Iyini umshado ogqoka?

Ingubo yomshado iyiphupho eliqhakazile lazo zonke izintombi. Kakade kusukela enkulisa yobudala uzinikeza yona - enhle, njengendlovukazi yenkosikazi, i-airy, ne-corset yama-lace kanye neziketi zezindiza, ezihlotshiswe ngezimbali namabhande. Ngakho-ke, akumangalisi uma ingubo yomshado iphupha umlobokazi wangempela, ubuchopho buqhubeka nomsebenzi wabo ebusuku, futhi imizamo yangaphambi kweholide ibonakala ngamaphupho. Kubi uma umlobokazi esebenza ephusheni esebenza ngendwangu yokugqoka, aguquke, ahlobise. Lokhu kungase kube uphawu lokuthi umshado ngeke kwenzeke. Kudingekile ukuzama ukuvuka ungacacisi umkhosi ozayo, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi konke kuyoba kuhle. Ukuzama ingubo yomshado ephusheni kusho ukungahambisani nokubekezela.

Ingubo yomshado ibonakala kanjani uma lo mshado ungahlelwa esikhathini esizayo esiseduze? Iphupho elinjalo kubo bobabili besifazane nabesilisa kusho ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini yezenhlalakahle, ukujwayela nobungane nabantu abasha.

Ingubo yomshado engcolile, ephukile, engcolile ingaphupha njengesixwayiso mayelana nokuhlukana nomuntu othandekayo. Uma ephusheni ingubo igcwele udaka emehlweni akho, kuba mnyama, kufanele ulindele izinkinga ezinkulu noma ukugula okude kuwe noma othandekayo bakho

Ake sizame ukuchaza lokho izingubo zomshado ezigqoke umama womakoti. Njengoba umshado wendodakazi kuyisenzakalo esijabulisayo, ingubo noma ngisho nabambalwa kungabonakala njengesibonakaliso senguquko ukuze kube ngcono, ukuzinza nenhlalakahle emndenini kanye nezihlobo eziseduze.

Ukubona intombazane egqoka ingubo yomshado ephusheni kusho ukuthi umuntu uyakunona ngasese futhi ufuna izinkinga. Uma ephusheni ubona ufakazi (umngane) emshadweni wakho, othile uhlele i-villainy ngokumelene nawe.

Kungani uphupha mayelana nokuzama ngengubo yomshado? Iphupho lihle kuzo zonke izici, ngokuvamile libikezela ukuvela kwamathuba okuthola imali eyengeziwe ngaphezu kokuyisisekelo, umsebenzi olula oletha imali engenayo.

Umshini womshado wezimpawu obomvu ukuthi akuyona yonke into ephephile empilweni esondelene nayo, futhi lesi simo sidinga izinguquko. Cishe, udinga ukukhuluma ngalokhu nomlingani wakho. Umgcobo womshado omnyama uthembisa izinkinga zesikhathi esizayo.

Kungani umshado ugqoka abesifazane abashadile? Abashadile bangakwazi ukugqoka izingubo ezinjalo ngaphambi kokuxabana komndeni noma ngisho nokuhlukanisa.

Uma uzibona esembathweni somshado, udla etafuleni lokugcoba, lokhu kuyathembisa inhlanhla kuyo yonke imisebenzi yokuphila, ngaphandle kwempilo yomndeni. Kulesi simo, umuntu akumele athembele emshadweni omude, uthando luzohlala lufushane.

Isambatho somshado, sigqoke iphupho okwesibili, sixwayisa ngengozi esongelayo. Kungani umshado ugqoka lapho kukhona indawo enhle? Iphupho elinjalo libonisa ukuthi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabashadayo besikhathi esizayo abukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi buvulekile futhi buyimfihlo, okungenani oyedwa ufihle okuthile kusuka okhethiweyo wakhe noma okhethiweyo wakhe.

Ukulahlekelwa ingubo yomshado ephusheni ukulahlekelwa inhlonipho kwabanye. Indwangu emifushane isho isimo sebhizinisi esingakaqiniseki, ukwehluleka kwebhizinisi. Zibone ngokwakho ukugqoka, ezihlotshiswe ngezindwangu zegolide - empilweni ephumelelayo futhi ejabulisayo, ingcebo nokuchuma.

Encwadini yokuphupha yeSigmund Freud, ingubo yomshado ihlotshaniswa nobuqili besifazane. Uma ephusheni owesifazane uzikhanyela phambi kwabanye abantu ngesembatho sakhe, khona-ke uzibheka njengenqunu njengenhle kakhulu. Ukuzicabangela esibukweni kusho isifiso sokwanelisa. Kungani ukugqoka komshado, okupakishwe kwi-suitcase noma ephonswe ekamelweni, akukhathele noma kakade kuqedwe? Ngokusho kukaFreud, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokungajabuli nomlingani nomndeni womndeni ngokujwayelekile.

Hlaziya, cabanga ukuthi ingabe iphupho lingasho ukuthini, kodwa ungathinti ukubaluleka kokubalulekile.