiseli banal ukuba bahlanganyele inkhulumomphendvulwano. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi unkosikazi - iyona eceleni komunye abantu. Basuke wezwa ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Izingane owakwakhe, abangane bomshado izingane

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi umshado akuphelele uma umbhangqwana akudingeki izingane. Nokho, kwezinye izimo, ukuba nezingane kungaba kuphela kulimaze ubudlelwane phakathi kwesibambisene nabo. Ngokwesibonelo, omunye angase nje ungakulungele ngokwenqondo ukuzalwa kwengane. Izikhathi lapho imishado yenziwa iminyaka engu-18, no-20 nginezingane, noma umphakathi waqala ukubheka askance ngesikhathi, gone. Kuleli zwe lanamuhla, wonke umuntu ethatha isinqumo unolwazi kakhulu. Enye inkinga kungenzeka, futhi kahle ngokwezimali. Ukukhulisa ingane kuyinto eqolo, umndeni inhlalakahle kungaba "ukudla", njengoba besho, ukuphila. Umkhaya (umyeni, unkosikazi) kufanele bakulungele for the izingane kokubili ngokokuziphatha futhi ngokwezimali. Kungenjalo, abalingani akakwazi ukubhekana yawela umfula izinkinga zabo. Nokho, ukungezwani ungenza hhayi kuphela abantwana owakwakhe. Abashade nezingane lingqubuzana emkhayeni, ngoba nge amalunga akhethwe izingane zakho nakho kubalulekile yokuthola ulimi olulodwa.

Umkhaya - kuyinto inqaba

Izimbangela ezifana ukungathembeki noma ukungabi ukwehluka empilweni ngokobulili, siye njengenkulumo, njengoba lezi zinkinga phezu, futhi lapha Konke kuncike okukhethayo ngokuqondile, futhi hhayi kusukela isimo samanje. Kunoma ikuphi kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi unkosikazi - sitholakala nomunye abantu njalo kudingeka ukuba isikhuthazo nokusekelwa. Uma nganoma isiphi isizathu ungazizwa isidingo ngempela ucabangele yini noma cha ukuze silondoloze ubuhlobo obunjalo.